smint Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 THE BASICS: -I am 26,my ex is 28,we dated for 6 years,and needed one whole year to first kiss -he was my first boyfriend -my family took him as a part of our family -we were travelling together,we had same friends,we were happy -and on 12th March this year,he just told me"I don't love you anymore"(by the phone) -I was chasing him for 5 weeks,while he treated me like a crap,blaming me for some stupid reasons,for some things I don't even remember(to justify himself),he just threw me out of life,and it was like"I have power,I am making decision for you,and you are nothing",while I was begging and crying... -I came 2 times to his door,1st time he slammed the door to my face,but later let me in but acting so cruel,and 2nd time it was"haven't I told you that I don't want you in my life anymore,if you come once again,I am not going to let you in" -later he was selling me"friends story",but every time I tried to reach to him,he just ignored me -in my head was Hiroshima -later I heard from friends that he is already dating one girl from other town he met on some course...on 12th March he left me,and in April they were already together,on his Bday in front of all our common friends???We needed 1 whole year and one month just to kiss,and he threw away 6 years or relationship just like that!!!AND I WAS LEFT BECAUSE OF SOMEONE ELSE NEW IN HIS LIFE!!! How the hell can someone just check out and swim in something new just like that!!!He hasn't even turned around for me!!!And what is the worst,we met one day(because my friends told him that it is fair to at least to talk with me),he was so proud because of that girl,he acted like he is Don Juan,like it's not him anymore!!! Then I stopped every contact with him,but I received few mails with jokes from him,then on Facebook he liked my picture,and sent me message what's up(then I blocked him),and he also sent me txt msg"what's up,how R U",and his signals really upset me. But I still haven't got rid of his pictures and love letters he was writing me!!!I was dusting today and I found few of them,it is destroying me just to look to them,not even to read them...I MISS HIM SO MUCH!!! I still can't believe what he has put me through!!! P.S.I heard that his new fling is using him to drive her everywhere,and his parents are desperate,he has fights with parents,because she is form other town,she has a child,she is divorced,has no job,no school,and actually she is looking for father for her child.Who knows.
Chi townD Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 Oh well! That's what he decided was best for him! Lets face it. He was cheating on you. Yeah, you could say that you were broken up for a month before he "offically" started to date her. But, here's the thing. You don't jump into a relationship with someone that quickly without something being there in the first place. You need to stay away from that douche rocket. Everytime you start having feelings of missing him. I want to to think back to the time you went to see him; when you felt weak, sad and vulnerable and he SLAMMED the door in your face!!! That's what he thought of you. That's what he did to you. And do you know what? You deserve sooooo much better than a guy that would put you out so rudely. Complete NC. And start to get your revenge! The best revenge you can have is to lead a damn good life! Go out and get a new hairstyle, and style that people will notice on you and like. Buy some new clothes. This will help with your self esteem. Go get a makeover! Then start to take some classes keep your mind on schoolwork and not what the douche rocket is doing. Plus it will help you financially and you can score a better job with better pay. You can buy a new home with a nice ride. Get a membership to a gym and start to push weight and run your ass off on the treadmill and take some classes, spin classes or Zumba. This will help work off the stress and frustrations you have. PLUS! You'll have a smokin hot new and sexy bod! Find a new hobby, join a cycling club, or a hiking club. Meet new people, get out there! Then finally, TRAVEL!!! Get out of familar surroundings and out of your comfort zone. There's a big world out there. Go see it! Have an adventure! I know that there's a place that you've always wanted to visit. Grab a girlfriend, make a plan, save your money and GO!!! Have something to look forward to! If you do these things, I promise you. You'll love your new life and the douche rocket will be nothing more than a memory in your past. 3
LvRorynVan Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 Im going through the same damn thing, only I have 2 kids with the guy. I dont think hes seeing anybody else..but who the he** knows! It kills me to think of him touching another woman. I still dont want to face that this is really happening after 8 years. People always seem to think the GRASS WILL BE GREENER. Pretty stupid to me.. 1
Author smint Posted August 1, 2012 Author Posted August 1, 2012 Chi townD,you cheered me I did it all,I went to trip in July,I met new people,I lost wight,I changed my hair style,I work out,I did all exams,and it's been almost 5 months since he left me,I even dated one jerk for month and it was disaster,and it is just coming out of nowhere,it strikes me again,and it is stronger then me sometimes(like today)... LvRorynVan,I can imagine how you feel,and two kids my God...I will never get to understand how can someone just like that change life,and everything that we were building together...And don't tell me about them being with someone else,the fact that he is with someone else is killing me!And I know that he is with her,he was so proud about her in front of me,imagine that!!!
Chi townD Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 Chi townD,you cheered me I did it all,I went to trip in July,I met new people,I lost wight,I changed my hair style,I work out,I did all exams,and it's been almost 5 months since he left me,I even dated one jerk for month and it was disaster,and it is just coming out of nowhere,it strikes me again,and it is stronger then me sometimes(like today)... Good for you! Now, don't stop! Keep going with those self improvements. And don't worry about dating. Date when it feels right to you. If you're not ready, then your not being fair to yourself or the guy that you would date. I think it would be nice of you knowing that your capable to give 100% to your new relationship. I am a firm believer that there is a guy out there for you. Someone that is your better half and that you will be able to trust him with your heart and you'll be anxiously waiting for the day that he asks you to be his wife. He's out there....and he's looking for you; he just hasn't found you yet. So, put yourself out there. Take the leap and engage the world! Make it easier for him to find you. 1
Author smint Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 Chi townD how nice you wrote it!!! Thanks a lot,really!!! I believe that there is someone for me,there must be!!! But what I will never understand is how someone can forget everything just like that,to shut down everything,we were growing up together,we knew how each other breaths,I would give my hand in fire for him,and he betrayed me just like that,that hurts so much.
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