FrostFire Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 (edited) I am trying so hard not to think about the distance me and my girlfriend have right now temporarily. She is out of state at a dig sight right now due to her college career. While I do have a career in transportation which has me not always home I do make every point to contact my girlfriend of 2 1/4 years at least a few times a day. However, where she is at there is NO cell-phone reception and she is going to be away for a month. I have to say this is the longest she has ever been away in our relationship thus far and I can't say enough how frustrating it is not to be able to contact one another. I'm sure she feels the same but then again I don't know what she feels as it looks to be our time to talk won't even happen until she gets back. If I'm lucky maybe I'll hear from her on the weekends. But, right now I am on day 3 of 30 and am already going crazy with no texts since Day 1. She said she would try texting me yesterday (on day 1 when she was driving out) but it never happened. This lack of not really being able to stay in touch while she is out of state is going to be very hard for me. I am desperate for any advice you can give to help me through this temporary frustrating period of my relationship so I don't do anything stupid or jump to silly conclusions to ruin it for us. I have tried reading a book, busying myself by playing my piano, doing stuff for myself, etc... but at the end of the day my mind goes back into. "Another day of NOTHING from her." Excuse is, no cell-phone reception (which is SOOOOOOOO frustrating) Edited August 1, 2012 by FrostFire
amayana Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 I am trying so hard not to think about the distance me and my girlfriend have right now temporarily. She is out of state at a dig sight right now due to her college career. While I do have a career in transportation which has me not always home I do make every point to contact my girlfriend of 2 1/4 years at least a few times a day. However, where she is at there is NO cell-phone reception and she is going to be away for a month. I have to say this is the longest she has ever been away in our relationship thus far and I can't say enough how frustrating it is not to be able to contact one another. I'm sure she feels the same but then again I don't know what she feels as it looks to be our time to talk won't even happen until she gets back. If I'm lucky maybe I'll hear from her on the weekends. But, right now I am on day 3 of 30 and am already going crazy with no texts since Day 1. She said she would try texting me yesterday (on day 1 when she was driving out) but it never happened. This lack of not really being able to stay in touch while she is out of state is going to be very hard for me. I am desperate for any advice you can give to help me through this temporary frustrating period of my relationship so I don't do anything stupid or jump to silly conclusions to ruin it for us. I have tried reading a book, busying myself by playing my piano, doing stuff for myself, etc... but at the end of the day my mind goes back into. "Another day of NOTHING from her." Excuse is, no cell-phone reception (which is SOOOOOOOO frustrating) Hi there! Wow, that must be really awful not to be able to call/text your girlfriend for such a long time. Is there at least a post office close to the dig site she's at at the moment? You could send each other letters! It's a slow process but it's better than nothing. What about some old phone booth? Or maybe some sort of internet connection?? It would've been good finding out about this before she left though... My BF's in Alaska atm and phone reception is not a given thing. We also have a 10hr time difference now, which is also not great. The few texts he's able to send me, don't satisfy me greatly and it often leaves me depressed not being able to talk to him. Keep yourself as busy as you possibly can. Do the things you always wanted to do but thought you didn't have the time or opportunity to do. You may want to keep a journal if you feel like writing down your thoughts and feelings about the whole thing. Keep in mind that you being miserable does not make her come back to you quicker. It doesn't help her, it doesn't help you and it surely doesn't help your relationship. You should also keep in mind that she probably feels the same way as you! I'm sure she misses you a lot and would love to text you and let you know that she's fine. The first days are bad, it will probably get worse after a week but you will survive
Author FrostFire Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 (edited) Hi there! Wow, that must be really awful not to be able to call/text your girlfriend for such a long time. Is there at least a post office close to the dig site she's at at the moment? You could send each other letters! It's a slow process but it's better than nothing. What about some old phone booth? Or maybe some sort of internet connection?? It would've been good finding out about this before she left though... My BF's in Alaska atm and phone reception is not a given thing. We also have a 10hr time difference now, which is also not great. The few texts he's able to send me, don't satisfy me greatly and it often leaves me depressed not being able to talk to him. Keep yourself as busy as you possibly can. Do the things you always wanted to do but thought you didn't have the time or opportunity to do. You may want to keep a journal if you feel like writing down your thoughts and feelings about the whole thing. Keep in mind that you being miserable does not make her come back to you quicker. It doesn't help her, it doesn't help you and it surely doesn't help your relationship. You should also keep in mind that she probably feels the same way as you! I'm sure she misses you a lot and would love to text you and let you know that she's fine. The first days are bad, it will probably get worse after a week but you will survive Nope it's an expedition with a museum. They drive out in the state's vans & go set up a tent out in the middle of no where and then search for fossils for a month. They are out in the middle of no where with no cell phone reception, no internet signal, no post office, nothing nodda. All's I know is she is supposed to be going in town in the weekend to clean up and do shopping and that's going to probably be the only time I will be able to hear from her. It totally sucks... I am doing my best to keep busy but that is easier said than done. Right now I don't have a car due to paying off some debt and that was hindering me from doing that. So going the places I would like to go are out of the question. I don't have that many friends again due to being embarrassed and/or a burden to them for not having a car at the age of 26. :\ Doesn't seem right for a guy not to have a car at that age. I could go walking but most of the time that is what me and my girlfriend did a lot of together so it just makes me sadder because it brings her back into my mind. I have tried writing journals but that did me more harm than good. It frustrated me more actually. I guess I have some thinking to do. Do I really want this type of life periodically. I mean if this is her career than I'm pretty sure there are more of these days ahead of me in the coming years. I feel really weak that I cannot sit here and be strong for my girl. I'm a guy I shouldn't be so anxious and weak like this. :\ I mean I want to be the guy that is supportive of my girlfriend's career but she knows when she goes in the field that there is such limited contact. Why she is okay with this is beyond me. I'm left to sit here and assume the single life pretty much. I would be fine if I could hear from her at least once a day but no contact is almost like not even having a relationship. Any more suggestions/encouragement?? Edited August 2, 2012 by FrostFire
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