I can't stop thinking about him.

[Ephemera]

I'm in a bit(okay, that is an understatement) of a pickle.

So basically, for this we'll refer to him as Sam.

 

Sam and I have known each other since I was seven. I'm seventeen now and he's eighteen in a week. So, Sam and I didn't really get along for a while. And I went out with Sam's brother a few years ago(but him and I just sort of call it two friends that liked each other because nothing happened). Anyway, about five months ago, Sam and I started talking, because he comforted me after his friend broke up with me. I was surprised and felt awful because of how I used to treat Sam many years back, but he said that he never thought of me negatively at all.

 

I soon became attracted to Sam and we flirted until we stopped talking for a month because of exams. By the time we started talking, I had found out he had got a girlfriend. I wasn't really affected by this because my feelings for him had weakened due to the lack of contact. During the same conversation, he had mentioned how his girlfriend was eager to have sex with him, and how he wanted to wait until he was eighteen(not because it's legal at 18, in the UK it's legal at 16) because of college. We jokingly talked about sex and then he asked me to delete the whole conversation him and I had, for reasons I do not know, because he refuses to tell me, although he did imply that there wasn't a good reason. A few weeks later, I went to the local swimming pool when I saw a group of guys talking about him, and then mentioning my name. I asked Sam how they knew me and he didn't know, also mentioning that he's not really friends with them, and then he started flirting with me until I mentioned his girlfriend, to which he said 'I'm kind of cheating on her by hitting on you like this, aren't I? :/ I'm really sorry.' I knew he felt bad so I quickly changed the subject and said goodnight to him. He replied with 'night bubba:3' and I ended the chat.

 

After another period of not being in contact with him for a bit, he complimented my profile picture and asked me about a boy I liked some time ago. I revealed that I didn't like said guy anymore, and then Sam replied with 'Do you find Mia's boyfriend attractive?' I said no, and mentioned that I did find someone else attractive. He asked who, and I said him. He asked me if I was being serious, to which I said yes. He then announced that he found me extremely attractive and that him and his girlfriend broke up a month before, to my surprise. Nothing really happened after that until a friend of mine suggested that him and I date. He then privately said to me that he's not over his ex and that he likes me, but he doesn't think of me as a rebound, and that it wouldn't be fair on me if him and I entered a relationship where he still had feelings for someone else(his words, not mine). I was crushed and didn't talk to him for two weeks to clear the air.

 

After that, another friend of mine(he didn't know her) messaged him on Facebook, asking him if him and his girlfriend were back together, because there were rumours going around that they were. Sam texted me asking me what happened and I apologised saying I was upset. He then asked me why I was upset, and I said it didn't matter. Then he asked me if it was because of his ex, to which I admitted that it was. He told me not to worry.

 

A week later, it was my birthday, and my friends and I went out clubbing. There was a boy that looked exactly like Sam at the club. Finding it slightly funny, I told Sam and he asked me if I spoke to him, before wishing me a Happy Birthday. He then saw the photos my friend uploaded from the night, and said that I looked 'beautiful' in them. As it was late, the conversation soon ended, with him saying 'I've been in bed trying to get to sleep for the past hour now, night you sexy thing.' He often calls me nicknames like 'bubs' and 'bubba', which probably don't mean anything, but it's strange because I'm the only person he calls by those nicknames.

 

Bottom line is, I cannot stop thinking about him, and whether he may have feelings for me or not, or if this is his way of saying that he wants to be in a relationship with me. I'm so confused.

[FireCadets]

if you like him tell him out front, if he really likes you he'll understand. i have the same problem and told my crush and he didnt mind he was ok with it. if u really like him ask him out its not wrong for the girl to ask the guy out dont worry just be prepared for anything.