cbplayer Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 my gf of one year told me that she sees me as more of a friend now. The romantic feelings died but not entirely. she broke up with me.She said she has to figure her life out and has a lot of stress. Also I insinuated that I wouldnt be her friend and then she said that she wouldnt rule out us being together when she figures out her feelings. I wanna add that I did plead a little bit but I soon stopped ( the same day of the break up) and told her we'll have things her away. So far I've kept busy but I still have the lingering desire to be with her. I've gone 3 weeks of NC. Can our relationship be salvaged? Has anyone gone through something like this and ended up keeping the girl?
whichwayisup Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 Sorry but when a woman says she's lost the romantic feelings (aka sexual feelings) for her boyfriend and says she wants to be just friends, it ain't gonna happen.. What you shared with her is over. And good for you for letting her know no friendship. Even hinting at it is helpful for you. It's impossible to be friends with an ex so soon after a break up. The only way that can happen is when both people don't have romantic feelings and attachment to one another. Even then, there's no guarantee a friendship could exist and be healthy.
Author cbplayer Posted August 1, 2012 Author Posted August 1, 2012 Idk, I thought that nc/moving often does wonders in bring an ex back
Author cbplayer Posted August 1, 2012 Author Posted August 1, 2012 Sorry but when a woman says she's lost the romantic feelings (aka sexual feelings) for her boyfriend and says she wants to be just friends, it ain't gonna happen.. What you shared with her is over. And good for you for letting her know no friendship. Even hinting at it is helpful for you. It's impossible to be friends with an ex so soon after a break up. The only way that can happen is when both people don't have romantic feelings and attachment to one another. Even then, there's no guarantee a friendship could exist and be healthy. I'm not discounting anything you're saying but hear me out. This confuses me. Often times I get mixed reviews. Like some ppl will say " she lost feelings so the relationship cannot be salvaged" and some ppl will say " be scarce in her life and move on and become more attractive ( new haircut, better body, more indifference towards her, high social status, and success) then re-enter her life and spit game and after a while she'll mostly likely be interested again. So, basically idk what to think. Can you clear things up for me?
Spetsnaz Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 can it be salvaged? yes, of course it can, anything can be. but is it upto you, no. that's all true, but its not new clothes etc, its being happy, be happy for yourself, if she comes back, take it slow, dont open up to her - personally i would say no if she came back, i assume no kids involved? if so, let it go and move on, so you dont end up on here in a year.
not-a-drive-by Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 Sorry but when a woman says she's lost the romantic feelings (aka sexual feelings) for her boyfriend and says she wants to be just friends, it ain't gonna happen.. Is it a point of no return for guys as well, if they have lost feelings?
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