Seeya99 Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 Long story short, 13 years married with kids. Wife has tried to leave me before. She was sextexting more that one guy. All guys she never met before. Found them on Internet. When I found out I confronted her. That when she said she was leaving me. I begged and got her to stay and go to counseling. After about 2 sessions she change for the good. Fast forward 3 years and out of blue, she is unhappy with me again. Want to leave. During the first argument. I brought the d word out and she has ran with it ever since. I started to think something was up and and sure enough she was texting and having phone calls block. Found some evidence for saying I love you to this guy. I confronted her and she says it is nothing. Just teasing an old high school friend. Now she acts like she might be willing to let me fix things. If she agrees to try one last time should I? I don't believe she has had a physical affair yet.
StrangeBehaviors Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 Play it like a women that I've seen in similar situations. Play it cool. Do what you have to do to keep her around. All the while, hire a Private Investigator to follow her, start getting photos, phone records, text records, & whatever else. Then file for divorce and nail her azz to the wall. Else you're gonna' spend your whole life begging, watching over her shoulder, worrying, and putting a band-aid on a marriage that she is wounding. Want to do that?
zanzi Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 a private investigator? Sounds like a lot of effort on a woman who just isnt worth it.
StrangeBehaviors Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 a private investigator? Sounds like a lot of effort on a woman who just isnt worth it. 100% wrong. He has been married for 13 years and has kids. His wife is choosing to do everything to destroy this. A private investigator is exactly what he needs to protect his assets and custody as he has shown to be the more responsible person. She is not worth it. He and the children are.
whichwayisup Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 Tell her to pack a suitcase and go...But the kids stay with you in the house. Make sure she knows that if she chooses to go out that door she isn't coming back. Call her bluff - Even if you don't divorce, allowing her to think you will, might scare her enough to make her stop and think about what she is going to lose. You, the kids, the house, the family unit as one. Loss of respect from her family and your family, her inlaws. Some friends, some neighbours etc.. She isn't think consquences at all. She's in a fog. So, let her go and experience life without you. I doubt it'll last a week before she realizes wtf she's done. 1
zanzi Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 ok, ok. My never been married (thankfully) opinion is all that was.
whichwayisup Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 Your wife has no intention of changing right now because she doesn't think she's doing anything wrong. She needs to suffer consquences and fallout before she wakes up. Only then you'll see real remorse and desire to fix things. You love her and want the marriage to work..Right now it can't be that way because she isn't thinking of anybody but herself. So you need to be the tough guy, put your foot down and stop allowing her to walk all over you and call the shots. YOU call the shots. Either she ends it with this guy and stops her flirting and sexting behaviour or she is out and can find her own place so then she can do as she pleases. 1
zanzi Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 I agree, I like your thinking, whichwayisup. shock treatment eh.
whichwayisup Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 Partially yes..And the other big part is, he regains control and has a say of what happens next. If she doesn't like his rules and how things are going to be, she can move out. It's that simple!
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