Lonely Ronin Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 I've wondered into uncharted territory, and would like to here what people think. This past Friday I was hanging out with friends, and some girls who are friends of my friend joined up part way through the night. I was pretty attracted to one of them, and spent some time talking with her, and she showed significant interest in me. At the end of the night I went home with her number, feeling pretty good, the next morning things got weird. I got a text from my friend saying her (the girl I'm interested in) best friend was also interested in me. I showed no interest in her the night before, I talked with her some, but I was by no means flirting with her. My friend also said the girl I'm interested in knows her bf is interested. I called her Friday night to see about setting up a date, unfortunately she has some previous plans. What I don't understand is what she came back with as an alternative. She suggested I hang out with her and her bf when they go boating this weekend. I was kind of flabbergasted by her suggestion, and said I would let her know later in the week. Ladies, why on earth would you suggest something like this?
USMCHokie Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 I'd just like to clarify..."bf" in your scenario is "best friend" and not "boyfriend," right...?
Author Lonely Ronin Posted August 1, 2012 Author Posted August 1, 2012 lol, yes... I'd just like to clarify..."bf" in your scenario is "best friend" and not "boyfriend," right...?
chphan Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 The girl that you are interested in isn't interested in you but she's setting it up so that her best friend can get a chance with you. LOL. In other words she's passing the buck (You) to her best friend but using herself as bait for the set up. LOL. 1
veggirl Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 Does she know her bff liked you too? could be that she has no idea and is using the boating thing as just an ice breaker, a way to get to know you with no pressure. awkward!!
Author Lonely Ronin Posted August 1, 2012 Author Posted August 1, 2012 The girl that you are interested in isn't interested in you but she's setting it up so that her best friend can get a chance with you. LOL. I'm pretty sure that's not the case based are interaction Friday night, and what I know of her personality. Does she know her bff liked you too? could be that she has no idea and is using the boating thing as just an ice breaker, a way to get to know you with no pressure. awkward!! My friend told me that she told him her friend was interested. The entire thing seems a little odd to me. I know she has been played before, so I'm almost wondering if I'm being tested or something like that.
chphan Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 I'm pretty sure that's not the case based are interaction Friday night, and what I know of her personality. You may have read it wrong. Girls are funny like that. They can and will even flirt with guys that they aren't interested in. Just their nature.
StrangeBehaviors Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 I'm so f#@king confused reading this. So I'll just make a general statement to live by: Get you some if you can. Whoever is interested.
Radu Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 The girl that you are interested in isn't interested in you but she's setting it up so that her best friend can get a chance with you. LOL. In other words she's passing the buck (You) to her best friend but using herself as bait for the set up. LOL. This, it's a bait and switch. Off-course they won't come out and actually say it.
Author Lonely Ronin Posted August 1, 2012 Author Posted August 1, 2012 This, it's a bait and switch. Off-course they won't come out and actually say it. I don't think this is the case, as I don't get that kind of vibe from either of them. However, if it is the case they are both going to be disappointed, because I want nothing to do with childish games.
iris219 Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 Set up an actual date with the one you're interested in, just the two of you. I wouldn't hang out with both of them, not this early. I can't imagine hanging out with a guy I'd like to date and his best friend who has a crush on me. Awkward! I wouldn't want to be responsible for messing up a friendship, either.
Author Lonely Ronin Posted August 1, 2012 Author Posted August 1, 2012 Set up an actual date with the one you're interested in, just the two of you. I think I'll try that later in the week. The entire situation has left a bad taste in my mouth, so I still might decide to pass on both of them.
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