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Being who I was before we started dating?


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I would like some clarification here. General advice is to not be my ex's emotional crutch considering she dumped me. With that said, I would assume that emotional support factored into people initially becoming attracted to each other. In my case, she liked that I was sweet, caring, and nice, not only to her, but to other people. With that said, she was definitely attracted to how I treated her emotionally before we started dating. If that's the case, then how would I be able to be myself like the way I was before we were dating if I can't be "emotional" around her?

 

We're in NC at the moment. I don't intend on breaking it at the moment. If I'm still interested after I've completely moved on, then I'll go LC. That's what this question is for.

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With that said, she was definitely attracted to how I treated her emotionally before we started dating. If that's the case, then how would I be able to be myself like the way I was before we were dating if I can't be "emotional" around her?

 

Don't focus on her! Focus on you, and all the other people around you. Love on the people around you (being kind, sweet, generous) and that'll show through. It'll help you get some of your confidence back, make your friendships stronger, and maybe attract someone else.

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I never said I'm not focusing on myself lol. Otherwise, I wouldn't be doing NC. I just want to clarify conflicting consensuses.

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