Canadian731 Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/337730-2-months-since-break-up-1-month-no-contact Here is the backstory to this, basically me and my ex broke up 2 months ago because we weren't working well as a couple and she went and kissed another guy, I was pretty broken to say the least and now I'm finally getting over it. Today is my birthday (happy birthday to me) I get the usual people postin on my fb wall wishing me a happy birthday, get home from playing baseball with my little brother and find that she sent me a private message saying "Hey, I just wanted to wish you a happy birthday! I hope school is going well for you, too" this wouldn't be too weird for me but the last time we talked she told me that she needed space that I wasn't given her and if I contacted her anymore that I would have to face rash consequences. Basically I'm not sure what to do here, do I say thanks and that school is going well? Do I just not reply and delete the message? It wouldn't be so bad if she wrote it on my wall but she sent it as a private message so this confuses me. Any help would be appreciated, thanks
SoConfusedAndInShock Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 LS fam would prob say "don't read too much into it" or maybe this was her excuse to make contact but either way HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU lol
YorickBrown Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 Yeah, exactly. Don't read much into it. And, Happy Birthday! I hope the the day goes great for you. Personally, I wouldn't delete it, but I wouldn't reply to it either. If you really cant stop the urge to reply, maybe you could just do a generic "Thanks to everyone who greeted" on your FB wall.
steelgator Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 I bet if you wait a couple weeks she'll message you again. If you make it seem like you are over her she'll freak
whichwayisup Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 Do NOT reply. She didn't say 'hey, lets get together to talk, go for coffee' nothing and no mention of getting back together. She wished you happy birthday and asked about school. She friend zoned you on her terms. She is no friend right now. Far from it. Screw that. She hurt your heart. She told you to leave her alone and if you contacted her there would be "rash" consquences!! WTF is that? So, don't answer her. If she contacts you again the future, YOU tell her to please stop contacting you.
Author Canadian731 Posted August 1, 2012 Author Posted August 1, 2012 Do NOT reply. She didn't say 'hey, lets get together to talk, go for coffee' nothing and no mention of getting back together. She wished you happy birthday and asked about school. She friend zoned you on her terms. She is no friend right now. Far from it. Screw that. She hurt your heart. She told you to leave her alone and if you contacted her there would be "rash" consquences!! WTF is that? So, don't answer her. If she contacts you again the future, YOU tell her to please stop contacting you. I must say sir and or madam I like the way you think, I didn't read a whole lot into it anyways just thought it was weird when she talked to me last said to bot contact her
whichwayisup Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 I must say sir and or madam I like the way you think, I didn't read a whole lot into it anyways just thought it was weird when she talked to me last said to bot contact her Madam, but don't call me ma'am..lol Us Canucks got to help eachother out eh!
AnchordHeart Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 Dont reply She might become interested in why you didnt reply. She's giving you breadcrumbs.
Author Canadian731 Posted August 1, 2012 Author Posted August 1, 2012 I just wrote "thank you everyone for all the birthday wishes" and didnt reply to her message, she will be back but I won't be waiting for her.
Spetsnaz Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 i'd be tempted to say something like 'ta' and leave it at that. genuinely one word say's 'give a ****, not really' much better than none.
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