Hawk12 Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 Been nc for almost two weeks and today I can't stop thinking if she's with someone else. I know I shouldnt care but it just bothers me that she might have moved on before me or is just with someone else Now.
Canadian731 Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 You can't put yourself through this man, and if she is do you really want to know or does it really matter to you right now?
dannykeyz831 Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 How long were you two together before the break up? If there is one thing that I've learned from past relationships is that women hate being alone so they immediately jump onto the next guy who takes an interest in her. If she is then its most likely a rebound.
Author Hawk12 Posted August 1, 2012 Author Posted August 1, 2012 Together 4 years.... Broke up for a little over a month now
KatZee Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 Been nc for almost two weeks and today I can't stop thinking if she's with someone else. I know I shouldnt care but it just bothers me that she might have moved on before me or is just with someone else Now. If you have no solid evidence of anything, this is just your ego talking. Your ego is trying to tell you she's happy, moving on, with someone new, sleeping with someone, forgotten all about you, etc etc. Switch your train of thought. She's hurting just as much from this split. 4 years is a long time. Even if she IS trying to date, the new guy is being compared to you. 4 years can't be erased in a month. There's no way she doesn't think of you. There's no way on some level she doesn't miss you. And she thinks you're moving on just the way you think she is. 1
Samilia Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 How long were you two together before the break up? If there is one thing that I've learned from past relationships is that women hate being alone so they immediately jump onto the next guy who takes an interest in her. If she is then its most likely a rebound. Interesting.. I was single for 2 years before meeting my bf.. I'm perfectly fine and independent on my own I don't think she's with someone else, even if she initiated the break up. She might have met someone before breaking up, who knows? However don't drive yourself nuts over it, let her miss you, 4 years is a good chuck of life, see what happens.
Pod81 Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 Even IF she was with someone now, the guy is CLEARLY a rebound. It is very rare that a rebound relationship is a successful one because that guy is only being used as someone to fill that void that was left by you. I agree with Katzee...you are the measuring stick for whatever relationship she enters into next. Based on your previous threads, if sounds as if your ex has GIGS. If it's of any consolation to you, it'll be extremely difficult for her to find someone to measure up to you. It's difficult enough as it is to find someone who's compatible with you, much less finding someone who is compatible enough for a 4 year relationship. Girls like our exes are rarely ever satisfied and are searching for that perfect someone (the ONE), which really doesn't exist. I tell myself that they are in for a rude awakening when they find out that great guys like us don't grow on trees.
Dblock10 Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 hawk, I've been thinking the same thing, although i wasn't with mine for 4 years more like 7 months.. its been a year since we split and since then she has travelled and slept with a couple guys. however we met and slept together, but she has left to travel again.. and i know she met up with a "friend" she met travelling, she mentioned him before at xmas. soon as she got to the country she is in she went for a meal with him. i said to her how it sounded like a date (when we were talking everyday when she left 4 weeks ago) she said how its wasn't and he's just a friend but i don't really believe that. could have over looked it but i doubt it. its now been 4 weeks nc. so i don't know anything going on in her life now.
Car10e Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 I am going through the same thing as you, except I know my ex bf is "dating around" or seeing a girl. We had been on a break for a little less than a month before we ended things, and noticed he became distant very quickly. I would text him asking how he was, and he would just ignore it. I found out he started talking to her while we were on break. It was someone he works with, and that they have been hanging out a lot outside of work. I also found out he's been paying for everything, which happens usually when you date someone. The weekends are especially hard for me, because thats when I usually saw him. I am always wondering what he is doing and where he is. Sometimes I know, because the girl posts it on facebook. He actually took her to our favorite restaurant in which we both used to eat all the time. It kills me, because I just keep thinking "that should be me." The best advice I can give is just keep busy. I try to go out on the weekends so I'm not at home thinking about it.
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