robaday Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 Ive dated several needy women over the years, and I havent ever been sure when do just draw the line between someone being a little insecure, and someone actually expecting you to be their life soul and security. I had one really bad experience where her oh so cute at first insecurity, became sheer loathing when i didnt quite meet her needs. I want to be on the lookout for this kind of behavior in the future. I was always "avoiding", ignoring" or "cheating" when really i was just working 3 jobs, and had told her so at the very start. It was really hard to keep my own boundaries, i.e. not feel guilty. Where do people draw the line? I honestly dont mind a bit of insecurity, a little jealousy is fine, i just dont want someone's self worth to be resting on me again.
Leopard Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 I know exactly how you feel. 90% of the guys I date are like this. I once had a guy tell me not to cheat on him after knowing him for 3 days. Never spoke to him again. I think you need to look out for red flags. If she asks you too many questions about your motivations, or your ex girlfriends, what you want in a girlfriend etc or what you would do in certain scenarios, that might be a red flag. Also, if she only talks about herself, that's a big no no too. On the bright side, most of the world is insecure so it isn't always bad taste
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