is it normal to visualise what you would say to them if you saw them again?

[zanzi]

Ive been having dreams and day dreams where he comes back and is waiting for me outside my house, but I'm too hurt to take him back, and then he fades away like the chesire cat. :/ perhaps my mind is just replaying replaying, replaying.

dissapearing d*ck. he must have been feeling pretty smug knowing he had hurt me.

 

I know I post a lot. Dont mean to, it seems to help me grieve.

[steveblack]

Been doing the same thing. But I dont really think about what I am going to say. We had a strong non-verbal connection. I think if I saw her, and we looked at each other, with out even saying anything we would both know where we are.

 

But let me give you some advice, all the things you are thinking about are all fake. Stop over thinking things, it will make you go nuts

[Canadian731]

You just have to let go, you are hurt so you are trying to replay things in your mind but them going better then before. you will get over it don't worry I dreamed of my ex for the first few weeks.

[zanzi]

I am trying to let go.

Im not going to be over someone cutting me out of his life forever in a matter of weeks now though, Am I.

[Samilia]

Ive been having dreams and day dreams where he comes back and is waiting for me outside my house, but I'm too hurt to take him back, and then he fades away like the chesire cat. :/ perhaps my mind is just replaying replaying, replaying.

dissapearing d*ck. he must have been feeling pretty smug knowing he had hurt me.

 

I know I post a lot. Dont mean to, it seems to help me grieve.

 

We heal up when we sleep, yes, it's normal. It's very good actually.

[zanzi]

Aw and I wasnt asking on advice as to whether I should fantisize about reconciliton or not, I just said I was doing it.

So how are you holding up, are you doing everything you claim, moving on? I feel critisized just for feeling what Im feeling.

[Tree_Salmon]

You know, I thought about what I would say for months. And then I let go.

 

Soon as I let go I ran into her. And instead of saying something rehearsed I just played it cool and was very open. They know what they did and how you feel. you just have to show that you've moved on.

[zanzi]

I mean I havent called him, havent begged him, havent hassled him, cant I at least imagine for a while that he still gives a sh*t about me?

We were in a very serious relationship. I feel like people tell you to "move on " like by loving that person your doing something wrong to them, but it you are just silently bowing out of their life in your own way, why not indulge in some scenarios you wished were possible? eh? Im not hurting him.

Hes the one who burned me. Got home and all his stuff was gone, hes in the next town now or god knows where. Turned his cell phone off, told my best freind instead of me why hed broken up with me. I have a right to be F*cking angry. And I am very very angry, and desolate, and depressed, and working through it in my own way. People act like if you even bring up your ex its a sin. christ.

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[zanzi]

yeah well Im never going to "run into him" ever again. Hes a traveller, Im never going to hear from him or see him again.

So, Im compensating.

Just because you dont care about your exes anymore, its easy for you to critisize me.

[not-a-drive-by]

I've learnt that it never goes to plan. You'll dream up a great speech and all the responses to their replies, but there's always something that we miss out, and it screws up.

[Tree_Salmon]

I mean I havent called him, havent begged him, havent hassled him, cant I at least imagine for a while that he still gives a sh*t about me?

We were in a very serious relationship. I feel like people tell you to "move on " like by loving that person your doing something wrong to them, but it you are just silently bowing out of their life in your own way, why not indulge in some scenarios you wished were possible? eh? Im not hurting him.

Hes the one who burned me. Got home and all his stuff was gone, hes in the next town now or god knows where. Turned his cell phone off, told my best freind instead of me why hed broken up with me. I have a right to be F*cking angry. And I am very very angry, and desolate, and depressed, and working through it in my own way. People act like if you even bring up your ex its a sin. christ.

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Don't get me wrong I know exactly how you feel. I'm the king of hating all this advice to move on and finding my own way to deal.

 

You should be angry and deal with it the best way you know how. But sometimes what we do is prolong the pain by dwelling in it. Like i said, i know this better than anyone. And yet, I'm here telling you to move on when I would get angry at hearing the same advice from others.

 

Hang in there.

[Miss Vee]

I don't think it's abnormal at all....I play out scenes in my head between my ex and I all the time. Actually, I think it's somewhat therapeutic - after all it's the only way i'll really get to 'tell' him everything i want him to know. I do find it exhausting though, and I look forward to the day when I'm able to put my energies to better use...I think it's a stage you need to go through though, especially in a case where the ex just bailed and left you hanging without an adequate reason/explanation...hang in there and have faith that it will get better..