barese1 Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 It's funny it only clicked when I went to reply to this. But I'm getting down at the thought of her not messaging me. Yet I specifically told her that we can't have contact for a while until I sorted myself out. So I told her not to message me. And I'm feeling crap because she listened? I'm sitting here thinking she's not messaging me cause I'm not important but then maybe she's just doing what I asked. Either way I shouldn't want to be important to her. Not anymore. its ridiculous, I'm in the same position, asked her not to contact me and if i ever feel i can be friends I'd call her buttttt not hearing from her kills me. Same as you I've been doing all the good I can but it seems to have no effect at all, and you think whats the point anymore. Plus 100% agree, women don't realise but they get approached all the time, they just have to sift through the men to find a nice one. As a guy you have to pursue any woman you may like, especially hard when you feel like this. I hope with all my heart that guys like us will be happy, and maybe meet someone who truely loves us as we love them one day but honestly, I never see it happening. 1
Author AlexanderJames Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 Yeah sometimes I wonder the same. But I just remind myself that I've have two gorgeous women fall genuinely in love with me in the past 2 years. And they both came when I wasn't searching. Just because it's not there when you're searching for it doesn't mean it's not out there waiting to fall into your lap. Besides people always say that the day you decide you're happy on your own and don't wanna change a thing about you life THAT is when love comes knocking. Another thought that sometimes bugs me is I've spent an incredible ammount of time and dedication building my body into the "ideal build". Don't get me wrong I like seeing myself in the mirror and in photos but at my young age I feel the only girls that a sculpted body will attract are the ones that you don't want to keep around. Like girls who only care about physical appearance and can't hold an intellectual conversation to save themselves. So sometimes it feel like a wasted effort but then I gotta remember I work out for myself not for anyone else.
Author AlexanderJames Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 The most annoying part about that last paragraph is when I try to engage a conversation with a woman and she automatically assumes that because I'm built I'm a meathead. Like stereotyping me into being an idiotic, arrogant caveman when in actual fact I'm more intelligent than most.
Frank13 Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 Alex, I am in the same boat as you and the others. Only with me it is 7 months NC and the missing her and sadness has come on with a vengence. Worst than any other time including day one. Starting to feel depressed for the first time. I actually went out last night. All I did ws walk around bored as hell. Couldn't wait to go back home. At one point I walked past a much younger very attractive woman. As we were walking towards each other our eyes locked and she gave me the biggest smile. It gave me a momentary confidence boost but in the end, she went her way, I went mine and I was back with my thoughts. Wish it had happend a few more times as I think the rejection and blow to my ego is the worse. How can we care so much about someone who doesn't care about us?
Author AlexanderJames Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 Alex, I am in the same boat as you and the others. Only with me it is 7 months NC and the missing her and sadness has come on with a vengence. Worst than any other time including day one. Starting to feel depressed for the first time. I actually went out last night. All I did ws walk around bored as hell. Couldn't wait to go back home. At one point I walked past a much younger very attractive woman. As we were walking towards each other our eyes locked and she gave me the biggest smile. It gave me a momentary confidence boost but in the end, she went her way, I went mine and I was back with my thoughts. Wish it had happend a few more times as I think the rejection and blow to my ego is the worse. How can we care so much about someone who doesn't care about us? Damn sorry to hear that frank 7 months nc is such a long time. It must be a real blow to the morale to feel down after so long. It's funny how a smile from someone we dont know can change our mood around like that. At the end of the day all we can do is wait though. Like I keep telling myself. Time time time time. I'm about ready to get the word tattooed across my f***ing forehead haha. Talking about it on here sure does help though. I went to the gym again last night. The owner missed me haha. Had a go at me for taking a week off and gave me some new supps that came in. So that was a mood booster. Plus I think what was previously suggested about having withdrawals from the 'feel good' chemicals that are released during exercise was true cause during and after the workout I felt amazing again. Like I'd scratched a really annoying itch haha.
Author AlexanderJames Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 And we can care so much about someone who doesn't care about us because we are the ones with the big hearts. We are the ones looking for something real. But we are also the ones will find find true happiness because we are searching for it. And through all we have been through we are the ones who deserve it
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