Author ThaWholigan Posted August 3, 2012 Author Posted August 3, 2012 So how was it, was it everything u expected? One minute man or? It was great, there wasn't any pressure, it was comfortable, and I lasted a lot longer than I thought I would. It was what I expected it to be - which is awesome . I think I would go as far as to say that I was meant to lose it this way - I think Ninjainpajamas said in the other thread that this is a golden opportunity for most guys when they are inexperienced, and this was it for me. I'm gonna be a bit controversial here - I know that a lot of women say that a man's 1st should be with someone they love or in a relationship etc etc.....but I don't think that's true for a lot of guys because it doesn't always happen that way, and it's usually a while before that happens if you're a late bloomer. I think it was good that I lost it this way. She's a nice girl, I don't define her by her "looseness", she was good company. For that, I'm glad it was her. 2
Bristolius Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 So, what is your stance? That sexual promiscuity can be immoral or unethical?That it's "easy" to include the sexual behavior of other people in ones own moral code or that it takes thinking and imagination? I'm not quite sure what the "idea of transcendent morality" is. If a person does not believe that our moral code is directly spelled out in the Bible or taught in religious education, does this equate to "transcendent morality"? I agree with the part of your post that I bolded. My opinion is that there is no such thing as objective/transcendent morality. Thinking things through with empathy and sympathy is better than looking up rules in the book of Leviticus. 1
Author ThaWholigan Posted August 3, 2012 Author Posted August 3, 2012 It was great, there wasn't any pressure, it was comfortable, and I lasted a lot longer than I thought I would. It was what I expected it to be - which is awesome . I think I would go as far as to say that I was meant to lose it this way - I think Ninjainpajamas said in the other thread that this is a golden opportunity for most guys when they are inexperienced, and this was it for me. I'm gonna be a bit controversial here - I know that a lot of women say that a man's 1st should be with someone they love or in a relationship etc etc.....but I don't think that's true for a lot of guys because it doesn't always happen that way, and it's usually a while before that happens if you're a late bloomer. I think it was good that I lost it this way. She's a nice girl, I don't define her by her "looseness", she was good company. For that, I'm glad it was her. This was the post I was referring to: I honestly think you really screwed up on this one...it sounds like perfect situation for you and experience...she could have been teaching you quite a few things right now that would have gave you a potentially unprecedented amount of knowledge...i really get the sense you got gun shy and couldn't make her feel comfortable because you felt that way and probably overhwhelmed and scared to proceed with the deed at the time, which is just a shame If i'm being honest. These really are the sitautions whether people like it or not that give men a great deal of knowledge. Unlike women, men kind of have to be the teachers or directors in the bedroom...at least that's the way I see it, so not engaging in this "dirty" situation is really a missed opportunity, trust me no one is going to judge you for this anyway in the future, this will all be in the past so what's the problem or worry? just wear a condom and go at it. I really think this was the perfect girl for you...now if you meet a nice conservative girl it might be an easier paced girl to sleep with but you'll learn nothing and it'll do nothing for your own experience, and when the sex isn't good you get blamed for it...you want to already know what you're doing in bed before you meet the girl you want to impress, plus when you're young you always think you're much better than you are because you can stick your thing in a whole back and forth, before you realize how psychological and emotional it can be combined withthe physical later on, and how to bring them all together...you've got a ways to learn in the bedroom, you should get started now!
Forever Learning Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 It was great, there wasn't any pressure, it was comfortable, and I lasted a lot longer than I thought I would. It was what I expected it to be - which is awesome . I think I would go as far as to say that I was meant to lose it this way - I think Ninjainpajamas said in the other thread that this is a golden opportunity for most guys when they are inexperienced, and this was it for me. I'm gonna be a bit controversial here - I know that a lot of women say that a man's 1st should be with someone they love or in a relationship etc etc.....but I don't think that's true for a lot of guys because it doesn't always happen that way, and it's usually a while before that happens if you're a late bloomer. I think it was good that I lost it this way. She's a nice girl, I don't define her by her "looseness", she was good company. For that, I'm glad it was her. I think it worked out exactly as the Universe would have it for you (and her). You are a lovely man Wholigan, and I am so pleased you have reached this milestone in life, and that it was a positive, pleasurable, joyful experience. Cheers honey! You REALLY rock my friend!!! 1
Author ThaWholigan Posted August 5, 2012 Author Posted August 5, 2012 I think it worked out exactly as the Universe would have it for you (and her). You are a lovely man Wholigan, and I am so pleased you have reached this milestone in life, and that it was a positive, pleasurable, joyful experience. Cheers honey! You REALLY rock my friend!!! Thank you , greatly appreciated Stay tuned for round 2
It's Just Me Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Wholigan, can you now change your avatar to some manly-man pic? I'm tired of thinking of you as a female.
Author ThaWholigan Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 Wholigan' date=' can you now change your avatar to some manly-man pic? I'm tired of thinking of you as a female. [/quote'] What's more manly than a pic of the hottest girl on British TV? Maybe it's time I make that change
proseandpassion Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 ^It depends. Ive had one of my chick buddies call me it in jest...and its all fun. But lets say a girl I was into actually cited that as reasoning for her being standoffish from me, then Id feel crappy. I acknowledge women will feel differently about the word then men will, but Im not gonna give a guy props for getting around and then deride a woman of the same thing. You should see me with some of my chick friends...depending on the situation I will give them props for getting some. Lol it is kinda skanky of OP. However, the reason Id view him and the girl differently in my mind is because hes a nooby whos finally enjoying his sexuality. On the other hand, this chick is someone who seems to be out on the prowl a lot like this...not to mention the awkward gang bang mention. So she has a history of sexually risky behavior it seems. I think a history of sexually risky behavior would garner anyone some raised eyebrows. Conversely, I had a good chick friend in college who was a virgin and lost her 'virginity' to a skanky frat boy. I gave her props for finally getting some...but never saw her as a slut. She wanted to finally see what it was all about, and she had always been a relationship type of girl. Plus she had always been in relationships with women, so she took the chance to be with that guy when she was single for once. Until you personally start to screw her... what business is it of yours if she engages in sexually risky behavior? Why do people decide they want to play concerned citizen for the life/health of one person they don't even know halfway around the globe? L
pteromom Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 Because casual sex is nothing more than masturbation. Cold and calculated. Sleeping with someone you don't care about is so boring. It is definitely NOT boring if you are doing it right. Wholigan, I am so happy for you. She was the perfect person to have a first time with, and is the perfect person to have a few more times with to try out some things you've always fantasized about. I like loving sex in a LTR as much as the next girl, but casual sex has its place, and I think this was exactly what Wholigan needed. For those of you who are against casual sex - don't have it. No worries. :high five: Wholigan! 2
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