phil00 Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 So, my ex went off on me. We aren't really in contact. Her choice. She's an ex from 2 years ago. We went out for 2 years. It wasn't the best relationship. She broke up with me to date someone else. I heard that she broke up with that dude. I haven't seen her for 2 years. Some circumstances let us to seeing each other recently, which I posted about here. She was flirty. I contacted her a few times, and then she blocked me. Hot, cold... Whatever. Haven't emailed or talked since then for almost a month. Anyways, she referred me to her dentist when we were going out. Today, I had to redo my insurance and the old information still had her listed as my emergency contact. So I sent her a one sentence email saying "Hey. As of today your no longer my emergency contact with Dr. ___." I honestly just sent her that thinking she would get a laugh or something. She then sends me an email about contacting her too much, that she's asked me to stop, that I don't respect her wished, that she's seeing someone and that I'm innappropriate for contacting her, that I'm creepy, that she wished me the best, but I'm still creepy. I mean, went off. So I responded with "Creepy? Really, was that warranted for that meaningless email? I guess I just didn't think it was that big a deal. Told her I was seeing someone too and really haven't considered myself to be anyones ex for a while." She then tells me that I'll never learn, goodbye, etc etc. And that if I am dating someone, that I should respect her more than I'm doing right now." That's when I went off. Sarcasticaaly thanking her for the dating advice, but I'm good. She trusts me. And just for the record, I never asked for her back in the few times that I comtacted her. I don't know why she still talks to me like that. ANd that I'm really irritated, and now she has what she wants. I never wanted to hear from or see her again" That's it. I felt better saying all that. Was her going off on me warranted?
Chi townD Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 Nope! It just proves how inflated her ego is that she actually thought you were trying to reconnect. Don't let her ruin your day. 1
KatZee Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 Was she justified? I have no idea. You're only telling us what she's said. She said some pretty clear things. You contact her too much, you're creepy, you don't respect her wishes... so what are the things YOU have done to make her think this? I can't imagine she'd say all of these things completely out of no where... I feel like you've tried keeping in touch or have done things.
EgoJoe Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 Judith Butler would be proud KatZee. Unfortunately, we've all read your posts and admittance at being a cold blooded GIGS-esque party girl. OP, ignore her and ignore your own urge to incite a reaction from her. Which you did. Congratulations you're both playing a dumb, stupid and pointless game.
biogirl05 Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 It was probably a little weird to tell her about the emergency contact thing. I could see how you were joking but I know if my ex said that to me I would be upset. Not THAT upset, though, and two years from the relationship? Something seems weird here, but anyway obviously the issue goes beyond that email. I can't say exactly what's going on but obviously she has hostile feelings so you guys should go NC for good. Friends isn't going to work.
KatZee Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 (edited) Judith Butler would be proud KatZee. Unfortunately, we've all read your posts and admittance at being a cold blooded GIGS-esque party girl. OP, ignore her and ignore your own urge to incite a reaction from her. Which you did. Congratulations you're both playing a dumb, stupid and pointless game. Err?? You sure you're talking about the right person? Cold blooded? Absolutely not. You may want to go back and re-read my posts. GIGS? No. I'm really not sure what you're even talking about. Party girl? I don't see anywhere I've posted about being a party girl. I'm anything BUT. So I'm really not quite sure where you're getting your information. You've clearly got the wrong person. Edited August 1, 2012 by KatZee
Samilia Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 Well you're dating someone else now.. not sure why you'd want to keep in touch with her? I do find the text about the contact to be a little bit weird, but I can see how what you really meant was "no worries you won't get a phone call at 2am to come pick me up at the ER" as a joke, of course. Also, don't forget that the new guy might be reading her emails, or texts, that might be what provoked her reaction.
steveblack Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 People try to justify their decisions sometimes irrationally. If she believes that you are still trying to get with her, even if you are not, she will never see you a sane being. Dude just ignore her.
Samilia Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 Dude just ignore her. mmh ya, that is the right thing to do 1
Sugarkane Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 Dumpers they always have to make it about themselves don't they? And call us crazy even if we're not.
Mike_d Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 caveat: no dog in this fight but reads to me like you used an opening to tell her about something that really didn't need to be shared - you changed her as your emergency contact - in order to create a breadcrumb and get back in contact. you sure about your motives?
Author phil00 Posted August 3, 2012 Author Posted August 3, 2012 No real motives. I'm not trying to get her back, or even be her friend. Just one of those random "Here's something she might think is funny" moments. That was it. I didn't think she would react this way because she did wish me a personal Happy 4th of July, which I didn't respond to.
Mike_d Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 I don't get it then, if you are not trying for anything and don't want her for a friend then why the need to text something funny or not?? I wouldn't take it as funny either I guess, would sort of be this random text out of nowhere about something that seems kinda nonsensical. If she has told you not to text and you don't want anything to do with her and you text her this then I can see where she'd see it as a problem. Hard to look at this and not think that you're trying for something, changing contact info isn't really funny in any context. dunno, something isn't right here, but you're original question of was the 'going off' on you warranted, I'd say yes, you didn't respect her boundaries with something that no one else would frame as funny by contacting someone that you don't have an interest in anymore when she said not to. but again, the dots to your story don't connect here for me. just my .02 1
TripLine Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 That's like saying, yea my computer just broke, or the fish we got together died. Nobody cares but you still messaged it out anyways. Yea you are being creepy. If you didn't care you wouldn't "go off".
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