Is he just crapping his pants?

[Lisa_Lisa]

LDR, together 4 months, broke up 1 month ago, 1 month NC....

 

Had a facebook convo with the girl my ex had been talking to at the same time as me, albeit a month before he called it quits with me (also LD). We found out about each other. He denied me to her and denied her to me. What a cad!

 

Yesterday she copied and pasted a convo she had with my ex where she tells him she became facebook friends with me.

 

The reason he broke up with me was because he said I fought with him too much, I was too negative, and I was jealous. But I had reason to be jealous; cause he was talking to her and it wasn't about the weather.

 

So she wrote, "haha I became friends with bittersweet. I like her."

 

He wrote, "I don't find that funny."

 

She wrote, "why?"

 

He wrote, "nothing forget it. Goodbye."

 

I guess my question is: if he didn't give two sh*ts about me, wouldn't he be ok with the fact that we're friends? You know, something along the lines of, "ok, good for you two, I don't care." This is my assumed response.

 

But, "I don't find that funny." Does that mean he's probably a little nervous that I'm going to find out a lot more information than he wanted me to have? Or maybe now the possibility of us talking in the future has now become an impossibility?

 

I don't know what I feel. I'm still hurt and I don't trust him nor do I want or envision a future with him. We used to be friends and that's the part I miss the most. I'm willing to forgive the whole ill-fated relationship if I can just have him as a friend - and I can talk to him about my relationships and him about his - but I can't stand the fact that we may never speak again, ever.

 

So do you think he cares or doesn't care? Or is he just sh*tting in his pants?

[MCMLXXXIX]

Let it go. He's not worthy of being your friend. Being friends with his ex is likely to do more harm than good also. Maybe you wish you could have a guy friend you could talk to about relationship issues and you think that guy could be him. I suggest you stop thinking that. Finding someone of the opposite sex and opposite orientation you can truly confide in is just as hard as finding a worthy partner.