irc333 Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 ....when you're family, friends, and even YOU think you two are MEANT to be together, however, she does not feel the same? Isn't this the worst kind of hell as a single person? lol To further explain, ever been into someone that you think you'd be completely be compatible with, have great rapport and chemistry with, and you're friends and even HER friends mention, "Man, you two would make a GREAT couple!" Both you, friends and family on BOTH sides are scratching their head, "What does she mean? She's not into him in 'that way'?" Sometimes you may as go as far as to coherce your friends to encourage her to date you even. BUT, the majorty never seems to rule?
Imported Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 If your family and friends told you to go jump off a cliff, I guess you'd be jumping off a cliff. WTF does your family and friends or yours or her family and friends belief and what she wants has to do with what she actually wants. Move on. 1
Emilia Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 It never influences me what other people think because they have their own inssues or insecurities regarding how they see others. What they think is a nice catch probably isn't what I think is a good catch. If I thought a guy was that fantastic I would be dating him and vice versa. I know there is some woman your friend thinks you should have dated OP but what does your friend know really? One of my friends tried to pair me up with someone once (without my prior knowledge) who was pretty much 100% opposite of the kind I go for both physically and personality wise. It was embarrassing. 1
todreaminblue Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 ....when you're family, friends, and even YOU think you two are MEANT to be together, however, she does not feel the same? Isn't this the worst kind of hell as a single person? lol To further explain, ever been into someone that you think you'd be completely be compatible with, have great rapport and chemistry with, and you're friends and even HER friends mention, "Man, you two would make a GREAT couple!" Both you, friends and family on BOTH sides are scratching their head, "What does she mean? She's not into him in 'that way'?" Sometimes you may as go as far as to coherce your friends to encourage her to date you even. BUT, the majorty never seems to rule? majarity rule rottweiler drool.....doesnt really matter if it doesnt happen it doesnt happen because fate has its fingers in the llamaduck pie not tom thumb and there are no plum answers its all in the lap of the apricots... in other words in logical plain english(which is really boring)what will be will be......slinkslink....gone...deb
Imported Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 OP, I am going to use this. Next time I approach a girl I will tell her, "My mom, dad, sisters, nephews and neices think we'd make a good couple. In case you don't agree, remember that's ten peoples opinion to your one, so that means you have to go out with me." 1
Author irc333 Posted July 31, 2012 Author Posted July 31, 2012 OP, I am going to use this. Next time I approach a girl I will tell her, "My mom, dad, sisters, nephews and neices think we'd make a good couple. In case you don't agree, remember that's ten peoples opinion to your one, so that means you have to go out with me." There it is, plan and simple. I mean, some cultures have arranged marriages, right? Not unlike that. lol
serial muse Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 (edited) There's a cliche that goes, "you never really know what goes on between two people." It's generally used to refer to existing relationships - things may look fine to outside observers, but be tumultuous when they get home. Conversely, people may appear to have a contentious relationship, but somehow, it works for them and they are in fact oddly happy. In other words, you can't assume what's going on internally based on other peoples' external observations. People will tend to judge the "suitability" of a relationship based on their own biases, not those of the principals involved - which means it just doesn't matter what they think. "Majority rule" is a red herring - or rather, there simply is no such thing. It's not applicable. The only opinions that matter are those of the two people involved. So, if one person isn't feeling it, it's not a match, despite what the peanut gallery has to say. Here's another way to put it, via another cliche: Opinions are like a*******. Everybody has one. Edited July 31, 2012 by serial muse 1
fortyninethousand322 Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 ....when you're family, friends, and even YOU think you two are MEANT to be together, however, she does not feel the same? Isn't this the worst kind of hell as a single person? lol To further explain, ever been into someone that you think you'd be completely be compatible with, have great rapport and chemistry with, and you're friends and even HER friends mention, "Man, you two would make a GREAT couple!" Both you, friends and family on BOTH sides are scratching their head, "What does she mean? She's not into him in 'that way'?" Sometimes you may as go as far as to coherce your friends to encourage her to date you even. BUT, the majorty never seems to rule? You know this sounds like an interesting idea. Have a vote to decide which two people should date. Majority ruling and all. I don't know if it would be "ideal", but it certainly would be a change from what we do now.
Author irc333 Posted July 31, 2012 Author Posted July 31, 2012 It never influences me what other people think because they have their own inssues or insecurities regarding how they see others. What they think is a nice catch probably isn't what I think is a good catch. If I thought a guy was that fantastic I would be dating him and vice versa. I know there is some woman your friend thinks you should have dated OP but what does your friend know really? One of my friends tried to pair me up with someone once (without my prior knowledge) who was pretty much 100% opposite of the kind I go for both physically and personality wise. It was embarrassing. Well, in my case, my friend's opinions are more dead on than what your friends who tried to fix you up. Also, I know this woman personally, as well as my friends knowing her personally. People are aware we are alike in a lot of ways, and I agree, we have a lot in common, esp. in personality. So some friends can be good judges of characters to a certain extent. So I think it's just a physical attraction thing. The guy this one woman married, has kind of has a pretty boy (Johnny Depp) thing going for him. So I'm thinking when people try to pair people up, they don't count for the physical. "Oh man, you two are dorks and into Star Trek and both of your favorite characters are Spider Man! You should definitely get together...I'll call him/her right now!!"
serial muse Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 You know this sounds like an interesting idea. Have a vote to decide which two people should date. I don't know if it would be "ideal", but it certainly would be a change from what we do now. There is a game show on MTV with this concept: The parents of a young woman or man don't like their kid's current significant other, so they choose several other options from a pool of applicants, and the kid has to go on a date with each to see if it's a better match. Not once have I seen the kid change his/her mind. Other people aren't the best judges, necessarily. Sorry, but that's how it is, and we don't live in a police state, thank God.
Mme. Chaucer Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 The "majority" in dating consists of two people - the ones doing the dating. 3
serial muse Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 You know this sounds like an interesting idea. Have a vote to decide which two people should date. Majority ruling and all. I don't know if it would be "ideal", but it certainly would be a change from what we do now. Hey fortynine - seriously though. Aren't you a libertarian? I'm not trying to give you a hard time, but honestly, this whole premise should be anathema to anyone who believes in free will and personal responsibility.
todreaminblue Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 women choose in dating. all she has to say is yes or no and ur done the same goes for men
fortyninethousand322 Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 Hey fortynine - seriously though. Aren't you a libertarian? I'm not trying to give you a hard time, but honestly, this whole premise should be anathema to anyone who believes in free will and personal responsibility. I'm joking, like I figure the OP has to be doing. 1
serial muse Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 I'm joking, like I figure the OP has to be doing. Haha, I wish that were true (meaning about the OP) but I suspect not. Sorry I took you too seriously, I think I need a refresher on the coffee.
xxoo Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 "Oh man, you two are dorks and into Star Trek and both of your favorite characters are Spider Man! You should definitely get together...I'll call him/her right now!!" Liking the same fictional characters doesn't mean you are compatible as mates. Makes a great friend and activity partner, but a mate needs SO much more. Frankly, I wouldn't even want a mate into all my "stuff". He's into xyz, and I'm into abc, but we both like lmnop, and it all works out. No one would have matched us up, but we saw things in each other that the majority didn't
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