ejl271 Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 Hey Guys, Im new to the site but just needed some help so here it goes..... Im 23 yrs old and so is my gf, we met when we were 18.. from the beginning we both loved each other extremely hard and strong! but boy did we argue!! She was physicall very early on in the relationship. I had never been physical with a female until I met her, but I never took it to the extent where I was actually doing physical damage such as punching and what not I would just shove or gently push her..things im not proud of though....we moved in together when we were 20.... and it was very hard on the relationship, krystal had friends I did not approve of drug users and sluts, but krystal is no slut!! long story short we have had a rocky relationship from the get go! But no matter what we went through I still would love her more and more as time went on! Now that our lease ended we got into a big fight and moved into seperate apts. I still want her to be mine, and she tells me she still wants me, but we need to just work things out.... She told me she needs her SPACE...We now have been living seperately for the past 2 weeks and its hard for me to carry-on with basic everyday stuff. I miss her she wont spend the night with me or anything... I thought she was seeing someone else but she assures me there is nobody else in picture... she just keeps telling me she needs space and time alone.. She is now beginning to build more resentment against me for everything I have done in the relationship! but I feel it was not only me she did alot of messed up stuff too, but im still here fighting for our love!! should I just drop all communication? should I answer when she calls? should I keep trying to confess my love to her? one moment she is telling me she loves me the next she is speaking to me in an angry tone!! but she still says she does not want me out of her life, she says she only wants me! dont really feel like playing the ignore game to get her back but not I will do anything. should I try to keep chasing her or just break all communication and let her come to me? but if I do that i feel she might feel like I didnt fight for her so im not the one for her... but I want to be, like I said I have made tons of mistakes but so has she!!!! and help would be extremely appreciated!~!!!!
Author ejl271 Posted July 31, 2012 Author Posted July 31, 2012 Mina, Thanks for your reply but I will give her space but I will continue to make change for myself, I know i said awful things in this relationship! but I know I still love her!
KatZee Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 I have made tons of mistakes but so has she!!!!( No. Beating someone is not a mistake. It's a choice you made. This relationship is highly dysfunctional and toxic and no woman in her right mind would ever get back with someone like you. I know I wouldn't. Hit me once and you're done. The fact she stayed and moved in with you after that is outrageous. I'm glad she finally woke up. Stay away from her. Get therapy for yourself.
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