irc333 Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 I was wondering, what is everyone's distance they're willing to travel to meet someone they met on a dating site? Being how some people live in suburbia, which is usually appx 30 mins to up to an hour outside of major metropolitan areas....what is your limit? Like me, considering I live in a smaller town mostly filled with retirees or people my age that are "married with children" I find myself willing to commute to the big city to meet women....even if it's off-line real life get togethers with friends. EVen most of my friends are in the big city anyhow. Perhaps if distance IS an issue for you, and the ONE person says, "Well, I don't mind, I'd be willing to drive ALL the way (and not even meet halfway)" Since they're willing to go the distance (perhaps they got a "Green" car with good gas milage) What's your limit?
weallfalldown Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 Hi. I think you'll find lots of people travel great distances. ere in the UK, i have travelled up to 200 miles. The one i was with before lived an hr away and we travelled to see each other all the time. then ended up living together (big mistake) ....
It's Just Me Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 I live 40 minutes outside a major city where there is constant traffic at all hours to get into downtown - it can often take 90 minutes or more to get there. Traffic makes my blood boil, and I try to avoid it. In fact, I never go into the city unless it's to see a ball game or a play. Having to do it routinely to see someone did not appeal to me in the least. So, when OLD - I excluded those who lived in the major city, but was willing to meet people who lived up to 60 minutes away, no traffic. The man I met lives 25 minutes away from me.
Silly_Girl Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 My ex was 2 hours away but when I started thinking about dating again I set 45mins as a limit. I felt anything more might be challenging in terms of meeting after work or 'popping' to see one another. I wanted something that could be a bit more spontaneous, and more like dating than living together when together and not when not. I was lucky to find someone less than 2 miles away and it's so handy!!!!
Author irc333 Posted July 31, 2012 Author Posted July 31, 2012 I live 40 minutes outside a major city where there is constant traffic at all hours to get into downtown - it can often take 90 minutes or more to get there. Traffic makes my blood boil, and I try to avoid it. In fact, I never go into the city unless it's to see a ball game or a play. Having to do it routinely to see someone did not appeal to me in the least. So, when OLD - I excluded those who lived in the major city, but was willing to meet people who lived up to 60 minutes away, no traffic. The man I met lives 25 minutes away from me. Yeah, actually, I bet people in the city would PREFER to drive out there to see YOU, they'd be like "Ah, a nice country drive!" Because I'm sure city dwellers need a break from that crap Ie Atlanta...holy crap, even the BY-Passes are cramped! lol I hear parts of Atlanta are creeping out to places/state park Stone Mtn, Ga. bleh
Author irc333 Posted July 31, 2012 Author Posted July 31, 2012 My ex was 2 hours away but when I started thinking about dating again I set 45mins as a limit. I felt anything more might be challenging in terms of meeting after work or 'popping' to see one another. I wanted something that could be a bit more spontaneous, and more like dating than living together when together and not when not. I was lucky to find someone less than 2 miles away and it's so handy!!!! Yeah, I know of a woman that's a bit more "needy" than some...like she can't do the "once a weekend" she'd like to be able to see the guy during the week as well, like after he got off work, he would have the ability to stop by after work on a Mon evening. 2 or 3 times a week would be even better for them.
carhill Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 Since it's 20 miles to civilization, that's my general minimum. Last lady I dated lived around 30 miles away. The closest town used to be my maximum, back in the 70's-90's, but I got into long distance stuff in the mid-90's. The internet opened a whole world of possibilities. My exW lived around 60 miles away when I met her. Around here, that's about an hour drive, mostly @ 70mph.
Emilia Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 I live in London so to me it was the city boundaries that meant the limit in OLD since it takes a while to travel through a city with 8 million people in it. I used the distance question as a way to screen out men who wanted casual sex only, when they asked where I lived in London exactly it was always about sex convenience then anything else. It was a good 'canary' as carhill would say.
CarrieT Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 I live 50 miles outside of a major city. When I started OLD, I wouldn't even consider guys in San Francisco because those who were interested in commuting to Napa were more interested in the wine-and-dine lifestyle they thought having a Napa-based FWB would give them. I initially turned down my current BF who lives 20 miles south of the city (an hour-and-a-half commute). He convinced me to at least meet, considering there were so few people we encounter online that had/have such similar interests. I'll be moving early next year to live with him and his family. We still laugh that I dismissed him due to distance. 1
FitChick Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 Anywhere in the world where I might want to live. 1
oaks Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 I live in London so to me it was the city boundaries that meant the limit in OLD since it takes a while to travel through a city with 8 million people in it. I used the distance question as a way to screen out men who wanted casual sex only, when they asked where I lived in London exactly it was always about sex convenience then anything else. It was a good 'canary' as carhill would say. So that's why you stopped returning my calls! I almost always ask "where in london?" just because of the practicalities of travelling/meeting in such a large place... not because I want a quick lay. I'm outside of London, but my commute takes me there, but I wouldn't date someone the same distance (time) away in the opposite direction, do my answer to the original question is that it depends on the direction... Maybe 2 hours one way or 20 minutes in other directions, because I'm doing most of that journey most days anyway!
grkBoy Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 I won't drive more than 45 min to date someone. I'd rather be alone at that point. Would I try LDR, like taking flights to see her? Maybe. 1
fortyninethousand322 Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 I don't know. Part of me says no distance requirement (like she could be anywhere). But ideally, 25 miles would be what I would like.
Emilia Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 So that's why you stopped returning my calls! I almost always ask "where in london?" just because of the practicalities of travelling/meeting in such a large place... not because I want a quick lay. I'm outside of London, but my commute takes me there, but I wouldn't date someone the same distance (time) away in the opposite direction, do my answer to the original question is that it depends on the direction... Maybe 2 hours one way or 20 minutes in other directions, because I'm doing most of that journey most days anyway! I don't mean I cut those guys off, I was just on my guard each time they asked that question and when I asked back why it mattered, they usually stopped communicating with me (which I expected ) rather than say 'because I live in Virginia Water, Surrey and it takes ages to get to North or East London from here'
Negative Nancy Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 I'd go all around the world for my current perfect match.
oaks Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 they usually stopped communicating with me (which I expected ) rather than say 'because I live in Virginia Water, Surrey and it takes ages to get to North or East London from here' Ahh fair enough. I've had that exact conversation (well, it wasn't Virginia Water, but the same idea). Even being in London it's easily possible to be over an hour and a half away from someone else in London, and I know I've seen dating profiles specifying 'must be near Balham/Chelsea/Shoreditch/etc' It's crazy how slow public transport gets once you're in a big city, and driving... forget it!
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