yongyong Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 This is about when a guy approaches a chick. I went to some singles event. People were there for an obvious reason. I approached a pair of older women just to warm up. we had a good conversation. I wished them good luck and left. I approached this chick with a friend. we talked for little bit. She was talking too much to her friend. I was sitting there for myself for 1~2 minutes. I was thinking whole time 'should I try to get her attention again?' I thought 'F-ck I am outta here' and left without even looking back. I approached this not that attractive chick. I showed genuine interest by asking questions. She seemed shy and wasn't that talkative. My patience ran out soon because she wasn't attractive. While talking to her, I saw this chick walking by. I told her I knew that girl (don't know her) and I had to say hi to her. I didn't come back. I approached this group of girls. Again the conversation seemed stale. I left without even looking or saying bye. I ran into girls I left behind. They didn't seem happy but it wasn't my business. I ended up bouncing to another bar with a chick who gave me a fair share of attention (asking questions, sharing stories) I did similar things at the club. I danced with several chicks. But I knew it wouldn't go anywhere. (ask them if they would go to bar with you, go outside to get some air, sit at a table etc) So I just left them and grabbed other chicks nearby. This is not about some PUA mind trick. Actually, American women put their ego as top priority No girls will talk to you again once you walked away from her. Girls are used to say 'well it was nice meeting you' and leaving the guys. Once you walk away, she won't be able to deal with that kind of treatment and she will do anything not to spread her legs (even giving out her #) to preserve her ego. It's interesting that the girl isn't into me at all. I leave not to bother her further but she gets irritated by it. I am not doing this to boost my ego either. As a man, I have to approach first. If I don't feel welcomed, don't get the same interest I showed in return (she gives out short answer, doesn't want to talk about herself), I have no choice but to eject myself. It's more about self-respect. I try to show genuine interest First. If I don't get the fair share back, I am not interested in them. I can't blame them for not having interests. They can't blame me for walking away either. (this is for both gender)
Emilia Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 I don't think you know how to build rapport with women and don't have the experience of picking out the woman that does it for you truly. There is no reason to talk to this many girls during one single night if you know what you are doing. Not in a huff and puff way anyway when you make such a big deal - and make it so obvious! - that you are trying to get somewhere with them. Being subtle, charming and attentive should be part of your social skill set 2
Author yongyong Posted July 31, 2012 Author Posted July 31, 2012 Maybe I am too sensitive. I should've sat there like a dog waiting for them to say something? I had no interest in those older women I approached first. they equally participated in the conversation and I enjoyed it even though nothing was going to happen. I might not be into a chick or not see any possibility with a chick. But if she can carry a conversation with me, I don't mind talking to her. Answer my question. the conversation goes follows me: hey I wanted to say hi and get to know you little bit her: oh ok.... me: what's your name? her: Jane (doesn't ask my name back) me: so what brought you here? her: just to chill (low tone) me: cool, do you do anything else fun besides this. her: listening to music now should I keep going further just because she is a female? I don't think you know how to build rapport with women and don't have the experience of picking out the woman that does it for you truly. There is no reason to talk to this many girls during one single night if you know what you are doing. Not in a huff and puff way anyway when you make such a big deal - and make it so obvious! - that you are trying to get somewhere with them. Being subtle, charming and attentive should be part of your social skill set
gaius Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 You're making them uncomfortable right off the bat. How would you feel if someone came up to you and said “Hi, just wanted to say hello and get to know you a little bit”? I'd think they were a little loopy. Why do you want to get to know me a little bit, we just met. Figure out something funny or something they can relate to and bring that up. Plus I'm sure the girls who got your attention after you flunked with the first and second groups were oh so flattered.
Titanwolf Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 She seemed shy and wasn't that talkative. My patience ran out soon because she wasn't attractive. Hmmm, so much to say about this...but anyway. I agree with Emila.
Author yongyong Posted July 31, 2012 Author Posted July 31, 2012 You're making them uncomfortable right off the bat. How would you feel if someone came up to you and said “Hi, just wanted to say hello and get to know you a little bit”? I'd think they were a little loopy. Why do you want to get to know me a little bit, we just met. Figure out something funny or something they can relate to and bring that up. Plus I'm sure the girls who got your attention after you flunked with the first and second groups were oh so flattered. I don't want to discuss about 'perfect pick up line'. If you have enough experience in approaching women, you would know 'it doesn't matter what you say' It's about who you are and how you say it. I said the same thing to this chick. she lighted it up like a christmas tree and was excited to meet me. She wanted to be kissed after we got to know each other merely 10 minutes. I thought it was weird too. But why? because I was her type and I didn't do anything stupid. Hmmm, so much to say about this...but anyway. I agree with Emila. Do you put the same amount of effort to chase after bubbly college girl Vs single mom in her 30's?
Titanwolf Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 Do you put the same amount of effort to chase after bubbly college girl Vs single mom in her 30's? It's all the same to me. If I made a conscious decision to speak to a woman or vice versa, my charisma or enthusiasm doesn't change. Of course, I accept that I'm part of the minority.
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