Common to hear back from dumper after their next breakup?

[YouNeverKnow86]

Is it common to hear back from a dumper right after their next breakup. I have always heard back from dumper ex's right after their next breakup....This has only been the case if I was the previous breakup.

 

Has this scenario played out the same for others? Just wanted some insight.

[Star Gazer]

Yup. It's happened with every single guy I've ever been even remotely involved with. I don't read too much into it.

[SoConfusedAndInShock]

yea some may contact you..... my first ex (the dumper) was blowing up my phone right after his gf cheated on him and left him for a different guy (just like he did with me...KARMA!) this was about 4-6 months after our BU. he had G.I.G.S. now 3 yrs later hes still chasing me but my heart is somewhere else and he knows that...he just recently just stopped tho.

 

im dying to hear back from my recent ex tho. *finger crossed*

Edited July 31, 2012 by SoConfusedAndInShock

[dannykeyz831]

Its happened to me 3 times..all with the same girl. I guess you can say I've been an idiot for taking her back but I had the breakups coming because I wouldn't change when she's asked me to (looking for a better job, getting an education) Although this last time she left because I wouldn't commit to moving down to southern cali with her where she goes to school. We had lived together down there for 6 months but moved back to our hometown for the summer and told her that I wouldn't be moving back. She saw it as me not really loving her when I really did but honestly I don't really care anymore. When you get to live with them, you get to see their other side and her other side was pretty dam annoying. I love the girl but don't really miss her...I just miss the companionship.

 

Sorry, got a bit getting carried away with this

[Kovalchoke]

My situation is a bit different as my ex is in the middle of high school and is experiencing the party phase. 1 month of NC so far and 2 months since the BU. She dumped me. Haven't heard anything from her but she asked a mutual friend of ours a week ago if i was at the friend's house, which makes me wonder.

 

I'd really like to stay and see if she'll at least apologize for what she did to me, but I know it's pointless.

 

Referring to the OP's question i think it would be like your ex is testing the waters, seeing whats out there and basically putting you on the backburner in case things don't work out. Thats so low to me. Like "oh hey, we dated for a year but now i'm gona see whats out there for me, and i'll let you know in 5 months what it is i find! kpce"

[mike588]

My situation..breakup was alittle different. My ex. dumped me a year ago for her ex. which I foolishly believed it was over between them even though I knew she still had feelings for him..how stupid I was.

 

I was "used" as her emotional bandaid after their breakup so even though she loved me she was still "In Love' with her ex. Big difference!

 

She contacted me 6 months after dumping me saying how sorry she was...she regrets the hurt she caused me but nothing about wanting to try it again so if they breakup again I never really expect her to want to get back together with me because she was never In Love with me in the 1st place.

[k100danny]

I never really realised this happened a lot. This happened to my friend at the weekend, his ex who broke up with him was texting him all night and then he told me she has just broken up with her newest boyfriend.

 

After me and my ex broke up she was quick to add her previous ex on facebook as a friend, this happened twice when we broke up and she seemed a bit more friendly with him after we broke up. So maybe this is something that does happen. I have never been a dumper so I cant comment really why people do it. I have never had someone do it to me but if i hadnt blocked my ex in all forms of communication I think she would contact me if her newest relationship fails which im sure it will (not bitterness just knowing how she is)

[fificremefarben]

Lol, I think this could be true. Certainly, I somehow ended up back in touch with my previous ex after the BU that brought me here. We bumped into each other in a bar and he messaged me later. Normally, I would've just sent a polite one-text response but I was happy for it to lead to weeks of flirty correspondence. Really took my mind off of the breakup. BUT, it ended after an almost-kiss at a bar around Christmastime and then his brother let slip that this guy actually had a girlfriend that he hadn't told me about. So that reminded me why he wasn't such a great guy in the first place.

 

Maybe because you're hurting so much from your last breakup and coming to terms with the fact that no one loves you/cares for you like that anymore, you drift back to the person who loved you before the last one (or, at least, cared for you), using your pain to disregard the shortcomings of that particular relationship.

[Wake_Me_Up]

It really is a messed up cycle. I was with my ex ex for 2 years, broke up with her (after several mini break ups both her and I initiated) and then a long time after our break up after I was dumped by a girl, I contacted her. I didn't want to get back with her or anything I was telling myself not to do it and thinking what the hell man? But I did anyway...

 

Now my x has left me I am quite positive that she's in contact with her ex. If anything, it helps to have a broad perspective of what is going on in my life. I see past mistakes and girls whose hearts I probably broke and then compare it with my current situation where I was dumped and am shattered.