Boynextdoor Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 Have time Guys? Anyway, I had a convo with her coz she kept on sending me mix signals. (Maybe this is how I see it) Her kindness and our previous talk gave me something to think off. I have to admit from that moment on it felt good. But I wanted to make sure I am moving in the direction that I wanted to head in. But accdg. to her, her intentions for our "talk" is to apologize alone. So I told her that if she is doing it about the "guilt" then she musn't feel bad. Because she doesn't owe me anthying. Told her that what she did was what she thought could be the right thing for her. She was crying as she uttered these words. I was trying to compose myself all through out but I gave in because I cant stand her crying. I made her stop and asked her to smile coz she knows that when she cries it makes me sad. Well, I told her that I cant be friends with her because I dont need her as a friend but I want her to work it out with me. (See the diff. between need and want. I wana make sure I am sending the right thought. LS style) Accdg. to her she hasn't changed a bit and not sure if she could give me the love that I need. I was just totally respectful of her words and was just trying to cheer her up here and there. Then she insisted of meeting me still.. watch movie,drink tea and even said "so we can talk further?" given the fact that apologies was made over the phone alreadywhat could be the purpose of the meet up? Testing the waters? she wana find out if she still feels something for me. is that it? I wanted to see her as well that's why I agreed to it. I must admit I missed her a lot. It's almost a week now from the time of our talk. And I told her to contact me when she is sure about the meet up thing. (During the talk she assured that the meet up must be pushed and it will happen. that she is sure about it) from the cold one to totaly warm one and now although she doesnt have a decent answer still she does not assume of what leads us to the future. Its like she is open for future whatsoever.... Im not here to ask you guys if I did the right thing. Because I know I did the right thing I just kept my cool during our convo because really I dont have any grudges from her because I harbor genuine feelings of love and care to this person. I need advice/insights with the potential meet up? what is it to be achieved in this one? Because I know lots of things can happen during this talk / meet up.
Exit Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 (edited) I don't think there is much of a purpose to it. I think you need to focus on the fact that she dug deep and found the courage to tell you the truth when she told you she was only there to apologize. That is a big red flag as you analyze the conversation and try to find out if she wants to get back together. She pretty much said no. It was probably not easy for her to admit that you to, as you said it was making her cry, if she could have avoided saying that at all, she probably would have. She said it because she needed to. I understand you're trying to find the hope in the fact that she said she would meet with you again to maybe talk more, but in typical confusing woman fashion, I have no idea why she said that. But it's been a week and it seems like you haven't heard from her, so I get the feeling it may have been her attempt to just ease the conversation to a conclusion by saying maybe you would talk more later. You already made it clear that you don't want to just be friends, so if she does end up getting in touch to ask about hanging out, you should tell her again that you are only interested in working things out and that watching a movie or getting a drink as friends is not what you are looking for right now. Edited July 31, 2012 by Exit
Author Boynextdoor Posted July 31, 2012 Author Posted July 31, 2012 (edited) I don't think there is much of a purpose to it. I think you need to focus on the fact that she dug deep and found the courage to tell you the truth when she told you she was only there to apologize. That is a big red flag as you analyze the conversation and try to find out if she wants to get back together. She pretty much said no. It was probably not easy for her to admit that you to, as you said it was making her cry, if she could have avoided saying that at all, she probably would have. She said it because she needed to. I understand you're trying to find the hope in the fact that she said she would meet with you again to maybe talk more, but in typical confusing woman fashion, I have no idea why she said that. But it's been a week and it seems like you haven't heard from her, so I get the feeling it may have been her attempt to just ease the conversation to a conclusion by saying maybe you would talk more later. You already made it clear that you don't want to just be friends, so if she does end up getting in touch to ask about hanging out, you should tell her again that you are only interested in working things out and that watching a movie or getting a drink as friends is not what you are looking for right now. Basically we've been appart 3 mo's now. So really I don't see the point of her doing that. Because we were not in contact she doesn't really hear anything from me and vise versa. I would say that the guilt is what brought her in. I wasnt supposed to tell her that I cant be friends with her and stuff but I felt like doing so because I dont see the point of us talking further if we will just play games with each other. We talk long once in a while and I must admit those were good talks. Given the fact that she only wanted to apologize. What bothers me is the fact of wanting to see me STILL. I dont want to be a hypocrite here. Reconciliation is what Im rooting for thats why I wana make sure I am seeing things the way I should. Edited July 31, 2012 by Boynextdoor
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