Occu3.14'd Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 So I've been especially miserable today, and I posted this thread earlier: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/338393-14-days-nc-im-going-lose Well, I just went to the convenience store. There was a police officer in front of me at the light to pull into the plaza. As it turns out, he pulled the person over in front of him for some violation, and in doing so, he blocked the normal part of the parking lot where I pull in and park. This forced me to pull around the other side of the building, where I parked over there. As I'm waiting in line to purchase a soda, I notice out the window that my ex-girlfriend just pulled out. She had apparently just walked out on the other side, while I was walking in. If that police officer hadn't pulled the person over in front of the lot, I would've ended up right next to her, and most definitely would have run into her. I have been dreaming of this moment where we happen to run into eachother. And now I just missed the opportunity because of some random thing. It's not like we go to the same places, so this really was pure coincidence. Just seeing her and knowing that I was THIS close to bumping into her has completely frazzled me. I am literally shaking as I type this. I wanted to see her so bad, and knowing that I was literally a second away from doing so is killing me. Now my brain is going crazy. Did she see my car and avoid me? Why wasn't she at therapy? (It's entirely possible that she changed her appointment time, but rational thought is out of the question right now). What if we did run into eachother? I can't even think straight right now, and I have a huge project that I need to finish for work tomorrow morning. I am literally shaking as I type. What the hell do I do?
zanzi Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 it was a coincidence. If you had seen her, would you be ready to talk to her without the angle of trying to get her back? Because exes don't react well to that kind of thing unless sometimes a long period of time has passed.
Author Occu3.14'd Posted July 31, 2012 Author Posted July 31, 2012 it was a coincidence. If you had seen her, would you be ready to talk to her without the angle of trying to get her back? Because exes don't react well to that kind of thing unless sometimes a long period of time has passed. I meant it is a sign that I shouldn't contact her. If it were any other moment in time, I would've run into her.
sage1320 Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 Be happy that you got to see her by herself and not with someone else
Pod81 Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 Stop overanalyzing everything and just count your blessings that you didn't run into each other. Just a small hiccup in your NC as opposed to a full blown NC break. Also, stop caring about what she's doing in her life! She's out of your life and she owes you NOTHING! What difference would it have made if you guys actually did see each other anyway? You would have gotten temporary relief for about one minute and ended up hitting rock bottom. Think of it as as a cigarette addiction. So, you ask what do you do now? Go right back to NC!
Hindsight_is_20_20 Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 I meant it is a sign that I shouldn't contact her. If it were any other moment in time, I would've run into her. It might be. I think the sign is more pointing towards how you're interpreting seeing her. I think you know your own answers. Maybe it's fate or maybe not. You know in your heart of hearts what it means to you. Follow your gut instinct. Don't make any split second decisions based off of emotion. Be still, think through any actions before you take them. You are going to be okay. Trust yourself, it'll remind you that you're in control of you and only you are ultimately the key to your own happiness.
zanzi Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 I think you only think it was a sign because you have feelings for her and miss her. Your looking for things to validate that.
weallfalldown Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 Stop overanalyzing everything and just count your blessings that you didn't run into each other. Just a small hiccup in your NC as opposed to a full blown NC break. Also, stop caring about what she's doing in her life! She's out of your life and she owes you NOTHING! What difference would it have made if you guys actually did see each other anyway? You would have gotten temporary relief for about one minute and ended up hitting rock bottom. Think of it as as a cigarette addiction. So, you ask what do you do now? Go right back to NC! Completely agree.....it's easy to over analyze things, let it get the better of you!. I went through a stage of thinking i saw my ex everywhere i went, and in every car i thought i saw her in....now that's losing it!....... Just carry on nc dude!.
edelveis Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 yeah it is a sign..but you have to read it well and learn from it.dont ignore the signs..
flitzanu Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 you got the sign backwards. it wasn't OMG IF THAT COP WASN'T THERE I'D HAVE RAN INTO HER!!!!!!!!!! the sign was OMG that cop was there and delayed me and fate helped me avoid running into her. 1
todreaminblue Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 So I've been especially miserable today, and I posted this thread earlier: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/338393-14-days-nc-im-going-lose Well, I just went to the convenience store. There was a police officer in front of me at the light to pull into the plaza. As it turns out, he pulled the person over in front of him for some violation, and in doing so, he blocked the normal part of the parking lot where I pull in and park. This forced me to pull around the other side of the building, where I parked over there. As I'm waiting in line to purchase a soda, I notice out the window that my ex-girlfriend just pulled out. She had apparently just walked out on the other side, while I was walking in. If that police officer hadn't pulled the person over in front of the lot, I would've ended up right next to her, and most definitely would have run into her. I have been dreaming of this moment where we happen to run into eachother. And now I just missed the opportunity because of some random thing. It's not like we go to the same places, so this really was pure coincidence. Just seeing her and knowing that I was THIS close to bumping into her has completely frazzled me. I am literally shaking as I type this. I wanted to see her so bad, and knowing that I was literally a second away from doing so is killing me. Now my brain is going crazy. Did she see my car and avoid me? Why wasn't she at therapy? (It's entirely possible that she changed her appointment time, but rational thought is out of the question right now). What if we did run into eachother? I can't even think straight right now, and I have a huge project that I need to finish for work tomorrow morning. I am literally shaking as I type. What the hell do I do? What if you got off the bus that hit the dog that the policeman tried to catch because its owner didnt do poo patrol and then the policeman tripped over a stilletto that was attached to a foot of the girlfriend of the person he pulled over after you had gotten your car back from the impound lot and that could have all been avoided and you met her because the doorway was open for a second longer and the person who opened the door did not check out his reflection ....does your head hurt yet......mine does a little i havent slept i could do more.....random is random there is nor rhyme and reason behind it.Random is life and life is a box of chocolates on a shelf in a chocolate shop in a shopping centre in a suburb in a state in a conglomerate of states in a country.....now which freaking box of chocolates would you like.....just buy one.....any RANDOM BOX its still going to be there, dont ask are we therrrrrrrrre yet....nobody knows and you never know what you are going to git..thankyou forrrrrrrrest run forrrrrrrest ruun save some chockies for me...see groundhog day ive said that before what should i do.......oh no....im teasing....i give you big hugs its all cool joe you know just go with the flow.....debxoxo
weallfalldown Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 What if you got off the bus that hit the dog that the policeman tried to catch because its owner didnt do poo patrol and then the policeman tripped over a stilletto that was attached to a foot of the girlfriend of the person he pulled over after you had gotten your car back from the impound lot and that could have all been avoided and you met her because the doorway was open for a second longer and the person who opened the door did not check out his reflection ....does your head hurt yet......mine does a little i havent slept i could do more.....random is random there is nor rhyme and reason behind it.Random is life and life is a box of chocolates on a shelf in a chocolate shop in a shopping centre in a suburb in a state in a conglomerate of states in a country.....now which freaking box of chocolates would you like.....just buy one.....any RANDOM BOX its still going to be there, dont ask are we therrrrrrrrre yet....nobody knows and you never know what you are going to git..thankyou forrrrrrrrest run forrrrrrrest ruun save some chockies for me...see groundhog day ive said that before what should i do.......oh no....im teasing....i give you big hugs its all cool joe you know just go with the flow.....debxoxo have you ever used comma's and full stops?......
LvRorynVan Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 I feel just as pathetic as you do( not to be mean, i promise). My behavior is just as whacked, im lonely, im only focusing on the good things about my ex, I just want to smell his skin and kiss him and hug him and hear him tell me he loves me again. I want to bump into him and have him realize he misses me terribly. He left me a wk ago and Im having a hard time keeping it together. Obviously we are both caring people with hearts that beat, and our ex's are a couple of heartless zombie bast****. F them! We can do this! They dont deserve us! They never did! We are too good for them! AAAAAHHH! im losing my da** mind! lol But seriously, we'll both be ok!
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