mearl20 Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 This guy and I had a pretty deep conversation on how much we like each other (he was out of town so it was over text-it was also the deepest conversation we've had with each other). I also was telling him it didn't feel like he really liked me because we hadn't talked in a month when we used to talk every day. After I told him I felt confused because he didn't talk to me for a while, he told me he understands he wasn't the best guy to talk to but he really likes me more than I think, etc. His last text with that conversation said "youre the best girl I've ever met and I really like you so much it's crazy youre so down to earth and I respect everything you stand for but idk why you care about me so much when you could be with so many other guys instead?". I was confused by that last part and asked if he didn't want me to care about him and he said "That's not what I meant, I was just curious about the whole ordeal because I honestly don't mess around and I didn't want to be wasting your time". I told him he wasn't wasting my time. But I'm still confused by that last text about he doesn't mess around and he didn't want to be wasting my time. Can you give some insight on what he meant by that?
chphan Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 (edited) I told him he wasn't wasting my time. But I'm still confused by that last text about he doesn't mess around and he didn't want to be wasting my time. Can you give some insight on what he meant by that? He doesn't want to mess around with the dating dance of does she like me or does she like me not. He wants to get pass all that and go straight for a relationship with you if you like him as much as he like you. But he doesn't want to waste your time if you aren't into him as much as he is with you if you prefer to multi-date or shop around instead of just being with him. That's what I gather. Basically he just cut through the chase and laid his cards on the table and you now have to decide if you want to settle for him or still window shop. Edited July 30, 2012 by chphan
Author mearl20 Posted July 30, 2012 Author Posted July 30, 2012 I guess I'm confused because we've been talking for 6 months and I was away at school, yet he still talked to me then last month he randomly stopped talking to me for a month. We were supposed to see each other one night then he never responded to me and we never saw each other. A month later I thought it would be a good idea to text him that I miss him. He responded apologizing for not talking to me. That's when we got into the conversation and I told him I was hurt and confused because he didn't talk to me. He then told me he needed to talk to me when he sees me and that he's going back to another state to live with his grandparents. Where I get lost is why would he want a relationship if he's leaving and I'm going to school soon?
chphan Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 Where I get lost is why would he want a relationship if he's leaving and I'm going to school soon? That's something you have to discuss further with him on. Maybe in the end he thinks you are worth it and like you enough that he will do the long distance relationship like other people.
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