mister_nonameuk Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Prelude: A few weeks ago I made a silly mistake by agreeing to embark on a “let’s see how it goes” scenario. I knew A (let’s call her A, who works in our company) liked me more then I do/did her but I told her explicitly that I wasn’t promising nor was I expecting anything. She confessed never having had a fling before but was happy to meet up in the context of “let’s have fun, let’s see how it goes”. In a nutshell, we met, we kissed but we didn’t do it as she wasn’t comfortable with the idea of just having fun. Initially a bit awkward, but eventually we ended things on good terms. Main act: 3 weeks later, I met B. when I had somestuff to sort out in another section of the company. We felt attracted to each other and went out on a date that lasted 6 hours…we had such a good time that we forgot about time. So we decided to meet a few days later to go for a meal and cinema. On the day we are meant to meet, I received a text from A. She texts saying: You really know how to make a girl feel bad. I reply: why? She: You have only been out on a date with my best friend! A was hurt (as she felt rejected)… I met with B and explained what had happened, said I wasn’t interested in A…that I had been thinking about her (B) everyday since we first met. I thought that in this sort of situation I had to let her know the truth. I felt that I hadn’t done anything wrong as far as the scenario with A is concerned. We were both single, agreed on casual before meeting, didn’t work, talked it out and we moved on… B said that she was shocked, that she could understand why A is hurt, but she also said that she liked me and that she wanted to see me. We would have to take things very slowly and that hopefully in time A would be ok with it. We finished coffee and decided to go for the film. In the cinema we kissed but there was this cloud hanging over our heads. She told me she needed to take her time to think about how to convey it to A. The next day, I texted to see how she was. No reply. I waited 2 days. Next text sent, asking how she was and if we could meet before her trip (she is abroad for 6 weeks). No reply. Another 2 days later she replies apologising for not replying earlier, that she was still trying to her head around the whole thing and that she was grateful for the space I was giving her. I replied a day later saying what I had said before, that I was thinking about her every day, that I could understand how difficult it is for her and that I also hope that she can find a way for us to be together. I then suggested to talk, on the phone or in person, about everything before she goes on her 6 week trip. Well, I haven’t heard from her since that last text message which is 2 weeks ago. So what shall I do? Send her another text? Wait for her to come back and then text? Or wait to hear from her? Provided I will ever hear from her again… I liked her but I am no doormat. I don’t think she is treating me fairly. Why can’t she text me? If she doesn’t want to see me again, fine…at least I can deal with it now and move on…and not wait 6 weeks to be told. On the other hand, if she does want to see me again, I fear that this sort of thing could happen again. I mean this playing mind games…she knows the deal, the ball is in her court. She either doesn’t want to play ball or she is being strategic… Anyway, I thought I tell you my story and I would be grateful for some constructive opinions. Many thanks…
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