Radu Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 Actually they put the 1% there mostly because nothing is 100% sure. Condoms for instance can be as low as 70% efficiency if not properly stored or used, and most ppl don't know how to properly store them. Patch/Injection made it simpler though with hormonal.
Silly_Girl Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 ' I agree to some extent that while you cannot control when and whom you fall in love with, I didn't say that...?
pink_sugar Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 Actually they put the 1% there mostly because nothing is 100% sure. Condoms for instance can be as low as 70% efficiency if not properly stored or used, and most ppl don't know how to properly store them. Patch/Injection made it simpler though with hormonal. Of course, I'm just saying many people prefer to say it "didn't work" rather than "I was skipping pills, taking antibiotics while on pills, the condom broke and I didn't use a backup method etc etc"
Lauriebell82 Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 I wanted to get married in my mid 20's...got married at 27. I wanted to have children in early 30's, I got baby fever after getting married and had my son 3 months ago at age 29. So I guess I wasn't THAT much off target! 2
Author Coffee20 Posted August 1, 2012 Author Posted August 1, 2012 I wanted to get married in my mid 20's...got married at 27. I wanted to have children in early 30's, I got baby fever after getting married and had my son 3 months ago at age 29. So I guess I wasn't THAT much off target! aaaah that's so nice age, I wish you good luck ;-)
Radu Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 I wanted to get married in my mid 20's...got married at 27. I wanted to have children in early 30's, I got baby fever after getting married and had my son 3 months ago at age 29. So I guess I wasn't THAT much off target! He'll get lonely all alone ... just sayin' .
RiverRunning Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 Of course, I'm just saying many people prefer to say it "didn't work" rather than "I was skipping pills, taking antibiotics while on pills, the condom broke and I didn't use a backup method etc etc" Those are always the best. I remember I was on Facebook once and one of my old friends from high school got pregnant. She started complaining, "OMG, I was taking the pill and we used condoms and..." Then others started to poke and prod at her. OK, she admitted, they used condoms SOMETIMES, and sometimes they put them on a little late. OK, OK. So she missed pills here and there, took them late, etc...BUT REALLY, WHY WAS SHE PREGNANT?! I fell over laughing. Eventually, when others started calling her out, she took the post down. 4
BetheButterfly Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 ....and when do you want to get married? I hope to have my first baby this or next year!!! I already have the names picked out, though my hubby disagrees with the name for if we have a boy. My husband and I got married almost a year ago and I have never ever regretted committing to him!!! 1
Author Coffee20 Posted August 1, 2012 Author Posted August 1, 2012 I hope to have my first baby this or next year!!! I already have the names picked out, though my hubby disagrees with the name for if we have a boy. My husband and I got married almost a year ago and I have never ever regretted committing to him!!! that's so beautiful , how much I adore people who have love like that 1
pink_sugar Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 Those are always the best. I remember I was on Facebook once and one of my old friends from high school got pregnant. She started complaining, "OMG, I was taking the pill and we used condoms and..." Then others started to poke and prod at her. OK, she admitted, they used condoms SOMETIMES, and sometimes they put them on a little late. OK, OK. So she missed pills here and there, took them late, etc...BUT REALLY, WHY WAS SHE PREGNANT?! I fell over laughing. Eventually, when others started calling her out, she took the post down. Haha and then there are those who are like "Omg I'm pregnant, I had no f-ing clue, how did this happen?" Me: "Did you use any birth control?" "No." Me: "Explain to me how it's so shocking." LOL 2
Radu Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 I hope to have my first baby this or next year!!! I already have the names picked out, though my hubby disagrees with the name for if we have a boy. My husband and I got married almost a year ago and I have never ever regretted committing to him!!! Name him Radu, problem solved. 3
january2011 Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 When I was in my teens, I planned to get married by the time I was 27, have my first child before I hit 30 and then my second child in my early 30s. None of that came to pass. I'm now looking at marriage in the next year or so and trying for a child before I hit 40. If everything lines up, then it could happen. Or it might not - from experience, life seems to find a way to throw a few curve balls. If it does not work out then I might consider adoption or just focus on being the best aunt I can be to my nephews and nieces. I already get my fix of spending time with children while volunteering, so it helps to relieve the ache somewhat.
Radu Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 I know of a few guys who found their wives in an MMORPG. Just sayin' january, there are around 15million single guys playing these games, and if you do join and say you are a woman they go like 'uh-uh-uh ... girl ... soft'.
january2011 Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 I know of a few guys who found their wives in an MMORPG. Just sayin' january, there are around 15million single guys playing these games, and if you do join and say you are a woman they go like 'uh-uh-uh ... girl ... soft'. While I appreciate that you're trying to be helpful, Radu, I have an SO, so I'm not looking. And while I'm a gamer, I don't like the MMORPG environment. I wouldn't look for a boyfriend on those sites - playing games online is for killing time only and not for socialising. Nor would I reveal my gender on those sites - big mistake, in my opinion.
Freckas Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 I often wonder this myself. But I know im wasting my time because, just because Im finally ready to stop putting it off, doesnt mean the first time I dont use a condom that It will happen, even a 6 months from that, cause I am 29... Now 25 and under seem like all my friends got preggo in that age frame, maybe its easier in that age frame younger and so forth. Ive recently got off wbutrin and adderal now so when we do start trying, i wont have to get off meds and withdrawel for a month... my 2 cents. alot of married couples that have kids that are grown say "there is never a RIGHT time, doit while your young" young being late twentys to early 30's not "young young" (twenties) 1
123321 Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 If I had my druthers, as they say, I would have gotten married in my late 20's or early 30's to a woman in her 20's, and around our 5th wedding anniversary when I was early or mid 30's and she was mid-late 20's we could have started a family. I think that's ideal, fits in well with the man having a little time to develop a career and doesn't push the fertility envelope to hard. It's the sort of plan I would promote to young people who want a family. Unfortunately I didn't DO this, so that's not my life, but I make the best of what I have now.
syz Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 I thought about it but it never worked out.. at 43 I'm glad I haven't. Though I still see my two step children from a previous relationship and am crazy about them. My soon to be ex has 4 kids and I'm pretty well done with dating people who have kids. I've told her she needs to be with someone who also has children so they can consistently put their children first (the way a good parent should) and have it be equitable and fair to the other person.
Krytie TV Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 I don't wanna have kids until I'm 40... about 2 years from now. 1
BetheButterfly Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 Name him Radu, problem solved. Lol! Radu is a catchy name!
yessy21 Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 I was 19 when i first had my bubas. her father was 26. there is no right time. but if i could suggest a good age....it would be after 25 because your just more patient and children need a lot of patience. 2
pink_sugar Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 Yeah people were assuming I was pregnant when I got married at 19 or assumed we'd be having kids right after. Most of my friends who had kids shortly after high school are living with parents with their kids or on welfare or food stamps. IMO, I think people should be at least 25 before having a baby. These days, most people are not emotionally or financially ready to care for a child until at least their mid-twenties. 2
MissBee Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 (edited) ....and when do you want to get married? Not before I'm 30 do I want to have kids. I could possibly get married before that, but if I do, I'd still delay the kids. I was talking to my bestfriend about that a few days ago saying that I thought I'd be ready to have kids and get married at 27 but being a few years short of that, I realize I'm in no way ready! I'm quite enjoying not having to look out for anyone but me and just up and traveling and doing what I want. I definitely want to be a mom and have been having baby envy recently , but I know that realistically I have a lot I want to do right now that requires lots of freedom to go and come. 30s are the new 20s anyway lol, so I think by then I'd have gotten some stuff out of the way and my kids won't have to compete with my desire to be free. My mom also had me when she was 29 going on 30 and I think that contributed to her being a good mom, among other things, as she was well into her career and was over wanting to be free lol, so when she had me, it was planned and she was fully ready for that step. Edited August 2, 2012 by MissBee 1
SunandMoon Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 I don't know if there is a specific age. More when I feel I am ready for the responsibility, which comes with age, I suppose. 1
kristisha Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 i got married at 22 and i want to have a kid on 30-35 1
Radu Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 I often wonder this myself. But I know im wasting my time because, just because Im finally ready to stop putting it off, doesnt mean the first time I dont use a condom that It will happen, even a 6 months from that, cause I am 29... Now 25 and under seem like all my friends got preggo in that age frame, maybe its easier in that age frame younger and so forth. Ive recently got off wbutrin and adderal now so when we do start trying, i wont have to get off meds and withdrawel for a month... my 2 cents. alot of married couples that have kids that are grown say "there is never a RIGHT time, doit while your young" young being late twentys to early 30's not "young young" (twenties) Women in their early 30's are more fertile than women in their early 20's. On ovulation there is a higher probability that the egg will be released, and they reach their sexual peak at around 30, as opposed to guys at 20. However all of this became meaningless when they came up with BC.
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