wow04 Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 I am not sure where to post this. My Bf and I live together. We have a pretty amazing relationship. We have had issues, but worked through them. A few weeks ago I woke up in the middle of the night to him having me in a headlock and poking my eye. He was asleep. I woke him up and asked what he was doing. He stated he dreamed he was fighting someone. He felt horrible for it. A couple nights ago I woke up to him kneeing me in the back. I got a little mad and yelled. He again was fighting in a dream. He apologized and felt even more horrible. Last night I woke up to being punched in the stomach. Once again he was dreaming of fighting someone. We talked about it. He is afraid he is going to hurt me and wants to start sleeping in separate beds. I don't want to sleep in separate beds, but don't want to get hurt either. We fall asleep in each other's arms every night. I couldn't imagine him not sleeping with me. Has anyone had any experience in this?
Pyro Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 So how much acid do I have to take to emulate the female mind? Listen you can either wait for him to play Rambo in his sleep or you can sleep in separate beds. Is it possible for you to ever give a response without a smart ass comment towards women? I am not sure where to post this. My Bf and I live together. We have a pretty amazing relationship. We have had issues, but worked through them. A few weeks ago I woke up in the middle of the night to him having me in a headlock and poking my eye. He was asleep. I woke him up and asked what he was doing. He stated he dreamed he was fighting someone. He felt horrible for it. A couple nights ago I woke up to him kneeing me in the back. I got a little mad and yelled. He again was fighting in a dream. He apologized and felt even more horrible. Last night I woke up to being punched in the stomach. Once again he was dreaming of fighting someone. We talked about it. He is afraid he is going to hurt me and wants to start sleeping in separate beds. I don't want to sleep in separate beds, but don't want to get hurt either. We fall asleep in each other's arms every night. I couldn't imagine him not sleeping with me. Has anyone had any experience in this? I haven't experienced it but for now it is best to sleep in separate beds. He may end up grabbing a hold of your neck one night and snap it. Maybe there is a professional he can talk to about this and they may have a way for him to relax at night.
Author wow04 Posted July 30, 2012 Author Posted July 30, 2012 Thanks Pyro. I just hate the thought of not sleeping with him. Going to have to come up with something though. I just find it hard to believe that I am the only person to come across this.
Pyro Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Thanks Pyro. I just hate the thought of not sleeping with him. Going to have to come up with something though. I just find it hard to believe that I am the only person to come across this. I would be devastated too if I had to sleep separate from my wife so I understand. Do a search and see if there is someone that he can talk to about this.
Pyro Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 I suppose it's theoretically possible. Not in these kinds of threads though. then there is no reason for you to post in 'these kind of threads'
Author wow04 Posted July 30, 2012 Author Posted July 30, 2012 google "parasomnia" Thanks, I did. I will go over what I have found with him this evening. I also seen that it can be related to some medications.
TigerCub Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Thanks Pyro. I just hate the thought of not sleeping with him. Going to have to come up with something though. I just find it hard to believe that I am the only person to come across this. You're not the only one to come across this. Well, ok, it hasn't happened to me, but I know that my bf sleep walks and he has told me of a bunch of weird instances where he thinks that there is an intruder in the house and the needs to fight them off and stuff. I've never witnessed his sleep walking - but we're going to move in together in the fall and its something that has crossed my mind. So far I've witnessed the talking in his sleep but not the crazy fighting off intruders sleep walking stuff. In his case, he does admit that his sleep walking happens and increases in frequency when he's really stressed out - maybe its the same for your boyfriend, so getting a professional's help would be a good idea. For now though, it would be a good idea to do the separate beds thing (as much as you don't like the thought of not sleeping next to each other) - but until this is all figured out, it really would be the safest option. Good luck
knitwit Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Sounds like REM behavior? He really needs to see a specialist. You're not safe sleeping with him; even sleeping alone, he is at risk for injury. If you're in the US you should be able to get an appt pretty quickly if you let the office know the reason for it (e.g. possible REM behavior d/o or other parasomnia, vs sleep apnea or insomnia). Good luck! 1
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