Tommie91 Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Hi guys, I know I'm new here but I've tried asking a few people and am still not sure what to do so I was wondering what others would have to say (from an objective point of view). Basically, I met this girl who works in the same shopping complex as me. After we exchanged a few words over time we realised that we went to the same college together. So one day I decided to ask her to coffee at college one day. It went well and I grabbed her number and then I arranged a follow-up coffee the a few days later. After this second coffee session, I asked if she'd like to go to dinner, so the following week we went to dinner and although the conversation was rather superficial (not very heavy), the time flew by and there were no awkward silences and before we knew it almost 4 hours had passed. There was occasional flirting but that was about it. Then again I assume although I never used the word "date" she got the hint that this wasn't casual considering I'd only known her really for 2 weeks before and I was hardly gonna ask for a "casual dinner" from someone that I'd only known for 2 weeks. Anyway we continued to see each other at work (in fact the next morning she dropped by with a coffee for me) and exchanged the odd SMS every few days but we didn't catch up for another 3 or 4 weeks because we both had exams and had very little time. Anyway, after exams we arranged for a casual night out where we went to a bar for a few drinks. However I went overseas during the holiday break for 5 weeks. I grabbed her e-mail and we exchanged a couple e-mails, but not many at all. I feel like up to this point all the signs were positive but I think my 5 week holiday may have killed any momentum we were having. We're both pretty busy and I've just got back a few days ago and I don't know what my next move should be. When I first asked her to coffee, I wasn't interested, it was more as a casual "work friends" catch up but this soon quickly grew into something more for me. Part of me thinks maybe I should have let her know I was interested right before I left for my holiday to give her time to think about it but I don't know now. Anyway, what do you guys think? Should I perhaps ask her to coffee again now that college is back and tell her we can catch up and talk about what we've been up to? Should I wait before I straight up say "I think I'm kinda interested in you"? Because I feel after 2 coffee sessions, a dinner and a night out for drinks, it should be time to let her know, not through subtle hints but blatantly just so I can see if she's feeling a similar way. I don't know though if I should say it first catch-up after this 5 week stint away or wait for perhaps the second? Any advice would be appreciated! Thanks, Tommie
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