Do the dumpers eventually realise their not so happy without there ex?

[Matt145]

I split up with my Ex a month ago, she still loves me and misses me and i was the only real person who was there for her, for example her dog went missing one day and i stayed out from 12 mid-day till 11pm in the night helping her find it and making her feel better non of her friends helped. I think she has GIGS when she dumped me she didnt give me any real reasons why she did it, she just said she felt like she had to do it and that she wanted to be free and not tied down. So there is not much i can do in the situation. But since we have broke up she has been partying every week, going out nearly every day with her friends, something she didnt do when we was together. And she told me she is happy the way her life is going. But my question is will she realise one day that her life isnt going so well and shes not that happy and that she was wrong in dumping me?

[stillafool]

Do the dumpers eventually realise their not so happy without there ex?

 

Rarely. Sorry.

Edited July 30, 2012 by stillafool

[salmagundi]

It happens...I've seen it myself in my circle of friends. Not often mind you... But even if a collection of random strangers answer your thread with anecdotal stories of so and so getting back together with such and such. What does that give you? Hope?

 

Hope is a killer and grasping at straws to keep hope alive will keep you down in a hole well beyond the time that you should have gotten over this breakup and moved on to whatever (or whoever) life has to offer you. Because that is the point right? Your next girlfriend is already on her way, you both just don't know it yet.

 

If I were you (and i should follow my own advice here) I would forget hope. If she comes back she comes back but you need to move on anyway to make that happen. In my opinion anyway...

[Matt145]

It happens...I've seen it myself in my circle of friends. Not often mind you... But even if a collection of random strangers answer your thread with anecdotal stories of so and so getting back together with such and such. What does that give you? Hope?

 

Hope is a killer and grasping at straws to keep hope alive will keep you down in a hole well beyond the time that you should have gotten over this breakup and moved on to whatever (or whoever) life has to offer you. Because that is the point right? Your next girlfriend is already on her way, you both just don't know it yet.

 

If I were you (and i should follow my own advice here) I would forget hope. If she comes back she comes back but you need to move on anyway to make that happen. In my opinion anyway...

 

I am on my way to moving on. Im not desperate to get her back if she came back anytime soon i would consider it, but its always nice when your ex dumps you and they come crawling back later down the line only for you to tell them you dont want nothing to do with them:p.

[Dblock10]

i wouldn't have said so, specially as she sounds young and probably felt held back when she was with you.. this is why when you get a gf you need to do fun stuff with them as much as possible, i think this is important. its nice having some fun with them going to events or festivals having things in common helps.

 

 

best thing to do is go out have fun like she is, stay in nc or lc and just make her see what she's missing. you have to grow as a person now without her. your look back and realise this was for the best

[Matt145]

i wouldn't have said so, specially as she sounds young and probably felt held back when she was with you.. this is why when you get a gf you need to do fun stuff with them as much as possible, i think this is important. its nice having some fun with them going to events or festivals having things in common helps.

 

 

best thing to do is go out have fun like she is, stay in nc or lc and just make her see what she's missing. you have to grow as a person now without her. your look back and realise this was for the best

 

Maybe i will look back and realise it was for the best