johnwb Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Hey guys, Unsure how to explain this little embarrassing. Also im on an ipod with no spell checker so dont think im thick ha Basically were going back 4 years ago i was with my best gf v strong love (im skipping lots so its not a mega long post) we never got to sleep together btw as her parents were v protective. I was at her house one night and finding something on her pc for her n i found a couple of pics of her i thought id like as she looked hot in them. They wernt seedy or dirty by any means, just her messing about in a shop changing room larking with her friend. I emailed them to myself without mentioning it but then thought, is that a bit wrong despite them not being bad pics? So i deleted the email. 4 years later im bored (last night) and i find them on hotmail for some odd reason, really thought they had gone! Despite me having 2 girlfriends since, i always hold some feelings for her and i regretfully used the pictures to 'pleasure' myself with. It was only afterwards i thought **** is that really wrong, she looks the same nowadays basically but i must have been 18 when i sent them and her like 15 on these pics and also despite them not being dodgey, like nude or anything, i shouldnt probably have ever owned them. Is what ive done terrible? I feel it could also be my ocd making it a big deal. thanks in advance as I know its perhaps a little off-putting to reply to but I'm not sure if its something i'm massively blowing out of proportion.
MCMLXXXIX Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 To steal your GF's picture wasn't very nice to begin with. However you were young and horny so it's understandable. Your GF may have felt the same. I don't think it's wrong to go back and fantasize (in your head or otherwise) about a past partner when you are single. Using pictures you stole is a bit creepy, but it's nothing out of the ordinary. Yet if you have a different girlfriend you are committed to right now it is wrong. If you still feel sexually aroused and perhaps even in love with your GF of 4 years ago I suggest you come clean. Perhaps, if things ended well and she isn't in a relationship, get back in touch. Just don't tell her about the pictures
Author johnwb Posted July 31, 2012 Author Posted July 31, 2012 Thanks for the reply. Yeah I don't know, I probably did it initially as they wern't particually bad. Or even much worse than she had on anyway, so it wasnt like terrible. I thought I'd deleted them anyway, I think maybe I hold this strange like desire for her in some way as she was my deepest love by a long way but yet I never got to sleep with her. Maybe that's why I don't know. But I obviously didn't think I'd feel bad or I wouldn't have done it, but I did after and obv got rid of everything. Think I've gone a bit OCD and guilty as I'm thinking like I shouldn't of had them ever etc
MCMLXXXIX Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 Maybe, as you say, you get excited because you two never had sex. Keep that in mind.
BellaMarieOC Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 If she had sent these pics to you it would be a different story, but you have them without her consent. I don't think it's okay to use them now. Delete them and be done with it.
Author johnwb Posted August 1, 2012 Author Posted August 1, 2012 If she had sent these pics to you it would be a different story, but you have them without her consent. I don't think it's okay to use them now. Delete them and be done with it. Yeah i did and i totally agree. Thats whats so odd, i remember deleting it there & then at her house. I must of just not thought when i found them again. I can assure you though, and im not saying it makes it okay, but they really are nothing. I mean its not even as bad as a girl dressing up for a standard night out really. But yeah, should i feel extreamly guilty like i do?
BellaMarieOC Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 Yeah i did and i totally agree. Thats whats so odd, i remember deleting it there & then at her house. I must of just not thought when i found them again. I can assure you though, and im not saying it makes it okay, but they really are nothing. I mean its not even as bad as a girl dressing up for a standard night out really. But yeah, should i feel extreamly guilty like i do? When you delete something for some emails servers it doesn't automatically mean it's gone forever. For example when I delete things from my Outlook account it goes into a deleted folder and then have to empty that for it to go away forever. Even then there are ways to bring it back. But that's neither here nor there. You shouldn't feel extremely guilty, but it's good you do feel some kind of guilt. It's not like you committed some crime or stood outside her bedroom window to jack off. You simply found an old picture you stole from her and used it. Just move on.
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