Is it a setback?Why is it happening now that i am much better?

[edelveis]

Hello everyone.. a few of you might be knowng about my case and my road to recovery.

 

5 days ago almost 3 months after the break up i was feeling so well.Strong,confident,sure,calm..I was sure that i were almost over her.A day could pass without thinking of her and i had started feeling that we are done forever.I didnt even care what she was up to or with who she is spendig her days and i wasnt bothered by her photos in facebook..The most important is that i was having the feeling when you know that she has no power in my life anymore.

 

But suddenly 5 days ago out of the blue i dreamed of her..and the worst thing is that i dreamed of her again.and again..and now its 5 days in a row..and this made me thinking of her more and has confused me a bit.i still feel strong but these dreams made me think of her more.

 

Why is this happening?do you think its a setback?Or just a normal part of the healing proccess coz its just 3 months after the BU?

[barese1]

This is a curious one. It sounds like you have managed to get rid of her from your conscious mind but she's still there on a subconcious level. I wouldn't worry about it, in a way it sounds like your 'awake' mind has managed to reject her and the 'silent' mind is still working through that.

 

I wouldn't say its a setback but just give it some time and hopefully these dreams will stop, especially if they don't start making you think about her all the time as they may do.

[Ruby65]

STOP looking at her photos in Facebook. Block her!!!

 

You're telling yourself "she has no power over me"..... but your subconscious mind is now telling you IN DREAMS that this is not true.

 

NC includes no snooping on Facebook. Block her now!!!

[barese1]

o yeah, definately block her. It will torture you no end if you don't!

[edelveis]

Thank you alll guys.i also think that my subconcious mind is still working on that.

I would have already deleted her but we broke up like friends and i dont want to give her the pleasure to think that i deleted her coz i am not recovered yet and by facebook she has an impact in my life..i want her to think that i have moved on already.

[theskyisblue]

It does sound like she is still on your mind when you dream which must be frustrating. I'm interested that you said you broke up as friends which is why you won't delete her on fb. I was dumped but was civil about it and I think won't delete my ex on fb for the same reasons. Maybe this isn't helping us though?

[Ruby65]

It does sound like she is still on your mind when you dream which must be frustrating. I'm interested that you said you broke up as friends which is why you won't delete her on fb. I was dumped but was civil about it and I think won't delete my ex on fb for the same reasons. Maybe this isn't helping us though?

 

Exactly -- it's not helping.

 

It's just letting them know that you're still too attached to sever that last final tie to them.

 

If you were truly indifferent and over her, you wouldn't need to cling to her Facebook account, you'd be able to walk away. WHO CARES what she thinks, one way or the other?

[edelveis]

Theskyisblue so i guess u have a similar situation.i cant be sure if its helping us or not but i want to be that strong to face her even in facebook.Learn not to be bothered by her moving on and show her that i am moving on too.Do you find it hard till now?

 

Ruby65 i dont cling on her favebook page.i never oppen it..i just see my newsfeed and thats where sometimes i see something of her.In the past she had said to me that her ex was so imature and weak that deleted her on facebook..i dont want to give her that expression after the break up..

The good news are that i didnt dream of her yesterday night and i am feeling so good now about that :D !!i broke the 5 times in a row hehe