He broke up with me by sending me a real time photo of him kissing another girl

[sendme]

FYI.... this is a repost of some of this content....

 

my bf cheated, I just found out a week ago... now he's traveling for business... its 3 am where he is... and he is MIA.... who the hell does this...

 

even if he's not cheating... why would you treat someone who is giving you a second chance with such little regard?

 

this is absolutely insane... I'm sitting here going crazy, I want to scream at him, to make him see that I am amazing and deserve better.... and yet I'm trying so hard not to freak out on him....

 

how do I walk away... I really want to work things out with him... whats the matter with me I should just be DONE.... ugggghhh someone please give me there strength so I can get this jerk out of my life FOREVER!!!

 

oh my God... he got back to his room, I called him in his room... told him that after cheating on me it wasn't ok for him to go out to the bars while traveling... told him it wasn't okay for him to go MIA... I yelled and got angry... he apologized and then got defensive and said he didn't do anything wrong...

 

then I said that if he didn't think he did anything wrong there was nothing left between us... I said if he wanted to be a single man he should be a single man, but if he wanted to be with me he should have gotten dinner in his room and stayed in and talked and chatted with me... or gone out to a quick dinner and been back to his room in an hour...

 

we fought via text back and forth...

 

he went down to the hotel bar...

 

sent me a picture that said ten minutes for this girl to tell me i was beautiful, and another ten for this girl to tell me how lucky she was I kissed her.

 

he sent me a picture of the girl who told him he was beautiful and a picture of the girl he was kissing...

 

I am so crushed...

 

it's 1:30 am.... who is this cruel.... we had sex this morning... how could he... I wish this all was just some terrible nightmare....

[SeventhFloor]

Real-time thread for those who didn't follow.

 

What you do in the next few weeks will determine who you are. This situation that has happened to you is, undoubtedly, an agonizing, dreadful ordeal that will destroy your self-image, -esteem, and -worth. It is also, I believe, absolutely a blessing in disguise. The way you feel now, is the way that many of us here on LS have felt before. You are at rock bottom. Well guess what? There is only one way to go: up.

 

Now, you've gotten rid of this loser. Now, you're cutting off all contact and means for him to contact, control, and manipulate you. Now, you are free from the burden of his dishonesty, disloyalty and disrespect.

 

You start medical school in three days. You are to become a doctor: a well-respected, highly educated contributor to society with a specialized skill-set that is extremely sought after. Now that you are free from his burden, you can delve into making yourself into the type of person that you want to be without fear of him casting his shadow over you, making you miserable. DO NOT LET THIS OPPORTUNITY GO TO WASTE.

 

Allow yourself time to heal, time to grieve. Allow yourself to feel the pain, and all of the normal feelings that accompany this sort of traumatic event. Do not hide it. Do not self-medicate with drugs and alcohol (they WILL make it worse). Feel what you feel naturally, and fully, and be present and at peace with the pain. This will make you into a stronger person. When you are sick of feeling, distract yourself with your work. Become the best doctor you can be, and then, become even better.

 

Keep up with everyone at LS. Vent if you need to. Cry, scream, rage...and then laugh. For sure, laugh, because it's the best medicine out there. The time you used to spend with him can now be delegated to better things: your friends, your family, your hobbies and interests.

 

Understand that you've been given a gift by the universe in that you've seen this man's true colors. This is NOT the type of person you want to be with. You deserve to be with someone who will love you, respect you, treat you amazing. Now that LOSER is out of your life, you finally have the opportunity and the chance to have someone like that walk INTO your life.

 

When one door closes, another opens. So take the chance. Be happy that this happened now, and not while you were in the middle of your studies so you'd have a greater chance at failing out and ruining your WHOLE CAREER over someone who doesn't even deserve to be around when you succeed (because you will).

 

DO NOT EVER CONTACT HIM AGAIN. DO NOT EVER ANSWER ANY ATTEMPT FOR HIM TO CONTACT YOU. DO NOT EVER SPEAK WITH HIM WHEN HE TRIES.

 

Don't ever forget who you are. In the words of Tupac Shakur,

 

"I know it seems hard sometimes, but...remember one thing: Through every dark night, there's a bright day after that. So no matter how hard it get, stick your chest out, keep your head up, and handle it."

[sendme]

Thank you seventh floor... your post is beautiful and I will certainly revisit it and process it when I can think...

 

What I do know is that this will absolutely not affect my self esteem or my self worth... I went through that when I first realized he cheated on me... and I've spent every day since that day working to not let him wound my self esteem or self worth... its part of what pushed him to the point he got to tonight, the fact that he could be hateful and demeaning and it not break me or wound me...

 

No what he did tonight has nothing, absolutely nothing to do with who I am, nothing to do with my value or worth, what he did tonight is all his own bundle of crazy... I don't think there is a person on this planet who wouldn't agree that what he did tonight is seriously effed up... I mean beyond average cruel... it is not a reflection of me, but a reflection of how truly damaged he is...

 

up until this summer when he realized how easy it was to screw around with loose women... he had only been intimate in relationships he had been monogamous, what tonight has shown me, is that now that he knows he can get that ego boost any time he's hurting, he's not going to stop anytime soon... every cruel thing he has ever said or done has been in response to his wanting to stop feeling a negative emotion... to stop feeling guilt, or shame, or loneliness, or fear... he's a never ending cycle of over emoting and then trying not to feel it, and now that he's using sex with strangers to fill that void he's only going to fall further down that rabbit hole....

 

What happened tonight is not a reflection of me, but a reflection of how weak his capacity to truly feel emotion, and now that his sex addiction has spread to sex outside of relationship it is truly going to own him... and I hope ruin his life...

[YorickBrown]

That dirty rotten jerk!!!!

 

Well....it could have been worse...he could have been kissing a boy

[barese1]

This guy sounds like complete scum. Hopefully it'll make it easier to move on

[Chi townD]

You know what? I know that you want to give him a piece of your mind. Yell and scream at him. But, he really doesn't deserve a word from your mouth. Cut him out of your life now. Block him on FB. Change your number and never talk to this ass clown again.

 

Sooner or later, you're gonna want to know why? Or you'll want some sort of "closure". Well, I say that you've gotten it. For him to be so cruel as to send you a pic of him kissing another girl should tell you volumes on how he feels about you and he really isn't worth your time. IGNORE HIM.

 

Never talk to him again and post here often.

[Sugarkane]

I'm afraid OP people are cowards these days and like to take the easy way out. I got dumped cruelly by an assclown too. If I can cut me completely off, so can you! Then Go and do something nice for yourself, just for you.