kaleykaley2006 Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 (edited) My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. We got together the summer after he graduated high school and I was entering my senior year. Now I have graduated and he is going to be a Sophomore in college. I love him so very much and he has been the very best thing that has ever happened to me. We have never fought during our entire relationship, and we have made so many happy memories together. He respects me and I respect him. For the past month and a half he has been acting very strange. He got kind of distant. We used to text everyday from morning until night when we would say goodnight together. He stopped texting me first for days, and we wouldn't text for very long. Then he stopped saying unexpected nice things to me. For example he used to randomly text me how happy I made him or how beautiful I was, and things like that. A month ago two of our best friends got engaged. They are the same age as us. Personally I think it is a little young, but they've had a perfect relationship and are wonderful together. Around that same time my boyfriend started acting a little weird. About a month ago I asked him why he was acting so distant and if there was anything wrong. He said that he didn't think anything was wrong and he asked if I did. I said that he had been acting really distant lately, so I didn't know if he was just stressed or tired. (He had been looking for a job for a while, and this was stressing him out) He said that he was pretty stressed and tired, and then he said that he had also been thinking a lot about the future lately, and us. I asked him if it was bad, and he said it wasn't and that I shouldn't worry about it. A couple weeks later he was still acting weird and distant, so I asked him if he was mad at me. He said no and not to worry about. We talked things through and everything seemed okay. Our 11 months came around and he didn't even mention hanging out that day. I got my friend to text him and tell him that I was really wishing that he would ask me on a date. Then my boyfriend texted me and said that he wished he could take me on a date, but he had work that day at 4. Then he said maybe we could try to hang out the next day. He also had recently gotten a job, so he said that he wouldn't have as much time to hang out anymore. So we went on that date and it went pretty well. I thought things were back to normal. Then last week he stopped saying I love you first, and sometimes he wouldn't even say it at all after I said it over text. Then he would stop texting me first. For the past two days I decided not to text him at all and see what would happen. We did not text at all for 2 days. Then today he texted me: Him: "How are you?" Me: "I'm doing alright. :)" Him: "Good. I'm wondering if there's a time, soon, where we can have a chat in person." Me: "Umm yeah. Anytime this week would probably work." Him: "Good. Tuesday sound good?" Me: "Yeah, that sounds great. :)" Him: "Fantastic. :)" And then we talked for a while longer. Basically I'm freaking out because I think he is going to break up with me. I really don't want to break up. He basically kept me sane throughout my senior year and I don't know how I'm going to survive starting college without him. He's my rock. Everything seemed absolutely perfect and we were so happy together before he started acting weird. What do you think? Is he going to break up with me? What do I say if that actually happens? Edited July 30, 2012 by kaleykaley2006
LittlePrince Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Rocks eventually crumble into dust swept away by sea or air.
utterer of lies Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 What do you think? Is he going to break up with me? What do I say if that actually happens? It doesn't matter. If he feels like he wants to break up, there's nothing you can do to change it. Even if you manage to guilt-trip him into not breaking up, this won't change how he feels about you.
haribogumsnickers Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 He's distant and less like the person he was in the beginning of your relationship. Clearly, he's changed and so has his life with school and work. In spite of this change, he is very well capable of making the time to spend with you in person or by phone, etc. And, when you honestly asked him if there's something wrong when clearly there is, he brushed it off and said not to worry. Now, he's scheduling to "chat" with you in person? Then again, assumptions are bad. Be strong and go talk to him with an open mind and heart no matter what happens. If he starts the break up speech, just get up and leave. You'll meet someone better when fall semester starts.
LittlePrince Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 He's distant and less like the person he was in the beginning of your relationship. Clearly, he's changed and so has his life with school and work. In spite of this change, he is very well capable of making the time to spend with you in person or by phone, etc. And, when you honestly asked him if there's something wrong when clearly there is, he brushed it off and said not to worry. Now, he's scheduling to "chat" with you in person? Then again, assumptions are bad. Be strong and go talk to him with an open mind and heart no matter what happens. If he starts the break up speech, just get up and leave. You'll meet someone better when fall semester starts. Better to go through the whole break up speech otherwise you risk leaving the relationship in limbo.
haribogumsnickers Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Better to go through the whole break up speech otherwise you risk leaving the relationship in limbo. She could do that. But, it's already in limbo so why further the limboness? I'm just saying that I would just dip out and chuck up the deuces. No wonder I"m still single...
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