generalstanley Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Should you tell them they're attractive while dating? I drop a sexy or beautiful and she looks at me like I said the moon was made out of cheese. Like she thinks I'm lying to her? I do find her sexy and beautiful, no lies involved. So should I just A) Give up. Risk her feeling unloved and thinking I don't find her attractive. B) Keep dropping the sweet words and making her uncomfortable. This whole dating thing gets complicated sometimes.
Silly_Girl Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 B. Women need to learn to take a compliment. Provided you're being sincere you should be able to say these things. And although you think she's uncomfortable when you say it, I wouldn't mind betting she'd get a lot more uncomfortable if you STOPPED saying it
USMCHokie Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Should you tell them they're attractive while dating? Yes. This applies to men just as much as women. For example, I never felt sexy or attractive to women, so hearing it from women I dated helped a lot, even though I'd often feel like they were just being nice or telling me white lies. Eventually, she'll believe it when your actions match your words, and you make her feel sexy without the words. This whole dating thing gets complicated sometimes. It sure does.
mesmerized Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Yes. This applies to men just as much as women. For example, I never felt sexy or attractive to women, so hearing it from women I dated helped a lot, even though I'd often feel like they were just being nice or telling me white lies. Eventually, she'll believe it when your actions match your words, and you make her feel sexy without the words. I agree with this. Sometimes a man looking at us like he can't get enough is much better than him complimenting us with words.
brahmabull117 Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 ugh, nothing worse than an attractive woman who is very insecure about herself/her body and is constantly talking about it I met my friend's girlfriend's friend a few weeks ago and she looks fantastic but she kept going on and on about how she wants to lose weight (even though I thought she was in perfect shape). Biggest turnoff ever Insecurity is horribly unappealing in both men and women
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Yes. This applies to men just as much as women. For example, I never felt sexy or attractive to women, so hearing it from women I dated helped a lot, even though I'd often feel like they were just being nice or telling me white lies. Eventually, she'll believe it when your actions match your words, and you make her feel sexy without the words. It sure does. This. I was going to ask you how you act when a woman gushes about how handsome you are. It is one of those moments where you don't always know what to say!
LittlePrince Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 I agree with this. Sometimes a man looking at us like he can't get enough is much better than him complimenting us with words. Sometimes = top 1% of men women find attractive
USMCHokie Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 I was going to ask you how you act when a woman gushes about how handsome you are. + "Thanks..."
LittlePrince Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 This. I was going to ask you how you act when a woman gushes about how handsome you are. It is one of those moments where you don't always know what to say! I always know what to say. "What is the con this time?"
ptp Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Yes. This applies to men just as much as women. For example, I never felt sexy or attractive to women, so hearing it from women I dated helped a lot, even though I'd often feel like they were just being nice or telling me white lies. Dude why do you have to make it a race thing? Don't asian, hispanic and black women lie? 1
USMCHokie Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Dude why do you have to make it a race thing? Don't asian, hispanic and black women lie? Well played, good sir, well played... :laugh:
brahmabull117 Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Dude why do you have to make it a race thing? Don't asian, hispanic and black women lie? http://i0.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/newsfeed/000/307/189/6fe.jpg
Feelin Frisky Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 All things in proportion. Assuming she doesn't think he's all that and you do, I'd say pick some times and ways of expressing it that can't be seen as anything but sincere and spontaneous. My first LTR that led to a live-together relationship was with someone who was teased by peers and ridiculed by a cruel aunt for having "pop eyes". To me they were her most attracting feature--I found myself wanting to see her eyes all the time. Knowing she was sensitive though I'd just call her "pretty eyes" when we were looking in each others eyes on occasion. She's usually deflect it back at me because she loves my blues. But I'm sure I convinced her that those peepers were very special.
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