I feel like giving up on us.

[cheche]

Hi,

I was wondering if you would help me. Well I've been dating a guy online for a 3 months. We used to talk everyday, but due to the fact that he does not have internet anymore our communication has dwindled. Also he only has free weekends on his cell, so the only thing left for us to do is text eachother during the week and call during the weekends. Well for the past month he's been so busy finding a new job, that he barely speaks to me. So I really make a big deal out of him calling me on the weekends. However, it seems like i do 90% of the calling and 90% of that time he never answers or calls me back. I tried addressing this to him and I even sent him a phone card, but he still barely calls. The last time I heard his actual voice was 2 weeks ago. I just don't understand how one person could be so busy all weekend that he cannot pick up the phone and call me.

 

Well this weekend feels like the last draw. We were texting each other last week and I asked him if we could talk this weekend, becasue we didn't talk in while. He said no problem. Well this weekend came and I have yet to hear his voice. I called and I left several messages stressing how imporant it is that we talk because its effecting our relationship. I text him once Saturday, and he said he would text me back, but has not. Well right this relationship is really getting on my nerves. Everytime the weekend comes I get depressed about the fact the fact he isn't accessible and also the fact that I do much of the calling. I feel pathetic, because it makes me come across as if I am sweating him, when the fact is I'm just trying to get our time on the weekend together. I spent all day today crying. Sometimes I feel like he doesn't give a damn me or the relationship. I hope I didn;t goof by leaving all the messages. I'm trying so hard to be patient with him, but I lost the spark I had for him. Please help make the right choice.

[miz_barby]

Sorry but doesn't sound like much of a "relationship" is left.....

 

If you've lost the "spark" why hold on? If he doesn't contact you then there isn't much of a thing to hold on to.

 

I say don't contact him again, see if he does you but chances are it'll be awhile. I say move on and find someone who respects you!

[thrillhouse]

No dont do that, because what if he feels the same way but just isnt as open or admitted it yet... what if he does the same thing and waits for you to call then, both waiting for each other but not doing anything... try what miz_barby said BUT dont hold off completely for him, just try and hold it down a bit and see if he notices... and hopefully he should make up for it and will show you that the spark is still there but he really is just caught up with a lot of things too...

[donna351]

I'm kinda in a situation like yours and I'm getting frustrated. I'm very busy also, my husband was away for a year in Iraq, he is now back he is stationed in Kansas and I live in New mexico.. he calls me but we only talk for maybe 5 minutes a day... I get really frustrated, I figure we spent a whole year apart, and now that he can pick up the phone and call all I hear is excuses like I'm tired, I'm going to bed. My cell phone isn't charged. He never answers the phone when I call. I believe if someone is interested in you they are going to call, they will make the time and effort. And talk for more than 5 minutes. But when I mention this to him.. I get you are Jealous, insecure blah blah blah. Hey I'm not a jealous person things he does makes me think this way. What would you think if.. when he was home, he got calls from another girl, hurt because he hasn't called her. And when I was off work he turned the phone off or on silent each time. Always wanted me to move to kansas and now makes excuses for me not too. When I'm in Kansas we stay in the hotel the whole time. Now I don't call him anymore, I'll let him call me, he called me this morning but watch this evening or tonight he wont call, if he does it will be a 3 minute call.