Halo1988 Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 (edited) I met an older guy (40) I'm (24) we dated for approximately 4 months and from the very day we first decided to hangout there wasn't a day we didn't see one another. We did everything together. From eating to sleeping. He was unemployed and as time progressed I seen he was very lazy, he lives with a cousin. During this time he got a cell phone and hid it from me and never gave me the number, he chatted with other women on my computer on facebook, he tried to talk to other girls in front of me and when I got upset he'd always say it's not what it seems. Hd even tried to choke me when i kicked him out of my house for hiding a cellphone. My breaking point was on my birthday when he didn't even give me a card after I hosted him in my home for 3 months. Assisted him with government assistance to get hisself back together and went with him to the doctor when he was sick. He said he was trying to mold me. He called twice after that but I told him if he needs to keep calling private not to call. He hasnt. *I was in his neighborhood two weeks ago I stopped by to say hello with a friend and he groped her breast. He asked if i was pregnant? Sarcastically i said yes with twins *i dont know why he asked . I also lied and told him i had a new bf to get a reaction .Since then I haven't heard from him.his two friends called after he left me to ask if I'm ok. But, I feel like he's trying to past me on. *I know he's no good for me. But, I'm hurting so much. I miss him we dis everything together and for him to just leave like that makes it seem like he just used me. Help! Am I being dramatic? Does he even care? I'm hurting so much. I'm lost. How could you wake and sleep to the same person for 4 months straight and have no regard and be so disconnected? Unfortunately I started to love him.* Edited July 30, 2012 by Halo1988
yogamobb Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 He would have done you no good in the long run. Its hard, but let him go.
zanzi Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Maybe you should re-read his description. To me, it sounds like you wasted your time, he is no good. His acts half his age, less even. He is abusive mentally, psychially and verbally. He sounds dangerous, selfish, callous, is a cheater, a womaniser, and a scrub, as tlc would say. I do not think you " loved" him but were just lonely. Ask yourself where your self esteem is at, to let another person wipe the floor with you the way you have done. Trust me, you are well shot of him. He is one to throw away and never look back. Once you get rid of him you will find a handsome, caring, attentive man closer to your age who will not use and abuse you in such a manner. You need to examine yourself here, and forget about this person. Because for some reason, you felt the need to introduce a destructive and selfish ******* into your life.
YorickBrown Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 I met an older guy (40) I'm (24) we dated for approximately 4 months and from the very day we first decided to hangout there wasn't a day we didn't see one another. We did everything together. From eating to sleeping. He was unemployed and as time progressed I seen he was very lazy, he lives with a cousin. During this time he got a cell phone and hid it from me and never gave me the number, he chatted with other women on my computer on facebook, he tried to talk to other girls in front of me and when I got upset he'd always say it's not what it seems. Hd even tried to choke me when i kicked him out of my house for hiding a cellphone. My breaking point was on my birthday when he didn't even give me a card after I hosted him in my home for 3 months. Assisted him with government assistance to get hisself back together and went with him to the doctor when he was sick. He said he was trying to mold me. He called twice after that but I told him if he needs to keep calling private not to call. He hasnt. *I was in his neighborhood two weeks ago I stopped by to say hello with a friend and he groped her breast. He asked if i was pregnant? Sarcastically i said yes with twins *i dont know why he asked . I also lied and told him i had a new bf to get a reaction .Since then I haven't heard from him.his two friends called after he left me to ask if I'm ok. But, I feel like he's trying to past me on. *I know he's no good for me. But, I'm hurting so much. I miss him we dis everything together and for him to just leave like that makes it seem like he just used me. Help! Am I being dramatic? Does he even care? I'm hurting so much. I'm lost. How could you wake and sleep to the same person for 4 months straight and have no regard and be so disconnected? Unfortunately I started to love him.* UNFRIGGINBELIEVABLE!!! Are you friggin kidding me?!? This guy is a keeper!!!! (this is sarcasm btw) And no, you're not being dramatic...you're just...uhmmm..wait, what's the word im looking for....idiotic. Seriously....KEEP AWAY FROM HIM. In fact, if he comes after you (which he most likely will do later on)...get a restraining order. I know what you're gonna say...you're thinking of giving him a chance, and/or you can still change/reform him...<sigh> 1
dannykeyz831 Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 whoa whoa whoa, he's 40? and you're 24? that's already a red flag there and u even admit that he's lazy and groping women's breast...no offense but he sounds like a total loser. dump him immediately!!! 1
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