SJC2008 Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 I'm not a first date kisser and really don't see the point. A first date is really a feeling out session for lack of a better term to see if there's common interestes/a spark etc. Not couting this last woman, I got past the 1st date with the last 4 women and I did not kiss them on the first date. Now one I rejected but know I could of gotten a second date becuase she texted me 3 times before I even texted once. Anyway, I had my 1st 1st date kiss ever and she didn't call back. I didn't care, I was neutral about her and I really shouldn't of bothered lol oh well. So guys and gals what's your opinion of kissing on the first??
USMCHokie Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 What's the point of kissing on a first date?? To taste what your date had for dinner in case you regret what you ordered. 4
USMCHokie Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 I would only kiss if I get the signal she wants it. Just pay attention.
Pyro Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 No, its just KISS her. I'm sure for some a first kiss may lead to more physical type activities and that is why they go for it.
USMCHokie Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 No, its just KISS her. I stand corrected. Damnit, I'm just no good at this...
madjac74 Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 As the lobster said in little mermaid "Just kiss de girl" It isn't rocket science. If she has yummy lips, you like her and your faces are in the same general area...then just kiss her. A good kiss is better than sex
carhill Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 So guys and gals what's your opinion of kissing on the first?? It can be perceived as romantic intent and/or sexual interest. It delineates the path as romantic versus platonic. Some people have physical boundaries which allow this kind of contact with essential strangers. Others boundaries are different. If your style is to not kiss on first or early dates, how do you show your romantic interest in a potential partner? There are other ways. Give some examples of actions. My personal style is to evolve intimacy and I rarely kiss on first or even second dates, presuming the person is a stranger/unknown prior. Has this cost me potential romantic relationships? Probably. I can think of a few in particular where the woman expressed disappointment that I did not kiss her when she wanted it and that killed her attraction. So, we missed. I generally show affection on early dates with physical contact, hugs and words, both flirting and complimentary. That's my style. IMO, it's about compatibility. Good luck.
Author SJC2008 Posted July 30, 2012 Author Posted July 30, 2012 What's funny is that a lot of women will kiss you even though they already know they aren't going to date you. Mabye I should take advantae of this and go for parking lot makeouts afther the date lol. 1
USMCHokie Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 What's funny is that a lot of women will kiss you even though they already know they aren't going to date you. Some just get caught up in the moment...or they just say, why not? Whether they're going to date you isn't necessarily always relevant in the moment...sometimes a woman will only get as far as, should I kiss him?
carhill Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 What's funny is that a lot of women will kiss you even though they already know they aren't going to date you. Mabye I should take advantae of this and go for parking lot makeouts afther the date lol. Sure, that happens. There's a whole continuum of behaviors surrounding the mating dance, both healthy and unhealthy, which occur. The work is separating out what is healthy and what is not. I have experienced women being inappropriately 'friendly' many times. Mostly they were married. I assigned nothing to it other than a situational emotional process they were going through. In retrospect, I was really irrelevant to that process. In other words, I was just the warm body in front of them. In that regard, I can say I've found single women to be more 'honest'. Fewer fakers and situationalists. YMMV. It's all part of 'getting to know', which is what dating is all about.
DuchessKaye Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 So guys and gals what's your opinion of kissing on the first?? If he buys me dinner, he should at least be rewarded with a kiss or... maybe more
madjac74 Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Easy girls are awesome! I'll be over with a happy meal in 30 minutes
DuchessKaye Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 On a serious note, it actually depends on what you mean by first date, if it's a romantic date and you two are attracted and comfortable, why not? Kissing is fun and exciting. But regardless, it might just be worth waiting for... might just be!
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. I just let it happen when it happens. No rules for it, one great guy I have been on 2 dates with and we still haven't kissed. We just haven't had that "moment of opportunity" yet.
USMCHokie Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. I just let it happen when it happens. No rules for it, one great guy I have been on 2 dates with and we still haven't kissed. We just haven't had that "moment of opportunity" yet. If a guy wants to kiss you, he makes that moment of opportunity...
Silly_Girl Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 I think if you know each other IRL and end up on a date you might well feel confident about compatibility and being attracted to one another so a kiss would seem natural and appropriate. If you met online then I think a kiss is too much on the first meeting, it really is just an ice-breaker and how the momentum works from there is different each time, and if you've both agreed to meet again you can be safe in the knowledge they're somewhat interested in you, so I'd prefer to wait to date 2, if there is a date 2.
DuchessKaye Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Would you guys not feel being friend zoned if you didn't even get a kiss on the first date?
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 It's just dependent on the chemistry, the situation and moment really. For me a kiss or the desire to initiate one isn't something that I plan for, the moment just comes up and there's an opportunity to seize it or act on it and It's a natural flow...the moment kind of creates itself because that other person wants to kiss you too. Sometimes it's less "flowing" and happens suddenly because of a strong attraction or aggressiveness on one particular persons instigation of it but that's not usually myself in that case I love kissing, I think kissing tells you more about feelings, chemistry and compatibility than many other things...a kiss can be filled with emotion, passionate, inflaming...what's not to like about it..unless you're a horrible kisser? A kiss can change a moment instantly, take it to the next level and tell you how you're going to mesh with that person on a physical level...It's kind of like dancing or sex to me, there has to be a certain unsaid and undefined flow and it either works or doesn't. If kissing is an afterthought or thing you do with another person during sex or saying hi and bye, that's a completely different reality than what I'm used to. In fact I think If more men put more focus on what they could do with their mouths and their lips instead of what they could (and probably don't do as great anyway as they think) with their penis...then they might not have to put so much effort in pressuring/cornering a women into a sexual situation just to get laid
madjac74 Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Would you guys not feel being friend zoned if you didn't even get a kiss on the first date? No. Actually the women I was most interested in I didn't kiss until the 2nd date but it was exceptional after that
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 If a guy wants to kiss you, he makes that moment of opportunity... Disagree... Our first date was a driving range. The second date was lunch, it was the middle of the day and we got carried away talking and before I knew it we both had to rush off for prior engagements. We hugged and it just DIDNT happen. Thank goodness because it would have been awkward, I believe in moments, and the first kiss is one that shouldn't be forced.
USMCHokie Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Disagree... Our first date was a driving range. The second date was lunch, it was the middle of the day and we got carried away talking and before I knew it we both had to rush off for prior engagements. We hugged and it just DIDNT happen. Thank goodness because it would have been awkward, I believe in moments, and the first kiss is one that shouldn't be forced. And it shouldn't be forced. That's why you have to create the opportunities, or as we say, set the conditions for success, so that it never feels forced, but instead, completely natural, because you have created the conditions for that magic "moment." Some of it might be planning, but most of it is just quick thinking on the spot and adapting to the situation. My most "forced" first kiss was the re-return...after I dropped the girl off at her house and drove off, I made it about a block down the street, turned around, and then came back to her door and kissed her. I've done that twice in my life...
KungFuJoe Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 No kissing on the first date? If there isn't enough chemistry for even a kiss on the first date, I honestly don't know if there will be a second one. I haven't had a ton of dates but only ONE ever ended with less than a kiss...my very first date and needless to say, there was never a second one.
Emilia Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 A first date is really a feeling out session for lack of a better term to see if there's common interestes/a spark etc. I know whether there is common interest/spark before I go on a date with someone therefore a kiss on the first date is definitely on
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