livelife Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 On twitter, hes subtweeting me and saying stuff like "i'm not in the business of getting used" "you can't be the one who got away if you're the one that walked away" and Don't say one thing to me and something completely different to everyone else. That's it so far, but I know he will keep going. It's hurting me, and Im not texting him at the moment, but he just can't forgive me. I've tried to tell him to be patient with me but he keeps blaming me that I used him which I didn't.
TG1 Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Maybe he feels like he gave you everything and he got hardly anything back in return, or did he, then well in that case you are right in what you are saying but maybe he feels like he did whatever he had to do just to make sure that you were happy but did you take advantage of him though
Author livelife Posted July 30, 2012 Author Posted July 30, 2012 Maybe he feels like he gave you everything and he got hardly anything back in return, or did he, then well in that case you are right in what you are saying but maybe he feels like he did whatever he had to do just to make sure that you were happy but did you take advantage of him though Not at all, he thinks I did because I broke up with him though. I just don't know what to do.
TG1 Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Not at all, he thinks I did because I broke up with him though. I just don't know what to do. Maybe you should call him and or text him, see how it goes, how long ago was it you guys broke up, if it is not too late, call him and see what he does, do you still love him? If you do, that is all that should really matter
Author livelife Posted July 30, 2012 Author Posted July 30, 2012 Maybe you should call him and or text him, see how it goes, how long ago was it you guys broke up, if it is not too late, call him and see what he does, do you still love him? If you do, that is all that should really matter We talked yesterday. It was beginning of June that we broke up He says my actions don't back up my words. This is where the problem comes into play, To him, I tell him I want us to work out. but to others, I mask it and act like im okay, and that bothers him. I told one person I was pretty sure we were done, and I told another when I was mad that he was a jerk. He hasn't put forth the effort to talk to me, or to see me since we last saw eachother which led to an arguement, understandable. So I decided I would give him the space he wants and I need to not make myself miserable liek I have by not hanging out with anyone. So I go out for a day, I post online what i'm doing to show that I am not moping around, and he gets mad and says that my actions say i'm done. Okay, he drinks, he goes out, and I don't get mad, but when I do he gets mad? It doesn't make any sense. I told him this and he realized he is holding me back. I just want to know, how can I show him that I do care and want it to work out, but I still want to go out and have fun, im not about to be a loser and turn down every invite I get.
TG1 Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 We talked yesterday. It was beginning of June that we broke up He says my actions don't back up my words. This is where the problem comes into play, To him, I tell him I want us to work out. but to others, I mask it and act like im okay, and that bothers him. I told one person I was pretty sure we were done, and I told another when I was mad that he was a jerk. He hasn't put forth the effort to talk to me, or to see me since we last saw eachother which led to an arguement, understandable. So I decided I would give him the space he wants and I need to not make myself miserable liek I have by not hanging out with anyone. So I go out for a day, I post online what i'm doing to show that I am not moping around, and he gets mad and says that my actions say i'm done. Okay, he drinks, he goes out, and I don't get mad, but when I do he gets mad? It doesn't make any sense. I told him this and he realized he is holding me back. I just want to know, how can I show him that I do care and want it to work out, but I still want to go out and have fun, im not about to be a loser and turn down every invite I get. Tell him you still love him very much despite all his flaws and that he is the only guy who you can see yourself with but that you still want to go out with your friends and have fun and if he can't understand that, maybe he was never the one for you anyway
Author livelife Posted July 30, 2012 Author Posted July 30, 2012 Tell him you still love him very much despite all his flaws and that he is the only guy who you can see yourself with but that you still want to go out with your friends and have fun and if he can't understand that, maybe he was never the one for you anyway I agree, he seems to be so stuck in the past and that he just can't forgive me, or give me one last chance. I understand it sucks to hear that im saying one thing to him and another to everyone else, but he has to understand my confusion. Plus I'm sure he doesn't say the nicest things about me to other people. I think i'm going to talk to him tonight and if he can't give me one last chance, regardless of how many chances we've had, then like you said he wasn't the one for me.
TG1 Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 I agree, he seems to be so stuck in the past and that he just can't forgive me, or give me one last chance. I understand it sucks to hear that im saying one thing to him and another to everyone else, but he has to understand my confusion. Plus I'm sure he doesn't say the nicest things about me to other people. I think i'm going to talk to him tonight and if he can't give me one last chance, regardless of how many chances we've had, then like you said he wasn't the one for me. Glad that I was able to be of some assistance to you and let me know how it all works out for you
Author livelife Posted July 30, 2012 Author Posted July 30, 2012 Glad that I was able to be of some assistance to you and let me know how it all works out for you I'll keep you updated with how this conversation tonight goes.
TG1 Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 I'll keep you updated with how this conversation tonight goes. Awesome but I need advice too, especially if you go to my thread "I Just Got Into A Huge Fight With My Girlfriend" in the Dating section and you read all the pages of my thread you will understand my situation
AlexanderJames Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 NOOOOO Do not call him. Dont take the bait. Trust me he's feeling **** because he acted like an ******* and lost the woman of his dreams. He's so full of guilt and self hate that he is doing anything he can to reassure himself and get himself believing that you were the badguy and he was the victim. If you lie to yourself enough it becomes a truth to you. Dont let him win and dont elt it get to you. Words are harmless when you know the truth. When you read his tweets replace all of the words with. I'm a self loathing prick who has to try and make my ex feel like **** to make myself feel better. You know the kind of guy your ex really is. You've seen his true colours. Dont let him trick you bub. Write your own tweets. "I cant fight the tears that arent coming" Or Those who live in glass houses shouldnt throw stones. Or I hope lying to yourself helps you sleep at night because I've never slept better. DO NOT TALK TO HIM. If you do Ill say what I want to him as well
Author livelife Posted July 30, 2012 Author Posted July 30, 2012 (edited) NOOOOO Do not call him. Dont take the bait. Trust me he's feeling **** because he acted like an ******* and lost the woman of his dreams. He's so full of guilt and self hate that he is doing anything he can to reassure himself and get himself believing that you were the badguy and he was the victim. If you lie to yourself enough it becomes a truth to you. Dont let him win and dont elt it get to you. Words are harmless when you know the truth. When you read his tweets replace all of the words with. I'm a self loathing prick who has to try and make my ex feel like **** to make myself feel better. You know the kind of guy your ex really is. You've seen his true colours. Dont let him trick you bub. Write your own tweets. "I cant fight the tears that arent coming" Or Those who live in glass houses shouldnt throw stones. Or I hope lying to yourself helps you sleep at night because I've never slept better. DO NOT TALK TO HIM. If you do Ill say what I want to him as well I would never be your friend again if you did that! haha But okay I mean it just sucks having someone think you used them, thats a really crappy feeling. But don't you dare message him. But really, like that would make things way worse and I don't need that. So please, don't. I would be legitimately mad. Edited July 30, 2012 by livelife
AlexanderJames Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Yeah its not fair that he's saying that. But he doesnt think it. Not yet anyway. He's just saying it to feel victimised. It isn't true theres no way you used him! You put him first and sacrificed so much. You would forgive me eventually. I'd be doing you and myself a big favour. Cause I hate this guy. I'm a time bomb waiting to explode! Do not believe a word he says. And do not tell him you love him or any of that. You've come so far! Look at what happened to me when I was on top of thigns and had a slip up. You've tried telling him how you feel, you've tried waiting, you've tried reconciliation. It didnt work. Trying again isnt going to be different. All it will do is hurt you more. If you run to him, Ill be giving him a piece of my mind. Got it ><
Author livelife Posted July 30, 2012 Author Posted July 30, 2012 Yeah its not fair that he's saying that. But he doesnt think it. Not yet anyway. He's just saying it to feel victimised. It isn't true theres no way you used him! You put him first and sacrificed so much. You would forgive me eventually. I'd be doing you and myself a big favour. Cause I hate this guy. I'm a time bomb waiting to explode! Do not believe a word he says. And do not tell him you love him or any of that. You've come so far! Look at what happened to me when I was on top of thigns and had a slip up. You've tried telling him how you feel, you've tried waiting, you've tried reconciliation. It didnt work. Trying again isnt going to be different. All it will do is hurt you more. If you run to him, Ill be giving him a piece of my mind. Got it >< For real though, like that makes me mad that you're saying you're going to say something to him. I appreciate all of your help through it all, but my own sister saying something was bad enough, the last thing I need is for you to say it, and no I probably wouldn't forgive eventually, I hold grudges, especially for something like this.
AlexanderJames Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Okay I wont say anything.. I'll be here waiting to pick up the pieces. Best of luck.
Author livelife Posted July 30, 2012 Author Posted July 30, 2012 Okay I wont say anything.. I'll be here waiting to pick up the pieces. Best of luck. Sorry to lash out, but I really don't want you to.
AlexanderJames Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 I wont dw. But I will point out that there is absolutely no point in deleting your fb if you're going to be following him on twitter.
Author livelife Posted July 30, 2012 Author Posted July 30, 2012 I wont dw. But I will point out that there is absolutely no point in deleting your fb if you're going to be following him on twitter. I'm not following him on twitter, I can still see it though. It's hard to resist that temptation. And If I do make the mistake to message him, if I can't fight the urge, and I do get hurt and upset, I'll make sure not to bring it to you because I know that would make you mad.
AlexanderJames Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Why would it make me mad? You didnt get mad at me for messaging my ex. I get mad at him cause he treats you like this and he's getting away with it.. Look at it this way. Why would you go running back to someone who's saying such nasty things about you on a public social media? Do you really want to continue putting your mental and physical health at jeopardy to try and win back the heart of someone who's acting like a complete child for his own gain? Safe to say if he cared about you or your feelings he wouldnt be lying to the world making you look like a manipulative bitch and him like a poor little victim who gave a girl his heart and got screwed around. How can you still want to reconcile with such a boy. I'm sorry if im being harsh. But I think you need to open your eyes. 1
Author livelife Posted July 30, 2012 Author Posted July 30, 2012 Why would it make me mad? You didnt get mad at me for messaging my ex. I get mad at him cause he treats you like this and he's getting away with it.. Look at it this way. Why would you go running back to someone who's saying such nasty things about you on a public social media? Do you really want to continue putting your mental and physical health at jeopardy to try and win back the heart of someone who's acting like a complete child for his own gain? Safe to say if he cared about you or your feelings he wouldnt be lying to the world making you look like a manipulative bitch and him like a poor little victim who gave a girl his heart and got screwed around. How can you still want to reconcile with such a boy. I'm sorry if im being harsh. But I think you need to open your eyes. I can see that, but I do think people make mistakes, I mean in his eyes, here I am telling him I want to be with him, then going to his friends and calling him an ******* a jerk a douchebag everything you could possibly think of. I'm not going against what you're saying, though, I do agree, but I also like to see both sides of the situation, and I can see his.
AlexanderJames Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 He's made his fair share of mistakes. Everyone does. Your biggest will be putting yourself on the line again for a guy like this. I miss the stronger girl who was set on taking back her life. Not giving it to an undeserving jerk. Do what you need to do its your life. We will all be here for you regardless. I hope you find what you want. 1
Author livelife Posted July 30, 2012 Author Posted July 30, 2012 He's made his fair share of mistakes. Everyone does. Your biggest will be putting yourself on the line again for a guy like this. I miss the stronger girl who was set on taking back her life. Not giving it to an undeserving jerk. Do what you need to do its your life. We will all be here for you regardless. I hope you find what you want. And it's all a learning process. I'm not giving him my all, at all. My eyes have most definitely been open, my guard is MOST DEFINITELY back up, and I most definitely don't trust anyone anymore haha. It's a brick wall. Hard to knock down.
lemonlime Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Why are you telling people something different then how you actually feel? I'd be upset too if I was him. Your lying to other people, and what would your motivation be? I go out with people, I try to not depress them, but I also dont try to play it off like it didnt matter, and neither does my ex. If he did I'd be incredibly hurt, and id probably be done. If you guys did try to work things out it would make for some very awkward conversations, and tension with him and your friends. And between you and your friends since theyd think you were going back to someone that you didnt really ever care about.
Author livelife Posted July 30, 2012 Author Posted July 30, 2012 Why are you telling people something different then how you actually feel? I'd be upset too if I was him. Your lying to other people, and what would your motivation be? I go out with people, I try to not depress them, but I also dont try to play it off like it didnt matter, and neither does my ex. If he did I'd be incredibly hurt, and id probably be done. If you guys did try to work things out it would make for some very awkward conversations, and tension with him and your friends. And between you and your friends since theyd think you were going back to someone that you didnt really ever care about. Because when I was told that he no longer cared, twice, I figured we were done. simple as that. he shouldn't have told me that if he didn't mean it.
Gulf-Delta Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Not at all, he thinks I did because I broke up with him though. I just don't know what to do. He's right. You did walk away, and you did use him.
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