So my friends think I have an 'advantage' being a black male.

[Biscous]

But sometimes it is frustrating because I prefer a lot of women outside my race, white in particular, but it is either I'm not getting strong signals at times or I cannot read signs.

 

I don't think I'm bad looking, by no means. Keep in really good shape and everything. Tall, deep voice. I'm just not sure how a general variety of women see me. I think about this because I live and work in an area where I am a minority, and also I cannot help my preference.

 

Also I dated outside my race before. So it's not everyone or a barrier that I always deal with.

 

Some girls give me a semi-coldish shoulder, or sometimes hot with me. It's so frustrating when thinking about it lol...maybe I'm just ranting.

[Emme]

But sometimes it is frustrating because I prefer a lot of women outside my race, white in particular, but it is either I'm not getting strong signals at times or I cannot read signs.

 

I don't think I'm bad looking, by no means. Keep in really good shape and everything. Tall, deep voice. I'm just not sure how a general variety of women see me. I think about this because I live and work in an area where I am a minority, and also I cannot help my preference.

 

Also I dated outside my race before. So it's not everyone or a barrier that I always deal with.

 

Some girls give me a semi-coldish shoulder, or sometimes hot with me. It's so frustrating when thinking about it lol...maybe I'm just ranting.

 

 

You are taboo, rare in your region. That's why they think you have an advantage. Some women love to bed someone "unique." Now I don't care where you live but I am sure there are a few black people where you are. Even if you have to drive a hour out of town you are not alone.

 

Now if you are getting the cold shoulder it mostly boils down to personality. Since you are in a area where you are the minority then it might also be their preference. Either way I am sure you can find a white woman who would love to date you. See if there are any spots that you might not know about to hook up. Check online or talk to friends.

 

Stay positive. One day you'll find your Queen no matter what color she it.

[Biscous]

Yeah it could be personality or my own perception. In my experience the most flirtatious women have oftentimes been the flakiest, meanwhile some of the ones who gave me the most crap actually were the most strongly attracted to me.

 

My last two exes were neutral upon meeting me until I cracked them. Especially my last ex. When I first met her I could not tell if she was into me or not for over an hour because she had a poker face. She was white but yeah not all women will give me the 'signals' and that is something I need to relearn. Confidence overrides preference, perceptions, personality, all that.

 

Also I could be in my head. This one chick I alluded to that gave me the cold shoulder often times will be the first to say hi to me or acknowledge me. Sometimes she's just like whatever, but we talked and she seems cool. Just can't read her.

[Emme]

My advice is stop trying to read people. Enjoy the moment. That's all you should be thinking about. I tell people when you stop looking for love that is when you will find it. Have fun in life that's the only thing you can do. Have fun on your dates and if there is something there she will let you know.

 

Stop thinking. Have fun.

[Biscous]

I want Spyderman's opinion on this