Biscous Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 I have been over two months NC with my ex after she said she 'needed space'. This would have been fine if we were living close, but we were in a LDR for a good bit of our relationship before I relocated for a job opportunity in another state. I recall her telling me about her ex being a horrible man to her. How he lied. She had to get a restraining order on him. I recall him trying to contact me and she told me to delete the message. I didn't delete it, but I did not look at the message until we broke up. It talked about their relationship, about how my ex lied to this guy (supposed ex fiance) about me, about her promiscuity, a number of things. I did not bother looking at this at the time of the relationship but I pressed her hard why she didn't want me to look. That's in the past now. My dream involved myself and my ex finally seeing each other once again. I saw a few sexually explicitly pictures of her on her phone with other men. I recall that night I was looking at her FB actually (I don't know why) which I guess caught in my subconscious. A number of things have been getting me down internally about her and I. Whether she truly loved me. How could she easily go back to her ex, which I think it is for comfort. It just disturbed me. Another thing I lingered on was during this month she attempted to contact me several times. I can count four occassions where she texted me or contacted me on facebook (mind you, after she removed me and removed our pictures and the ex is talking to her and drove down to see her). The last message she sent me: 'How are you?' 'Biscous please answer me!' 'Okay I get it. I just wanted to see if you're well and happy.' Why the **** is she throwing this all on me after she broke up with me and trying to give me the guilt trip? She essentially asks me to buy a ticket for her to come see me, flakes on me, says she is conflicted and needs space, breaks up with me on FB, then gets back to this 'horrible ex' a month back. I don't owe her **** and she's giving me a guilt trip? Why is she doing this? I don't want her back, but I hate that this illusion of her was in my mind and so close to me and turns out she's not the person I once loved.
Ruby65 Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 She's dropping breadcrumbs for you because: - she likes the attention - things might not be working out with her ex - she wants to keep you as a Plan B in case she doesn't find anyone she likes better - it strokes her ego to be in communication with someone who sees her as special and important - she feels guilty for how she treated you and wants you to reassure her that you don't think she's a bad person.
Author Biscous Posted July 31, 2012 Author Posted July 31, 2012 She's dropping breadcrumbs for you because: - she likes the attention - things might not be working out with her ex - she wants to keep you as a Plan B in case she doesn't find anyone she likes better - it strokes her ego to be in communication with someone who sees her as special and important - she feels guilty for how she treated you and wants you to reassure her that you don't think she's a bad person. The word 'breadcrumbs' is popular on this board but an appropriate word.
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