sendme Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 So... My current boyfriend cheated... while I was out of town... with 9 women... I found out a week and a half ago... I've been shocked, devastated, hurt, insecure, worried, disgusted, and I kept waiting for the anger... well its here now... I am ANGRY.... effing FURIOUS... there are so many issues with our relationship... I should just bail... should've bailed a long time ago... but now that I'm really thinking about bailing I want to make him hurt... he seems proud of himself almost... he actually had the balls to tell me that the whole situation made him "a more confident person", and yesterday we had an argument I asked for a time out he ran to the grocery store to get wine and when he came back he said "you should've come with me I got hit on" like he was all proud of himself... earlier in the day I said he looked handsome, and he said "yeah that's what lets me get all the girls" LIKE REALLLY??? REALLY??? you freaking' bastard..... AND.... as part of his ongoing control issues, he's threatened in fights in the past two weeks to cheat on me and to break up with me... UGGGHHHHHH.... so now... right now I'm angry.... When I leave I want to do it in the way that will hurt him the most... I don't want to cheat on him (that'd affect me as much as it would him), but oh my goodness do I want to break him down... seriously... I'm not a vicious and mean person, but I have tried so hard to be loving and patient and kind, and work through his cheating in an appropriate way... now I just want to wipe that smirk off his face, and rip all his "new-found confidence" through his effing nose....
BrokenMirror Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 So... My current boyfriend cheated... while I was out of town... with 9 women... I found out a week and a half ago... I've been shocked, devastated, hurt, insecure, worried, disgusted, and I kept waiting for the anger... well its here now... I am ANGRY.... effing FURIOUS... there are so many issues with our relationship... I should just bail... should've bailed a long time ago... but now that I'm really thinking about bailing I want to make him hurt... he seems proud of himself almost... he actually had the balls to tell me that the whole situation made him "a more confident person", and yesterday we had an argument I asked for a time out he ran to the grocery store to get wine and when he came back he said "you should've come with me I got hit on" like he was all proud of himself... earlier in the day I said he looked handsome, and he said "yeah that's what lets me get all the girls" LIKE REALLLY??? REALLY??? you freaking' bastard..... AND.... as part of his ongoing control issues, he's threatened in fights in the past two weeks to cheat on me and to break up with me... UGGGHHHHHH.... so now... right now I'm angry.... When I leave I want to do it in the way that will hurt him the most... I don't want to cheat on him (that'd affect me as much as it would him), but oh my goodness do I want to break him down... seriously... I'm not a vicious and mean person, but I have tried so hard to be loving and patient and kind, and work through his cheating in an appropriate way... now I just want to wipe that smirk off his face, and rip all his "new-found confidence" through his effing nose.... Leave him. That's whats going to hurt him. He may not show it, but when he has no one to boast to anymore, and no one to hurt, he will be hurt. You do NOT deserve to be treated LIKE that. You deserve someone that will love you unconditionally and someone that will wake you up with kisses in the morning and make your feel like an angel. Don't take his crap anymore. Leave him. Start no contact with him. We will support you. 1
Eddie Edirol Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 I dont think anything you do will hurt him. if he is boasting in your face, it looks to me like he is trying to get you to break it off with him. That way, he wont have to dump you, and field calls of you crying. If you dump him, you most likely wont contact him again, and he gets off scott free. He cant possibly be hurt if he cheats on you with 9 women. If you want to hurt him, keep dating him with no sex or affection. Then he'd have to work for you. But what you should really do is get far away from him, for your own sanity. I dont think theres anything you can do to hurt him, he's having too much fun. 1
2sure Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Men like him need continual validation any rejection at all really hurts them. So, just dump him, without drama or conversation...if pressed, tell him you guess you're just bored. On your way out the door say " You know that thing you do during sex? It's laughable and really you should stop" . Then in a few days call him and tell him you have an std and that you know it sucks...but he is going to have to let all of his ladies know. 1
Freckas Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 your plan, well all of us ladies can really come up with som things, and the men could too. It would be fun to conjur up ideas, but you would have to execute them. It would be fun to threaten him with an std but your the one he might beat the S*** out of, cause he probly does have one! seriously that sounded mean, I dont condone violence, but I know men like this one has no morals, no BOUNDARIES. GET AWAY FAR AWAY. I didnt see if you lived with him but if he has any access please just protect your property and self, hes obviously and impulsive guy. So get yourself checked regularly, and tell him your moving and maybe your moving in with a guy. or a guy is moving in with you to help out with rent. Not caring will really blow his mind, if you do something for vengeance it can put you at a risk that doesn't even pay off cause people that want to make people angry care about them enough to upset them then your still caring a little. good luck what ever you do please do not stay with him, he is no good. the cheating is enough of a reason. the rubbing it in your face about any subject that can be traced back to him cheating is a reason. him putting your health at risk, and giving you a std or giving you another std if you already had one before, is enough of a reason considering he is not remorseful. I dont care if you are nearly 200 lbs like me and no job, no attention from any man, I would rather be alone, than be with someone that causes me emotional duress or distress. Take it from someone who knows what sanity is worth please guard it with your like, if you have a good mental health (which will diminish, hanign around a person that disregards your wellbeing often and boasts it) it will take you any where. The sky is the limit if you can just move on. Be strong and dont worry about revenge. re-calibrate your fight or flight response you've been in this atmosphere too long to see clearly that your health is at risk, both mental/emotional and physical (std) If you must do it 2 months later, destroy his property or tires or something, 1 out of 9 choices who it is lol. Im sure there is no need for inducing karma like that but if you must....
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