Just call me peanut Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 The "boy child" and I are having issues in our, dare I say "relationship"... ^ years ago when him and I first met our friendship quickly turned into what I thought was a real relationship... when we first met he told me right off that he loved me... he had this weird look of all I can best describe it as "puppy love" I didn't want a boyfriend at the time... I had just come off a relationship with another 2 star loser who was insecure with himself and wasn't right for me. hes an only child and he beats on his chest and says to me "look all hollow" he does this cause his dad used to hit him in the chest with his fists. when we started dating his dad would tell him... " I want to run you over with the car and collect the life insurance on you!" I should have known to"stay far away" from this kid and his abusive dad...but i didn't. don't get me wrong, this kiddo that I "dated" hes a nice guy and when we started dating he was great with me... over the last year, I have discovered that he has had financial issues over the past 8 years... hes in debt out the wazoo and he cant save money to help himself... he asks me for large amounts of cash even though he knows I'm looking for a job at the moment and have been... and he still won't pay be back the $30 I loaned him! the economy in my small town sucks... hes from an dysfunctional family, his mom left him when he was 3 and his dad was an alcoholic, is very narcissistic and has other health issues and the boyfriend lives with his dad, cause hes not responsible enough to save money to move away from his dads... the boyfriend, he has health problems and is brain damaged because his mom excessively smoked and drank while she was pregnant with him... its like the common sense part of his brain is missing or something... hes gotten in trouble with the law in the past... and he doesn't care about his hygiene and drinks pop all the time in excess... which has lead to hospital stays. he "pretended" to give a rats ya know about me and my talents as of late are the most important thing in my life right now, or becoming more so... hes also had issues with his dads past girlfriends... getting drunk and violent... real Jerry Springer stupid crap... point is I just moved to a bigger city and am getting ready to start my life over without him... for the first time in years the talent stuff might be taking off for me...there is a theatre not too far from where i live and the people there really like me, so Ive got a shot at getting this job. What really grinds my gears and upsets me is that he said he loved me... which was b.s. cause all I was good for was to be his arm candy to boost this shrinking self esteem from being abused by his dad...this little boy is 27 by the way... and what makes me even more upset was when people say they like the thraete stuff like I do then walk away and not be there for me. the sad thing is he still wants to delusion ally believe that him and I are still together. he texts me messages that say "honey you make me so happy...I don't deserve you. your right bud...I don't deserve a looser like you who cant get his act together... I don't deserve a moron who cant get financially stable... I pride myself on the fact that I am more than capable to save money. hope he has fun being immature playing games on his phone, living with his daddy whose immature as well... Ive unfortunately gotten to know this kid and his "dad" for lack of a better word over the past 6 years. even when he spent the night for my b-day he was talking to his "dad" about financial issues...debt out the ass! and playing games on his phone... this "little boy" is the kind of people i meet in my small cancerous no talent I expect you to be a looser like me... town. went through something similar with one of my parents...all I'm gonna say is having a parent smother you and make you afraid of life... is so wrong. that's why I'm in a new town, hopefully going to get healthy and looking forward to making new friends...also those who can help with my theatre ventures...and who love the art of theatre just as much as me! Sorry for the long winded "rant" this has been a buggin me since as of late... what do you do when a boyfriend isn't what you thought, and you want to start the theater stuff but you have no where to turn and no one to help you when I no longer have the boyfriend in my life...and I'm not #1 to him anymore? all I can think of is that for some reason he is clinging to his abusive past, hes told me that his family wanted him to see a shrink, but he didn't want to go... he doesn't brush his teeth...guess his dad put alcohol and pop in his baby bottle when he was little and didn't teach him how to brush his teeth...hell he doesn't even wear cologne! he told me that when he was little he was going to be taken into foster care cause his retarded narcissistic I have to beat my kid with a belt "loving super loser" father... maybe he should have been taken by the state...at least then he would have had a chance at a loving family who would raise him to be a good kid and a productive member of society.
brahmabull117 Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 Sounds like a trainwreck of a man. I don't know what you want us to tell you other than dump him
veggirl Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 you literally have nothing positive to say about him. break up with him. it's really that straight-forward. you won't change him.
TaraMaiden Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 You can't fix him. This is a job for a professional, and a medically-trained one at that. It's true - you need to distance yourself from this potential disaster. It's clearly not a happening thing.
thatone Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 but don't disappear, show up in 6 months telling us about the next "nice guy" you meet who only gives you his credit card bills to pay and a black eye every now and then, not all the time.
Chunky Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 Let him down gently. It sounds like he's having real problems.
Imajerk17 Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 You need to break up with him. And meanwhile you're to blame too. You need to be asking yourself why you get involved with these losers yourself.
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