Trying89 Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 This is just a bit of a rant really but if anyone has any advice or encouraging words id love to hear them. My ex broke up with me about a month ago I think its G.i.g.s but thats not really important. We have a daughter together so I have to see him more than once every week! For some reason its got to the point where I cant stand the thought of seeing him. I dont hate him I obviously still love him. But I would actually rather not see him ever again but I cant do anything about it. Its getting me down and no one seems to understand. Its actually making me want to cry right now. Maybe im in the anger and depression stages now I dont know. I am seeing a counsellor from Thurday onwards im hoping i wont feel this way after ive got everything off my chest. Most exes can part ways forever if they want to but I cant and it sucks. I love my daughter though and would never stop her seeing her Daddy he is a good Dad. I guess ill have to suck it up rant over.
weallfalldown Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 hey...i'm sorry it must be hard. Luckily my ex and me never had kids. But my daughters mother made my life hell. iIf i were you, just say you need some space for a while to sort your head out, and he as to accept thaT, as he caused this in the first place. When your feeling better then carry on. if he argues about it, say tough ****...!
Ruby65 Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 You WILL get over the feelings of anger and sadness, but you have to give yourself time to fully grieve and move on. A month is no time at all! I've been divorced from my son's dad for many years now and believe me I never thought it would happen, but we're actually on very friendly terms now. Try to have faith this situation will only get better over time. It really will!
Author Trying89 Posted July 30, 2012 Author Posted July 30, 2012 Thank you for your replys I have spent the last couple of days with family and have calmed down abit. I feel better about having to see him, I saw him earlier when he picked our Daughter up and dropped her off. Its only for a min if that and so its really not that bad. I do want us to be friendly so feel abit silly now but I know anger is just part of the healing process. Im feeling hopeful about the future today x
theskyisblue Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Hey that's good that you were able to be with family and that made you feel better. It must be tough when there are kids involved but you sound like you're doing well! Just take it step by step and keep strong!
darkmoon Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 go for cognitive therapy, it's good, some therapists can be useless and just talk in platitudes. cognitive makes you see your life in a better light
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