NYC-BigKat Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 Um...this is what happened last night. Lets talk about it for a moment ok? I met this girl at the dental office friday. She worked as the secretary & she was very very nice to me. I was about to ask her out right there then I remembered what u people been telling me alot & I didn't do it. So I just left things be & did nothing. I was the last person in the office called to see the dentist. She joked about me being the last man on earth & I was amused by that . Um...anyway my checkup went ok. I just needed some cleaning thats it & then I came back out to see her about follow up stuff right? Anyway, uh, we just started talking & she kept talking to me & she asked me about my education & I told her I graduated college with a master's degree & before I was able to tell her more she got really really excited & said I had to be such a great smart guy & most guys aren't smart except the dentists she works with & stuff. I dont know . So I said let me just ask her out to a movie for saturday & she said yes! I was super-duper happy & kept thinking about her all night into yesterday. Um, let me explain that she looks avg but she has curves and a great flat stomach so I know she stays in shape. I need to lose some pds but I'm ok I'm not that bad. I play football & stuff so it keeps me very strong. Um, I didn't get to take her out last night 'cause she said it was raining. I didn't see any rain but she lives in Queens so maybe it rained over there? I dont know who knows? Um..we talked on the phone & text alot last night anyway. It was both & it was kinda fun. Um...somehow things came up about relationships & she said that she never turned a guy down before. Thats really weird isn't it? I always thought girls turned down guys alot & are picky. Why hasn't she done it before yet? What's wrong here? My friend says she probably would go out with anybody so I'm nothing special then he laughed. Is he right? I feel bad about writing so much. I tend to talk alot sometimes .
morichu Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 How about you just go on a date with her and see what happens? 4
Shaun-Dro Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 Um...this is what happened last night. Lets talk about it for a moment ok? I met this girl at the dental office friday. She worked as the secretary & she was very very nice to me. I was about to ask her out right there then I remembered what u people been telling me alot & I didn't do it. So I just left things be & did nothing. I was the last person in the office called to see the dentist. She joked about me being the last man on earth & I was amused by that . Um...anyway my checkup went ok. I just needed some cleaning thats it & then I came back out to see her about follow up stuff right? Anyway, uh, we just started talking & she kept talking to me & she asked me about my education & I told her I graduated college with a master's degree & before I was able to tell her more she got really really excited & said I had to be such a great smart guy & most guys aren't smart except the dentists she works with & stuff. I dont know . So I said let me just ask her out to a movie for saturday & she said yes! I was super-duper happy & kept thinking about her all night into yesterday. Um, let me explain that she looks avg but she has curves and a great flat stomach so I know she stays in shape. I need to lose some pds but I'm ok I'm not that bad. I play football & stuff so it keeps me very strong. Um, I didn't get to take her out last night 'cause she said it was raining. I didn't see any rain but she lives in Queens so maybe it rained over there? I dont know who knows? Um..we talked on the phone & text alot last night anyway. It was both & it was kinda fun. Um...somehow things came up about relationships & she said that she never turned a guy down before. Thats really weird isn't it? I always thought girls turned down guys alot & are picky. Why hasn't she done it before yet? What's wrong here? My friend says she probably would go out with anybody so I'm nothing special then he laughed. Is he right? I feel bad about writing so much. I tend to talk alot sometimes . I think your friend might be messing with you. Take what he said with the lightest grain of salt and go out with this secretary. It's about time you've gotten a potential date. Don't worry about her pickiness. Just consider yourself lucky to have been given a chance. Now keep us posted.
weallfalldown Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 where does she work???????????? :p:p:D i'll tell all my friends.
Anela Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 Maybe she doesn't turn them down, because she's willing to give them a chance? If you like her, then one date shouldn't hurt.
jobaba Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 Um..we talked on the phone & text alot last night anyway. It was both & it was kinda fun. Um...somehow things came up about relationships & she said that she never turned a guy down before. Thats really weird isn't it? I always thought girls turned down guys alot & are picky. Why hasn't she done it before yet? What's wrong here? My friend says she probably would go out with anybody so I'm nothing special then he laughed. Is he right? I feel bad about writing so much. I tend to talk alot sometimes . Sometimes people say things that aren't wholly true. I have a friend (married now) who is pretty attractive, but she is kind of a homebody, but she used to go to bars every now and then. I was having a conversation with her once and she said something like, "Guys never hit on me." Which wasn't true. My friend went for her. And I knew guys at parties who went for her. She didn't hit on a crazy amount because she didn't go out that much, dressed conservatively, and didn't make herself openly available in that way. If she is of average attractiveness and not a wallflower, I highly doubt she has rejected nobody. And I know this because I have been rejected before by women who would get with virtually ANYBODY. Yes, it is true.
Leopard Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 It's bad because "anything goes" but it's good because she gives every guy a chance.
Author NYC-BigKat Posted July 29, 2012 Author Posted July 29, 2012 It's bad because "anything goes" but it's good because she gives every guy a chance. But why would she give any guy a chance? That dont seem right right? I'm a really good guy & I want her to like me for me & it seems she does but I cant help feeling she probably dont get asked out at all so she says yes to me 'cause it finally happened . And my friend is now telling me to give her to him after I'm done. I hope he's joking but he didn't laugh.
Leopard Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 You can't tell who a person really is just by looking at them. Giving any guy a chance isn't a bad thing, it means she will judge whether she likes him or not based on what she discovers after actually getting to know him. That's more genuine. I tried doing that though and I only ended up dating guys I didn't really like and then felt bad about having to break up with them.
jobaba Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 But why would she give any guy a chance? That dont seem right right? I'm a really good guy & I want her to like me for me & it seems she does but I cant help feeling she probably dont get asked out at all so she says yes to me 'cause it finally happened . You're joking right? I would LOVE to meet a woman of average attractiveness who has never or rarely been asked out and so she is humble and doesn't think she is all that and a bag of chips. Are you aware of how rare that is in today's dating world? It's like the golden unicorn. But like I said before, I don't think she's being wholly honest with you, she was just talking flippantly.
Shaun-Dro Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 You're joking right? I would LOVE to meet a woman of average attractiveness who has never or rarely been asked out and so she is humble and doesn't think she is all that and a bag of chips. Are you aware of how rare that is in today's dating world? It's like the golden unicorn. But like I said before, I don't think she's being wholly honest with you, she was just talking flippantly. That's right. Women these days think they're goddesses and divas when they're mostly a 6 out of 10. It's ridiculous. But I blame that perception on how certain men act and put them on pedestals, where they don't belong. Nyc-Bigkat, just go out with the girl and ignore your friend. He sees that you take things too seriously, so he's jabbing you with mock. This young woman probably got interested in you because she has your info already, being that you're a customer at her workplace so she feels safe, and like you said earlier, you came off as intelligent to her, so that's a plus. Now, stop your whining and ask her out to the movies on her off-day, like you originally intended. Things may go well after all.
Author NYC-BigKat Posted July 30, 2012 Author Posted July 30, 2012 That's right. Women these days think they're goddesses and divas when they're mostly a 6 out of 10. It's ridiculous. But I blame that perception on how certain men act and put them on pedestals, where they don't belong. Nyc-Bigkat, just go out with the girl and ignore your friend. He sees that you take things too seriously, so he's jabbing you with mock. This young woman probably got interested in you because she has your info already, being that you're a customer at her workplace so she feels safe, and like you said earlier, you came off as intelligent to her, so that's a plus. Now, stop your whining and ask her out to the movies on her off-day, like you originally intended. Things may go well after all. Um..thanks I guess. Anyhow she text me just now about having off work on tuesday. She wants to know if we can do anything else besides going to the movies 'cause she says theres nothing good playing. I didn't reply 'cause I dont know what to do. I'm not great at dating 'cause I never do. Help . I dont wanna mess this up 'cause she's the only girl giving me a chance right now.
FitChick Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Look online in TimeOut or the NY Times to see what is going on -- summer theater, concerts, art galleries, museums or whatever -- so you have suggestions. Tell her to feel free to do the same because you want her to have a good time. Then you will both decide on something. If you live in NYC in the summer there is ALWAYS something happening. Central Park, Greenwich Village, other places. Then once you've decided, make note of restaurants in that general area so you can eat before or after.
Shaun-Dro Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Look online in TimeOut or the NY Times to see what is going on -- summer theater, concerts, art galleries, museums or whatever -- so you have suggestions. Tell her to feel free to do the same because you want her to have a good time. Then you will both decide on something. If you live in NYC in the summer there is ALWAYS something happening. Central Park, Greenwich Village, other places. Then once you've decided, make note of restaurants in that general area so you can eat before or after. Follow this advice, Bigkat. You got to start getting creative or you'll never get anywhere with women. And believe me, they won't make it easy for you either. If the movies is going to be out of the race, then choose something small and simple like Barnes and Noble bookstore. You seem the type to be into that sort of thing. As for eating, there are restaurants galore in NYC and most are outdoors right now with great weather. Just don't spend much. And you can always opt for a slice of pizza. That's what I usually do.
Titanwolf Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 She wants to know if we can do anything else besides going to the movies 'cause she says theres nothing good playing. Blasphemy!. The dark knight rises is showing
Author NYC-BigKat Posted August 1, 2012 Author Posted August 1, 2012 Blasphemy!. The dark knight rises is showing I made plans to take her to the museum on thursday. She says maybe. I dont know why she would say that when she's off that day. Um...maybe she's loosing interest now?
Leopard Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 ...or waiting to see if anything better comes along.
Emilia Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 I made plans to take her to the museum on thursday. She says maybe. I dont know why she would say that when she's off that day. Um...maybe she's loosing interest now? Maybe she isn't a museum kinda girl. Was that your idea or hers? I think she said about not turning a guy down before because she didn't want you to go all cocky about her saying yes to you. She didn't realise you would get so easily discouraged. Honestly man, manup and take her out on a date. If she isn't sure about a museum then somewhere else.
madjac74 Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 Maybe she isn't interested in a movie or a museum because they really aren't the best places to talk and get to know each other. I honestly think movies are the worst first date options unless you are in junior high school.
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