kansasu Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 Met a girl three times, even for drinks once. I always tried to amp up the touching and subtle compliments. Perhaps I may not have teased much but I felt I needed to be careful with this girl. We were strangers until I approached her. I detect that she may be quite shy and I definitely am. However, the mixed signals are really hard to decode. For example, if I touched her hand in some way, she would not seem to be nervous or mind. But when at the end of a "date"(I really don't know if they are that), I stupidly linger and try to make that kiss moment happen. We are always in public places where either the "talk" or trying to kiss her might seem a bit non private. I know, most people would be like, why has no kissing at all happened at this point?. This whole dating thing is new to me once again. It's been a while. I might be guilty of not turning the talk to sexual things etc. At the same time, she agrees to meet me, but sometimes seems quite guarded. She might keep her bag on her lap for example. Right now, she is busy doing things for the next few days. I am too as it happens. The last time I met her I suggested we would go to either of our places to watch DVD's. She was agreeing to that when we are free again. I got scared at that point. I have had a female agree to this before and she had no intention of trying to get close. I'm all for female friends when your not single. As someone looking for a a girl, it becomes hard hearing how they have just had sex with a guy etc. So, when I went for that dreaded hug(as in I want so much more but am scared), this time she did come in and accept it but I get the feeling I am starting to disappoint her to not go for it but again I could be completely wrong. Maybe public spaces are nothing to do with it and she doesn't want me at all. That day, I wanted to run after her and stop her and tell her everything. I stopped short of this and didn't do it. What I did do, most of the internet looks at as quite lame but I don't feel bad about it and that was to send a short brief text message that mentioned enjoying her company, that I was quite shy and liked her alot, See you soon. I felt I had to do it at that point and knew I wouldn't hear from her for a while. The big worry I had was that I had not properly communicated that like to her and that I was almost if not already friend zoned. She replied a 1/2 hour later, saying talk to you soon. Like I say, we are casual if there is anything at all, so since then, nearly a week ago now, knowing she is busy with matters, I have not messaged again. It will be a while(if ever after my slight confession) still before I see her. What should I do now?. Text her somewhere during this busy period?. Act like my confession didn't happen. I know how stupid that text was but I just really felt insecure about how I had not properly flirted with her. I owe her a full explanation of all this or is that a really bad idea, in person I mean?.
MarlyStar Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 If you like someone keep in touch even if they are busy. It takes a second to read a text. It takes a minute to reply. Send her something short and amusing. Just keep in touch. Going into black hole mode sends the opposite message you want. It may seem respectful, but it mostly comes off as neglectful. Girls believe that if you are into them, you will keep in touch. Text her now and ask how things are going, do you need to send out the marines or anything? and just say you are thinking of her and hope all's going well. She will send something back and from that text you will know more information. Short and polite. Responsive and detailed. Or nothing. All will let you know something.
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