wildewoman Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 I have been divorced for 2 years and have had no relationships since. I made a joke to my girlfriend (who has been my support) that it has been a long time "and i wouldn't recognize a `man` if i saw one". She texted me back and stated "You can have my husband while i am sick" and "she wouldn't mind at all" I texted her back asking what she ment and she stated he would be happy to give me a friend with benefit relationship. I stated to her that that kind of stuff never ended well and changed the topic. Am I wrong to be wary of her and her spouse now? or am i over thinking the situation, did i get what i deserved (as my daughter thinks) or was I being tested? i am very confused.
whichwayisup Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 What do you mean you are being tested. Did you cheat in the past and your friend knows this? So she is offering her husband to you to test you? Not sure what you mean.. Either way, DO NOT do anything with her husband ,even if you are interested in him. A fine way of ending the friendship with her, let alone helping to rip apart a family unit..Pretty sure something you don't want to be a part of!
Author wildewoman Posted July 29, 2012 Author Posted July 29, 2012 Testing me to see if i have the hots for her husband. I am just sad because the trust is gone along with the friendship.
whichwayisup Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 But why would she test you? Is she insecure? You are her friend first, not his. So, is she picking up on a vibe between you and her husband? Did something happen there in the past? It's just odd that she was your support system through your D, and now she's acting like this. Did your marriage end because of you cheating on your husband? Maybe she is concerned you'll flirt with her H.. I dunno. It's hard to give you advice when I don't know the full story behind this. People don't just 'test' their friends with no good reason.
Author wildewoman Posted July 29, 2012 Author Posted July 29, 2012 she had a drunk one night stand a long time ago. I just wonder if her 'offer' was a way of making their relationship 'equal' again. And no, i did not flirt with her spouse. I put up with a lot of teasing on his part though. I was offered many times to "hey get drunk, stay the night, you and the wife can sleep in the bed and i will take the couch". Darn, I am one slow slow slow person aren't I?
Devon5 Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 No, i think you were not tested by your friend. She was only joking with you. Because, any friend can not taste her another friend by offering her spouse. Don't worry about it.
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