cheekysmiles Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 (edited) they say there are plenty of fishes in the sea. that there are so many people on earth, you'll find someone better well, i have a problem with this. my ex and i come from two different walks of life. her being goth/punk, i am hip hop/house head and we are both of different ethnicity and cultures. labels and musical interests aside, we like a lot of the same stuff, have very similar if not the same sense of humor and got along rather well. over the two years as i've gotten to know her, i've come to respect and admire her on a level i had not for anyone else i had ever met. my attraction to her on a mental, emotional, physical level beyond any of which i could expect. this to the point that i became fixated and attracted only to her. she is perfect. a go getter with a strong work ethic & career path, a gorgeous mind, stunning beauty, and an adorable arrangement of piercings. long story short, i messed it up (codependency, insecurity, walls, anxiety). she broke up with me 1 month ago from today and gave me the "it's not you, it's me" line prior to her, i didn't really know what kinda person i'd be into. now i feel like i lost such a unique gem and it's painfully surreal. the odds of getting dealt a similar hand is absurd to even think about can anyone relate in some way? opposites attract or diamond in the rough stories? Edited July 29, 2012 by cheekysmiles
zanzi Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 what do your ethnicities or cultures have to do with the fact that you broke up?
zanzi Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 GIGS means grass is greener syndrome. For the wandering ex who thinks they can find someone better than you.
Author cheekysmiles Posted July 30, 2012 Author Posted July 30, 2012 what do your ethnicities or cultures have to do with the fact that you broke up? different priorities, expectations, and interpretations of relationships. i feel it led me to believe i was focusing on the fixing the right things as red flags emerged. many more flags became apparent once i was able to let go of the outlandish expectations taught during my up bringing anyway, it's more of a concern for future prospects. it was nice that our ethnicity and culture fetishes lined up conveniently which is bumming me out now, after the fact. the bar is set high and the pedestal she stands on keeps growing as i mingle in the thought of meeting new people and find no one else attractive
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