I broke up with my bf yesterday and he's already sending me Facebook messages

[Beatrixx]

I love him very much but I had to end it because we were in a long distance relationship. Although our time together was amazing, being apart from him upset me too much. He was also terrible at communicating via text, etc. Sometimes he'd go 3 days without contacting me. It wouldn't have been so bad if he was in touch regularly.

 

Anyway, he's already been sending me messages on Facebook. I was quite shocked because he seemed to take the break up well when I ended it. We even hugged and told each other to take care.

 

At first he messaged me saying 'Are you ok?'

 

I replied saying 'I think it's best we don't talk to each other for a while. I'm sorry...'

 

Then he said 'I'm a bit confused with how sudden this all is to be honest. You couldn't stop kissing me the last time we were together and now you don't want to talk to me? It's a bit strange don't you think?'

 

What do you think is going on in his mind, guys? When we broke up we we're chatting for at least half an hour about why I wanted to break up, e.g. the distance, him not being attentive enough... so it's not like he didn't get closure.

[weallfalldown]

You dumped him!!!!!!!!............all sorts of crap will be going through his head, ie paranoia about you and someone else maybe?...blah blah!.....Be prepared for some crap, if not then fair enough. Just give him time to sort his head out. But the best thing you can do is not talk to him at all, this will help him in the long run!. if you contact him because you feel sorry for him, you'll make things ten times worse, so don't give any false hope, he'll respect you more in the end.

[Balzac]

My take is he's testing the water for FWB or your female emotions, perhaps you had second thoughts? HaHa. I'd advise leave him alone. Dumping him was your choice. Who cares if he did or didn't achieve closure

Edited July 29, 2012 by Balzac

[weallfalldown]

oh..and it was yesterday?....yesterday!!!...not 6 mnths ago yesterday!, what do you expect?...........me senses an over inflated ego somewhere..

[Ruby65]

I disagree with not contacting him.

 

I think as a dumper, you should NEVER initiate contact.... but you should ALWAYS respond quickly and honestly to any communication you receive from someone you've dumped.

 

Let him work this out and ask any questions he needs answered. Just make sure you're not giving him any false hopes about getting back together.

 

He'll probably decide on his own to stop contacting you soon anyway.... for now I'd give him as much or as little contact as he wants and needs.