kaylan Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 (edited) Anything? Not anything. A person. A human being. A relationship. Love. By that token, do you consider all the human relationships someone has potential baggage? Are parents baggage? Friends? Brothers and sisters? Exactly where do you draw the line? Yes anything. Do I need to grab you a dictionary so you can see that the word anything includes people as well? Again, people dont whine about baggage when its a living and breathing ex...yet they cry when its used to refer to kids. Im sorry, a person is a person, and if exes can be seen as baggage, then kids can as well. Anything (and especially anyone) from a past relationship thats brought into a new relationship has the potential to be seen as baggage. And why in the world would parents and brothers and sisters be baggage? They arent from your past relationship...they are your family. (Fail comparison was fail, try again) Edited July 30, 2012 by kaylan
Kamille Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 And your kid isn't your family? Never heard that one before. Also, English is my second language - but if anything stands for human beings, than what's the point of anyone? In my language, people can never be objectified as things. And I'm definitely checking the dictionary to see if your understanding of the word. We definitely stand on different moral grounds when it comes to considering children baggage or things. You're allowed to prefer dating women who don't have children - but that in no way warrants considering the children baggage. I hope your parents and your parents' friends never made you feel like you were baggage. 1
kaylan Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 (edited) And your kid isn't your family? Never heard that one before. Learn to read my posts with comprehension. How many times do I have to say that bringing something or someone from a past relationship into a new one can be viewed as baggage? Yes kids are family, but they are still something brought from an old relationship to a new one. Parents and siblings are entirely different. So you still fail. Also, English is my second language - but if anything stands for human beings, than what's the point of anyone? In my language, people can never be objectified as things. And I'm definitely checking the dictionary to see if your understanding of the word.an·y·thing (n-thng) pron. Any object, occurrence, or matter whatever. adv. To any degree or extent; at all: They aren't anything like last year's team. n. Something or someone of importance: "You had to be something to start with, and Jeremy never was anything" (Anne Tyler). But it seems you want to complain and read into a literal use of a simple word. If I had used the word 'anyone' to begin with, it still wouldnt have changed the points I have been making at all. We definitely stand on different moral grounds when it comes to considering children baggage or things. You're allowed to prefer dating women who don't have children - but that in no way warrants considering the children baggage. I hope your parents and your parents' friends never made you feel like you were baggage.Again I ask...why do people like you not complain when people call exes baggage? A person is a person...so complain about that as well and not just when children are called baggage. Depending on the person, children will be seen as baggage brought to a new relationship. You gotta roll with the punches and deal with it. Baggage isnt a harsh word, and you have to face the reality. Would you rather me call children an "unwanted dating inconvenience in the eyes of childless single folks"? Thats what baggage means, and you either you use the word baggage, or you say exactly why some single folks dont want to date single parents. And why would someones own parents or their parents friends make them feel like baggage? Single parents dont make their kids feel like an inconvenience, though Im sure there are times when some parents do feel inconvenienced by their kids. But parents or their friends shouldnt make a kid feel that way....however, the single childless person isnt the kids parents, and its fine if they see kids as baggage. Its not like they are going to be mean and make kids feel like baggage, because they will simply avoid dating people with kids. Simple. Edited July 30, 2012 by kaylan 2
boaaaar Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 (edited) So I found on here an old post a guy had gotten from okcupid basically trolling this poort woman. and a bunch of guys said it was a turn off... I have revised it to fit me! Am I a turn off, is this list a no go? Are my expectations tooo high? Let me have it guys!Your list is fine. It's always good that you know what you want. By posting this list, you convey the message that you're a classy, intelligent and respectable women, so all the people criticizing you for it are just jealous. They are probably short/fat/bald/alcoholic/stupid/poor/unemployed too and can't tolerate that you deserve somebody better than they are, so don't let their criticism affect you. Good luck ! Edited July 31, 2012 by boaaaar
ScreamingTrees Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 Jesus christ, someone said 65 items were on the list? I could've sworn only 48.. But I might've read it as 55, so maybe it was 65. Jesus.. I read maybe, the first five.. I could never deal with a bi-polar person having dealt with one for most of my life, and I also think OP sounds quite silly and unrealistic at the least, unfortunately I'm 8 pages too late to be the first one to say this. 1
StrangeBehaviors Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 Where's your list of what you offer lady?
USCGAviator Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 Your a typical woman OP. If I was given this list anytime during the courting I'd head for the hills!! I do realize your making a list of whats important to you and hopefully you'd never have to recite that to someone! Basically you just want a man that's right for you. I see nothing wrong with that.
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