Author APS1988 Posted July 29, 2012 Author Posted July 29, 2012 mad jac living at home to save money to start your life over is the same thing as what i said is a grey area. it doesnt apply. im talking about loosers who live at home with no aspirations of ever moving out unless they move in and live off their girlfriend.
madjac74 Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 mad jac living at home to save money to start your life over is the same thing as what i said is a grey area. it doesnt apply. im talking about loosers who live at home with no aspirations of ever moving out unless they move in and live off their girlfriend. I know what you mean but anyone can make themselves more appealing. My point is that anyone can manipulate your list to make themselves appealing to you. I honestly wouldn't tell a girl that I'm staying with my parents at first. I would like them to get to know me for who I am and not for my situation.
Author APS1988 Posted July 29, 2012 Author Posted July 29, 2012 For me its possibly #12 (if you get aggro over not hearing from me for a day if I am busy/stressed/tired from work) and maybe #30+40 depending on the circumstances of course and the true nature of the woman. A number of these items you will not find out about until you are in a relationship and the honeymoon period has worn off. So many guys will say I'm fine on all these when they first meet an attractive woman, or will still go for it if they cover 3/4 of them, and will hope things will work out for the remaining 1/4. #12. Just means, if you cant see me because you have to work thats cool, or if you are having a guys day, cool. But atleast call me in the morning and talk to me for five minutes and call or text me that night n let me know you are okay! That is what I mean #30-#40 basically. Im the easiest going person in the world, but I have a mood disorder, i take medicine for daily, and probably one day a month I turn into a bitch. Im not even going to lie or sugar coat it, but Im the kind of person that when I get like that I want to be left alone. So if the guy leaves me alone and gives me my space everything is fine, my ex husband though would just follow me around knowing and basically trying to talk about it and then pick fights when he knew I was like that that day. Bc once you know me, you know when my personality changes, my facial expressions change. Thats my biggest downfall, is that I do have that problem .... but all is good if i would just be left alone.
Author APS1988 Posted July 29, 2012 Author Posted July 29, 2012 I have been married and I have a child with my ex husband that doesnt make me a bad catch. And if it does to you, then you need to grow up. I mean Im a great catch bc I am, Im a good person, Im a forgiving person, Im good looking, Im hardworking, Im a great mom, and the nicest person to anyone I meet. So Im sorry if you are so close minded that a woman getting married to high school sweet heart is a low rank for you. And since when do ex boyfriends have anything to do with my dating ranking? LOL. Thats so funny.
dbzeng Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 If I saw a profile like this, I would skip it, regardless of her of pictures.
madjac74 Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 - ex husband - child - mood disorder - obviously unresolved issues with the ex But you're a great catch? Woooooo Why is having a child a bad thing? Oh and most people have an ex and moods. It all goes hand in hand!
Author APS1988 Posted July 29, 2012 Author Posted July 29, 2012 - ex husband - child - mood disorder - obviously unresolved issues with the ex But you're a great catch? Child, while married to a man, not knocked up out of marriage .. so i believe that shows I have morals nimrod. Mood Disorder - I cant help that it was in my genetics but I can help that I get help for that and keep it in check as best as I can which shows I take care of my self. Unresolved issues with my ex?? Dont know where you got that one from because everything is resolved if anything i learned everything that I do not want and what traits he had that I do like. So all in all yeah. im a good catch, maybe not for you ... and thats fine bc you are coming at me like an ass anyways. I have dated enough of them, so get off my post and mve on to something more entertaining. since Im so horrible, quit posting on my ****!
madjac74 Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 How many guys are willing to raise another man's kid? Maybe it happens more often in a country where teen pregnancy isn't much of an issue, but I can tell you that it's not exactly what a guy dreams of. Guys who are older and have kids are more accepting of the fact that most people they may date have their own children already.
Author APS1988 Posted July 29, 2012 Author Posted July 29, 2012 I realise who I am, and I am very confident with myself. And well, honestly I wouldn't have been proposed to by so many different people if I wasn't a good catch and men aren't willing to help raise my blessing that God gave me. You want what you want, why do you feel the need to attack and tear me down? If you think Im so horrible, then move your happy ass on to talk to someone else's post. k ? thanks.
Author APS1988 Posted July 29, 2012 Author Posted July 29, 2012 Seems that you really can't help it when bad things happen to you. You're just a victim of the circumstances. Right? The issues are unresolved because you keep mentioning him every post. I mention him in every post because people are asking why this and why that and that is the only serious relationship I have had for a long time. I was with him since high school. So yes Im going to compare things to him, because it is what I have to go off of, and learn from? What is your deal?
AlexDP Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 I realise who I am, and I am very confident with myself. And well, honestly I wouldn't have been proposed to by so many different people if I wasn't a good catch and men aren't willing to help raise my blessing that God gave me. You want what you want, why do you feel the need to attack and tear me down? If you think Im so horrible, then move your happy ass on to talk to someone else's post. k ? thanks. I think you are being proposed by so many people because you're so much like them and they like that. You ever felt like you were a different person with each of your boyfriends?
madjac74 Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 True. She can try 35 year old guys. But it's still a downer. No matter how you twist it, having a kid is not good when it comes to dating. I'd probably punch you in your face if you said that to me in person. I have kids and have dated plenty of beautiful, amazing women. Some even didn't want or have kids. Grow up 1
Author APS1988 Posted July 29, 2012 Author Posted July 29, 2012 True. She can try 35 year old guys. But it's still a downer. No matter how you twist it, having a kid is not good when it comes to dating. what are you like 21????? Like seriously did you not read what age of guy I want to date? 27-45. Are you that stupid you can't read .. like literally. If I wanted a boy, yeah I could see a problem, but even there. All the guys I know from college and high school as soon as they found out I was single wanted to date me... so you are full of it, and if you want to talk about my child one more time i seriously am going to report you. My child is a blessing not baggage, and if you want to keep on take it elsewhere! thanks
ascendotum Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 How many guys are willing to raise another man's kid? Maybe it happens more often in a country where teen pregnancy isn't much of an issue, but I can tell you that it's not exactly what a guy dreams of. For a young guy who's a good catch it would be a big deal. Why when you can choose the equivalent attractive woman without the drama. I thought I read she was quite flexiable on age, which she will have to be. For a guy that 10 yrs older than her, who's not exactly a great looker or who doesn't have a hotshot career but matches her 50 requirements, then I think there would be quite a few guys who will be happy to date the OP, if she was prepared to have another child with them, and the mood disorder was really no big deal 95% of the time. I know quite a number of yummy mummys who have no problem getting a good looking bloke who have their **** together, the difficulty is keeping them beyond a STR. 1
madjac74 Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 Why is it impossible for you to face reality? If you're being given the choice between raising someone else's kids or your own, you're going to go with the second option. Hell, it's the basic biological idea humanity (and every other species) is built on. Let's not try to ignore that in the name of political correctness. No one has to raise my kids you moron. I and their mom can do that just fine. It does not affect our dating lives at all. If it ever did then we would move on. 1
AlexDP Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 For a young guy who's a good catch it would be a big deal. Why when you can choose the equivalent attractive woman without the drama. I thought I read she was quite flexiable on age, which she will have to be. For a guy that 10 yrs older than her, who's not exactly a great looker or who doesn't have a hotshot career but matches her 50 requirements, then I think there would be quite a few guys who will be happy to date the OP, if she was prepared to have another child with them, and the mood disorder was really no big deal 95% of the time. I know quite a number of yummy mummys who have no problem getting a good looking bloke who have their **** together, the difficulty is keeping them beyond a STR. Exactly. An older guy, not a great looker, not a hotshot career. That's what she will get.
Author APS1988 Posted July 29, 2012 Author Posted July 29, 2012 no alex, i act like myself. I don't change for anyone. And im confident with myself, and i know what I want in life, and grown men, tend to find that attractive! Thank you
Author APS1988 Posted July 29, 2012 Author Posted July 29, 2012 I have not said one word about your kid. As for stupid. How many university degrees do you hold? How many languages do you speak? I'd like to know. Because we can measure stupid you know. Everything you are saying eludes to the fact that you are saying I have baggage. So yes in a nutshell that is exactly what you are doing. I don't need to answer your questions to dignify or explain myself to you. You aren't anyone important and I don't have to give you my entire life story. And you aren't measuring stupid anywhere near me. Could you just leave this post like alone? Do you really loathe yourself that much that you have to talk a bunch of crap on here, because I have a child and am divorced? I got your point you have made it clear. Yes there are guys who won't, and they are misssing out. There are guys who will. So i really don't care that you think i'm a horrible catch, you can take it elsewhere, I said give opinions, not be a dick.
Author APS1988 Posted July 29, 2012 Author Posted July 29, 2012 Exactly. An older guy, not a great looker, not a hotshot career. That's what she will get. You don't know anything about me. My ex husband may be an alcoholic but he owns his own company that distributes to the entire south eastern region of the USA! I make bank alone in alimony and child support, and I am an account for a law firm, so you can kick rocks with your BS. I can get a GREAT looking guy, I've gone on dates with great looking guys who actually want to be with me. Men who are established and are lawyers and make big bucks. Hun. Thanks. The only reason I didn't stay with those men, is because they are are super cocky and arrogant, and I can't stand arrogance. Basically I can't stand you, because you sound like an arrogant little 18 year old kid over here. Are you that ugly, and have that low of a self esteem you have to bash on me? Seriously? And I do not sound like a 12 year old girl. but thanks for that. You are so sweet. Im seriously starting to laugh now. This is entertainment for me. WOW
ascendotum Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 (edited) Exactly. An older guy, not a great looker, not a hotshot career. That's what she will get. When I said that I did not mean she only has to accept from bottom of the barrel. The guy could be a butcher, house painter or manage a shop and when I mean not a great looker, I mean average joe in physique and face. It depends on what she wants in those terms beyond a good relationship guy. A number of the yummy mummys I know were reluctant to compromise on looks or still wanted the bad boy type guy, and they could land them, but the guys would leave after a while or would seem to treat them shabby and there would be a breakup. Many guys are flexible on single moms if the woman in question is better than they could get otherwise, and the mom has to be prepared for that. Edited July 29, 2012 by ascendotum 1
Author APS1988 Posted July 29, 2012 Author Posted July 29, 2012 For a young guy who's a good catch it would be a big deal. Why when you can choose the equivalent attractive woman without the drama. I thought I read she was quite flexiable on age, which she will have to be. For a guy that 10 yrs older than her, who's not exactly a great looker or who doesn't have a hotshot career but matches her 50 requirements, then I think there would be quite a few guys who will be happy to date the OP, if she was prepared to have another child with them, and the mood disorder was really no big deal 95% of the time. I know quite a number of yummy mummys who have no problem getting a good looking bloke who have their **** together, the difficulty is keeping them beyond a STR. Yall are all cracking me up right now. Oh my gosh!!! There are guys my age that do want to date me, that are great looking, that have been to college - that being said- they are too immature for me. I don't want a guy who is going out to the bar every weekend. That is why I am not dating those guys. I have tons of guys that want to date me who look sexy as hell that is not the issue. I want to date an older man, because I actually find them more attractive - they have their life together and are established. The only reason I posted what I posted was to see if those requirements were unrealistic to find in a man!! Not that I couldnt get one in the first place. Although right now Im not finding one with all those qualities, I am sure I will. Or at least most of them. The whole point of the OP was to get insight on how men think and what requirements of mine were out of touch. That is all. I do not need ALEX whatever disecting my life, or you saying Im only going ot get an average looking guy who does blue collar work and will never be anything. Like? Really.
madjac74 Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 Yall are all cracking me up right now. Oh my gosh!!! There are guys my age that do want to date me, that are great looking, that have been to college - that being said- they are too immature for me. I don't want a guy who is going out to the bar every weekend. That is why I am not dating those guys. I have tons of guys that want to date me who look sexy as hell that is not the issue. I want to date an older man, because I actually find them more attractive - they have their life together and are established. The only reason I posted what I posted was to see if those requirements were unrealistic to find in a man!! Not that I couldnt get one in the first place. Although right now Im not finding one with all those qualities, I am sure I will. Or at least most of them. The whole point of the OP was to get insight on how men think and what requirements of mine were out of touch. That is all. I do not need ALEX whatever disecting my life, or you saying Im only going ot get an average looking guy who does blue collar work and will never be anything. Like? Really. Like I said only #48
Author APS1988 Posted July 29, 2012 Author Posted July 29, 2012 When I said that I did not mean she only has to accept from bottom of the barrel. The guy could be a butcher, house painter or manage a shop and when I mean not a great looker, I mean average joe in physique and face. It depends on what she wants in those terms beyond a good relationship guy. A number of the yummy mummys I know were reluctant to compromise on looks or still wanted the bad boy type guy, and they could land them, but the guys would leave after a while or would seem to treat them shabby and there would be a breakup. Many guys are flexible on single moms if the woman in question is better than they could get otherwise, and the mom has to be prepared for that. Okay this I understand and thank-you for being polite about it all. Instead of being childish like Alex over here was. I do agree that I am either going to get a great looking guy who is a piece, which I have dated since being divorced and didn't like at all .... OR ... I will meet a man in his mid to late thirties possibly early 40s that has his life together and may not be brad pitt, but is attractive. I just want a good guy at this point, I want to be treated with respect and I want a loving relationship -- that to me is way more attractive than dating some arrogant good looking ass.
SmileFace Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 I won't to meet the guy who actually read this....my word.
StrangeBehaviors Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 You're probably an attractive woman that's doesn't meet the first number on every guys list.....not being an entitled b!tch. Made sure you married someone that made a high income. The alcoholism was there along with whatever problems from the beginning. You'll say they weren't but it's a lie. Everyone shows you who they are quickly. You choose not to see their flaws for the justification of your wants. Almost everyone does it. "He drinks too much at parties, but that's ok 'cause he's attractive, makes x amount of money, we'll live here, and vacation there." Now in another post you have even kind of boasted that you make bank from alimony and child support. That's just a bad human being. You should be embarrassed of that. You won't be though. Know why? Because again, you'll make justifications in your mind that you "deserve" it. Even though they are your justifications that you create! You should be completely alone for 6 months to a year. Get an occupation and make an effort to decrease alimony and child support received. That's what a good person would do. The few details you have revealed about yourself here are a screaming siren that you are damn mess. I'm completely serious too. Just a mess. 1
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