SensitiveTJ Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 I've been dating a nice girl for about 4 months. We have a very comfortable and close relationship, and we spend a lot of quality time together. Now, before I continue, in my relationships, I am typically "the smart one." I should be, I have a Masters degree and teach high school. Recently, I've become very frustrated with my girlfriend. Basically, she is incredibly uninformed and ignorant about very basic world facts. Both serious things and pop-culture things. Watching the recent Olympics kinda made this point clear. For instance, I expect most grown people to know that "Korea" is divided into two countries. Or that Paul McCartney used to be in the Beatles. And that the Beatles are from England, lol. She wasn't aware of any of these things. - She doesn't read books or the newspaper. I often have to explain very basic news and ideas, and that is sometimes embarassing when we are in a group setting. I suppose the worst example was when I had to tell her that the United States has been fighting wars in Afghanistan and Iraq for almost 10 years now. As, she had no idea that was happening. Like I said, she's a nice girl, but I find myself being disappointed and more than a little frustrated. It's hard for me to see how this changes-is there any possible way to bring this up constructively?
fortyninethousand322 Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 I once went on a date (two actually) with a girl who thought the Ottoman Empire and Soviet Union still existed. Those things are kind of turnoffs to me. If you're someone with options I'd start looking elsewhere.
Author SensitiveTJ Posted July 29, 2012 Author Posted July 29, 2012 I once went on a date (two actually) with a girl who thought the Ottoman Empire and Soviet Union still existed. Those things are kind of turnoffs to me. If you're someone with options I'd start looking elsewhere. It seems like you were in a similar situation as I am. It is a big turnoff, that's for sure. I suppose I'm just curious how this happens-do these girls live in a cave or something? Am I being too demanding, lol?
Star Gazer Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 Korea and the Beatles I could let pass. Iraq and Afghanistan, I absolutely could not. She sounds like one of those idiots on "Jay Walking" on Jay Leno. Does she know who the President is?
Airborne Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 I bet she's annoyed you don't know more about shoes and America's Top Model.
florence of suburbia Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 I could not get turned on by her male counterpart. Goes to show the difference between men and women.
ascendotum Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 (edited) Korea and the Beatles I could let pass. Iraq and Afghanistan, I absolutely could not. She sounds like one of those idiots on "Jay Walking" on Jay Leno. Does she know who the President is? That was going to be my question. Wow this girl is really ignorant. I've had a gf that was not too bright and I knew it was not going to last as I felt I had to dumb down when with her. There is a difference between being not bright vs ignorant/uninformed. I get the impression she is not dumb but rather ignorant and obviously has no desire to want to learn anything, beyond idk, trashy tv, soaps & gossip mags. (but not knowing about iraq/afganistan wars..shsssesh) If she is really young then things can change, the more time she spends around you will help. You can encourage her to better herself but she really has to have that desire from within. As for a nice way to bring this up, I dont know one, beyond expressing amazement with her that she is clueless, but not in a nasty way. Given the disappointment you have expressed in this thread OP, I suspect you wont be proud to have her as your wife and the mother of your children. It will frustrate you too much, unless she gets inspired by you to change. Edited July 29, 2012 by ascendotum
manup Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 I could not get turned on by her male counterpart. Goes to show the difference between men and women. You would if he was hot enough.
florence of suburbia Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 You would if he was hot enough. Nope. Anyone who knows me even a little bit could tell you otherwise. 1
Recommended Posts